Do you suspect your husband is up to no good behind your back? Would you like to know the clearest signs your husband has a crush on another woman?
In my role as a life coach, I am often helping people decipher the differences between people’s words and their actions.
That’s useful for spotting common signs of infidelity, because it’s rare your husband is going to tell you he has even an innocent crush on other females.
Thankfully, it’s easy to spot whether he does, once you know the behaviors to look out for.
So, let’s dive in and discover the most obvious signs your husband has a crush on another woman.
Let’s dive right into it.
34 Signs Your Husband Has A Crush On Another Woman
The more of these signs your husband shows, the more sure you can be that he’s becoming emotionally attached to another woman.
1. He’s On His Phone A Lot More
He might not be honest about who he’s contacting, but if he’s on his phone more than usual, it’s fair to suspect that there is one person taking up a bigger role in his life than in the past.
If he’s not gained a new friend you know about, all signs point to a crush he’s developed on another woman.
2. He’s Spending A Lot Of Time Around Her
It might be that it’s compulsory for him to be around this woman a lot, perhaps because she’s his co-worker. It could be that he’s choosing to spend time with her as ‘friends’.
Either way, it takes a lot of time together for a good married man to develop a crush on another woman.
3. He Speaks To Her A Lot
A good litmus text is how much he speaks to her in a group setting. Does he address her more than any other person? Even you? Sure, it could be a reasonable explanation that they enjoy the same things and he simply likes talking to her.
At the same time, it would also be reasonable to suggest he has a crush on her, especially if he’s ignoring you to spend time with her.
4. The ‘Funny Story’ Test
It’s a widely-accepted psychological belief that someone will look at the person they like most when everyone is laughing in a group setting.
So, pay attention to what person your husband turns to during the punchline, when someone tells a funny story at a party.
While this isn’t a foolproof experiment, it could be taken as a hint that another woman is a threat to your relationship.
5. He’s Edgy Around Her
Is there something different about his behavior around her? Is he more careful about what he says?. Does he act more gregariously, perhaps to try and impress her? Or does he seem to act nervous?
Either way, if he’s acting differently around her compared to other male or female friends, that’s a clear sign of a crush.
6. He’s Doing Her Favors
If he’s going above and beyond to help her out with specific tasks, that’s another sign of infactuation.
A husband should have enough on his plate serving his own family, especially if he has kids.
So, by making plenty of time for her above his loved ones, he’s giving away a clear sign that he’s developing feelings.
7. He’s Distant
Married women tend to develop a sixth sense for when something is ‘off’ with their spouse. They have typically spent enough time with him to be able to see when something is bothering them. So, trust your intuition about this when it sparks.
When his thoughts are mostly about another woman, you’ll notice he’s distant around you.
8. He Has Developed A Sudden Interest In Looking Good
On the surface, it might not seem such a bad thing when your husband starts to put more effort into his appearance.
But, stop to question the reasons why he might have decided to do this…
Most likely, you loved him the way he looked before. There’s little other reason for married men to suddenly want to improve themselves, other than to impress some other girl.
9. He Gets Defensive When You Mention Her
Unless he has a fantastic poker face, you might notice a difference in his behavior when you talk about a certain woman to him.
Keep a lookout for a defensive manner or overly nervous demeanor when you bring her up. It’s a surefire sign that he’s feeling guilty about his crush on this particular lady.
10. He’s Having An Emotional Affair
Emotional affairs are harder to catch out. But, if he is sharing some of his deepest feelings with another woman, there’s a good chance he also has a crush on her.
An emotional affair will usually involve ‘mental cheating’. It’s rare for men to dive into an emotional affair if he’s not ultimately after a physical affair.
11. He Insists She’s ‘Just A Friend’ Unprompted
This is one of the clearest signs of him being too defensive. Sure, he has every right to defend himself if you’re accusing him of an affair. But if he starts convincing you that she’s ‘just a friend’ without any prior accusation, that should spark your suspicions.
12. He Engages With Her Social Media Accounts
If he’s engaging with her on social media a lot, it’s a pretty solid sign that your husband has a crush. This is doubly true if he rarely engages with social media in general. And it’s twenty times as true if he’s engaging with enticing ‘thirst traps’ on her social media accounts.
13. He’s Less Interested In Your Life
Is he struggling to pay attention to your stories or generally show less interest in them? That might be because he’s into someone else.
When they develop crushes on other women in their life, married men tend to lose interest in what their spouse is doing.
14. He Begins Hiding His Financial Transactions
If he has suddenly started hiding his financial statements, that might be because he’s spending significant money on someone else. There could be incriminating evidence in his bank statements.
15. There’s Less Physical Contact With You
For married men, crushes on other women only really tend to stem when he becomes less interested in you.
So, if he’s showing less physical affection to you or completely avoids intimacy, that could be a sign he wants it from someone else.
16. He’s Away From The House More
It could be because he’s spending time with his crush. It might just be that he’s less excited to hang out with you. On occasion, he might actually have to appear at more late-night business meetings. Either way, it’s bad news for your relationship.
17. He’s More Defensive Of His Phone
If a husband is getting involved in emotional or physical cheating, there will usually be evidence of it on his phone. So, if he’s hiding his phone history and call logs from you, that’s another significant reason to worry.
18. He Lies About Where He’s Been
These strange white lies are usually cover-ups for more damaging lies. If you catch him out once, that’s often a sign of something more sinister going on.
19. He’s Overly Touchy With Her
Physical touch is a clear sign of physical attraction. Don’t listen to his excuses that he’s ‘just a touchy person’. When married men are unnecessarily physical with other women, there’s usually something behind it.
20. This Particular Woman Doesn’t Know About You
So, he hangs around this woman all the time, but she didn’t know he was married? That’s a bit suspect. Even if she knew he was married, but nothing else about you in particular, that would be suspicious too.
The only reason why married men wouldn’t mention their wives to female friends is because they enjoy flirting with them.
21. A Notable Change In Appearance
Let’s say he decided to grow facial hair. Or he began dressing somewhat differently. It could be that he’s doing it for himself. But that’s not the usual behavior from married men, especially if he’s not mentioned it to his wife first.
More likely, he’s trying to present himself the same way as men his crush is attracted to.
Related: How To Stop Him From Cheating
22. He’s Picked Up A New Hobby
Again, it could be that he wanted to try something new.
But it’s worth checking whether his crush likes that hobby too. This could be another excuse to spend time doing the same thing as her, or to make her feel attracted to him.
23. Other People Point Out The Chemistry
This could be one of the biggest telltale signs that your husband has a crush. If other people make a note of the romantic energy between them, now it’s not just you who has suspicions.
24. He Keeps Momentos Or Photos About Her
This is another sign that he’s feeling overly affectionate. It’s not usual for female ‘friends’ to gift something worth saving. You should be the only woman he wants reminders about.
25. He Offers Less Gestures Of Affection To You
This is more of a sign that your relationship is losing the spark, but it could also suggest he’s developing interest in other women.
26. He Develops A Sudden Interest In Condoms
This isn’t a guaranteed indicator of physical cheating, but it is a huge red flag. There’s little else that would make your husband fancy reintroducing condoms into a relationship, once it was agreed you didn’t need them.
In most cases, he’s either bought them to use with other women, or he wants to make sure he’s not passing on an STD to you.
27. More Arguments Within Your Relationship
What comes first in the failing monogamous relationship? The arguments or the man’s interest in other women. Either way, if you’re always bickering within your relationship, the chances of him developing a crush on someone else rises.
Sometimes a man will be the one to create conflict in your relationship, as a way to distract from his own behavior, or to make himself feel better for betraying you.
28. He Accuses You Of Having Crushes On Other Men
This is a perfect example of an argument a husband might create to deflect and create excuses for his own dastardliness.
29. He Doesn’t Wear His Wedding Ring Around Her
There aren’t too many excuses for why he’d do this, other than he has a crush on her and doesn’t want her to know he’s married.
30. Her Name Slips Out Accidently
If her name slips out accidentally when your husband talks, that’s a key sign she’s on his mind a lot. It’s called a Freudian Slip. For both of your sakes, let’s hope this doesn’t happen during sexual intercourse.
31. He’s Subscribed To Her OnlyFans Account
If OnlyFans is installed on your husband’s phone, he’s probably using it to look at another woman’s nudes.
There are so many regular women posting spicy content on OnlyFans these days, and even more men are paying to view their spicy pictures.
Many guys like it more than regular porn, because they can send and receive messages to develop a more emotional connection with the creators.
32. He Compares Her To You
There’s no reason for an emotionally intelligent husband to do this. He’ll surely know this will upset you, even when comparing innocent things like hairstyles.
33. He Criticises You More
He’s verbally displaying his unhappiness within the relationship. That’s usually a sign he’s preparing to leave, perhaps for the other woman he has been lining up.
34. He Shows More Interest In You Than Ever
Yes, it’s the opposite way to deflect from his physical or mental cheating. But, when some men cheat, they’ll begin treating their wife like a queen afterwards, often due to guilt about what they’ve done with this other woman.
Frequently Asked Questions: The Signs Your Husband Has A Crush On Another Woman
Here, I’ll try to provide a direct answer to some of the most frequently asked questions about this topic.
Should You Break Up If You Discover Your Husband Has A Crush On Another Woman?
It’s understandable to feel depressed when your husband has a crush on another woman, but that doesn’t necessarily mean it’s over for your relationship.
It is more than possible to talk things through and reconcile, perhaps with the assistance of a relationship counsellor.
It could be a slow process rebuilding the trust, but it is possible. He might agree to stop talking to this woman once he sees how much he has hurt you.
If you do agree that breaking up is the only solution, these guides might help:
- Getting Over A Breakup Is A Chance – Get Over Your Ex Fast
- Can A Relationship Work After Several Breakups
- Break Up Coach – Proven Strategies Checklist
- How To Prepare For A Breakup – A Complete Guide
How Do I Know If My Husband Is Flirting With Another Woman?
Flirting is reasonably easy to spot once you know what to look for. See my list of 41 signs he likes you as more than a friend for guidance.
What To Do When Your Husband Is Talking To Another Woman?
This really depends on the context. If there are no signs your husband is flirting, it could be argued you have no reason to do anything. He’s your spouse, not your slave.
Of course, there’s usually nothing wrong with politely entering the conversation, if only to make your presence felt.
If your husband is flirting and continues after you enter the conversation, you’re well within your rights to drag him aside and speak about it.
Do You Have Any More Questions About The Signs Your Husband Has A Crush On Other Women?
Thanks for reading my article! I hope you feel more clued up about the signs your husband has a crush on another woman.
If you have a question about this topic, feel free to ask it in the comments section.
It would be great to hear from you.