Wondering how to tell if a guy likes you but is hiding it? Below, you’ll find a list of 30 signs that a guy secretly likes you.
In my role as a life coach, I am often helping people understand the subtle nuances of human behavior. That’s why I’m excited to share this guide with you.
So, let’s dive in.
How Do You Know If A Guy Likes You Secretly?
It is extremely common for a guy to not act upon a crush.
A lot of women may not understand this if they’re constantly getting hit up by players.
But the truth is: a lot of good men aren’t making a move on you, either because they’re too shy or too worried about being rejected.
As a woman, it’s easy for you to say you don’t want men who don’t have the courage to approach you.
But, if you’re tired of always being approached by players and bad boys, you might want to consider learning how to spot the signs that a good man secretly likes you.
From there, you can perhaps give a few extra hints that you’re into him, so he gains the confidence to make the first move on you. Better yet, you could make the first move yourself.
Most men will love it if you do that. In many cases, it could be your best chance of landing a good guy all for yourself.
How Do You Tell If A Guy Has Feelings For You?
With that previous point in mind, let’s begin by looking at some of the fundamental signs a guy likes you secretly.
1. His Body Language Will All Have All The Clues You’ll Ever Need
If a guy is trying to hide that he likes you, it’s likely he’ll have the discipline to control his words. However, there will often be subtleties in his body language that give away his true intentions.
Some guy will be overly attentive. They’ll be more smiley, they’ll point their body towards you, they’ll stand closer and generally be more excited to hear from you. Others will appear incredibly shy. They’ll nervously fidget and avoid eye contact.
A great way to tell if he’s romantically interested in you is to compare how his body language differs around you compared to other guys.
If he acts differently around you compared to people he considers friends or strangers, there’s a great chance he feels differently about you.
2. He Shows Off Around You
This is one of the more obvious signs that a guy likes you, but is hiding it. Again, you’ll need to compare how he is around you compared to others.
If he’s being louder, more gregarious and engaging in more attention-seeking behavior around you, there’s a great chance it’s because he wants to impress you.
3. Rapport-Seeking Behavior
Rapport-seeking behavior includes smiling, mirroring someone’s mannerisms, repeating what they say, laughing at their jokes or talking with an upwards tonality.
Men and women will engage in this just because they want to be nice to someone. But when we have a crush, we tend to overdo it. If he’s engaging in more of this rapport-seeking behavior around you compared to his buddies, that’s a surefire sign that he’s developing a crush.
This is a type of behavior that most men can’t help but fall into, even if they would like to hide their true feelings.
How Do You Tell If A Guy Likes You But Doesn’t Want To Admit It?
Here are some more behaviors he’ll notice when he wants to impress you, but is hiding his true feelings.
4. He Wants To Look His Best Around You
Does he put more effort into his appearance when he knows he’s going to see you? This is a more obvious sign he’s attracted to you, so pay attention to how he presents himself.
5. He Ditches His Guy Friends To Be Around You
It’s rare that a guy will do this for a woman he’s just good friends with. So, if this happens, you can take this as a reliable sign that he has feelings for you, even if he’s not making any ‘moves’ yet.
A lot of guys will first aim to spend time with their crush, then wait for the right moment to make a move.
The problem is: for shy guys, this moment can take months or years to appear.
So, if you have a crush on this guy too, it’s in your best interest to help create this moment by hinting that you’re attracted to him too.
6. He Does You Favors
It’s possible that he’s doing favors just because he’s a nice guy.
However, in most cases, he agrees to this because he’s attracted to you. He sees it as an opportunity to get in your good books or to spend more time with you.
Want to tell the difference between a ‘nice guy’ and a guy who’s genuinely interested?
Once again, the secret is to compare how he treats his other pals. If he’s doing more for you than he does for them, that’s a clear sign of attraction towards you.
Signs He Secretly Likes You More Than A Friend
When a guy is nervous to reveal his attraction towards you, he’ll often opt for the ‘friendship first’ approach.
Essentially, this means he’ll aim to become close friends in the hope that you develop feelings for him – and maybe even make a move first.
Regardless of how dishonest or cowardly you think this is, it happens a lot. Of course, there are also guys who just want your friendship.
So, how can you tell the difference between a best friend and a crush in disguise? Here are some clear signs a guy likes you as more than a friend.
7. He Spends A Lot Of Time With You
It is possible that a man has a female best friend who he spends more time with than anyone else, but it is rare.
If he is spending more time with you than any of his other buddies, you have reason to expect he wants you to be more than just a friend.
8. He’s Too Touchy-Feely
There’s a level of physical contact you expect from platonic friendships. If you notice he’s regularly exceeding that expected level, it’s usually because he’s trying to gauge how romantically interested you are in him.
Pay attention to how much he touches you in comparison with other women. This will give you a good idea of how interested he is in being more than friends.
9. He Compliments You
Pay attention to how he compliments you. If he’s a single guy who says you’re beautiful, cool and fun to hang out with, there’s no reason for him to not be dating you. The only possible reason is that he’s afraid to make a move.
10. He Wants To Spend Time Alone With You
If he just wants your friendship, a guy is unlikely to mind hanging out with you in a big group of people. Hey, there might even be an opportunity to hit it off with one of your pals.
But, if he’s always pushing to hang out one-on-one, that suggests he wants something more than friendship.
More likely, he’s trying to create the perfect moment to make his move.
11. He’s Inviting You To ‘Date Locations’
He’s inviting you to dinners at fancy restaurants or for picnics on the beach? This is another sign he likes you more than he’s leading on.
12. He’s Paying For You
In this modern era of dating, it’s a huge debate whether a man should pay for a woman on the first date.
However, it’s still fair to suggest that a man paying for your stuff is a sign of romantic interest. Men are less likely to buy things for women they’re not intrested in dating.
13. You Never See Him Dating Or Even Flirting With Other Women
If he’s going on dates and regularly flirting with other girls, it could make more sense that he just wants friendship with you.
If he never appears to be dating anyone, it would make more sense that he only wants to date you but he’s hiding his feelings.
14. He Goes Above And Beyond
If he’s doing more for you than you’d expect from a typical companion – and more than he does for other women – there’s every chance he’s interested in something more than friendship.
When a man goes above and beyond in this way, it’s usually to impress a woman and show off his potential as a boyfriend.
Signs He Likes You, But Is Afraid Of Rejection
Women aren’t generally attracted to scaredy-cats, but it’s not easy to put your heart on the line and risk rejection from your crush.
There are plenty of great men out there who are too nervous to make the first move on you. If you can give them just a little encouragement, you can be the woman they end up with.
There’s no need to risk your own embarrassment by flirting with guys who don’t like you either.
Simply look for these signs that a guy likes you, but is held back by fear of rejection.
15. He Regularly Stares At You, But Doesn’t Come Over To Talk
Let’s say this guy is talking with a group of buddies, but you spot him staring at you multiple times.
In most cases, he’s either doing this subconsciously because he’s attracted to you or he’s consciously battling his fear and considering the best time to walk over and talk to you. Maybe he’s waiting for eye contact before he comes over. A lot of mainstream men’s publications tell guys to do that…
It’s either that or you’re doing something out of the ordinary to involuntarily catch his attention.
So, when you spot this, why not go over and talk to him? If that sounds complicated or scary, you can start with something innocuous and hope he starts flirting with you. Or, if you’re brave enough, you can tell him exactly what you want. Either way, he’ll probably be pleased you came over.
16. He’s Texting You A Lot, But Not Coming Over To Talk
This is a common scenario in school or college situations.
A lot of shy guys act confident over text, but don’t have the guts to say hi to their crush in real-life. If this happens in your school, college or workplace, it’s almost definitely because the guy has a crush on you. Why else would be shy to say hello to his texting buddy?
17. He Dances Near You
This is incredibly common in bars and nightclubs. Rather than talking to a woman they like on the dancefloor, a shy guy will dance near her and hope she happens to notice him.
Men think they’re trying to hide their feelings when they do this, but it’s so obvious for anyone watching. It doesn’t take a relationship expert to know that he wants to talk to you. Still, if you’re attracted to him, there’s nothing wrong with talking to him in this situation.
18. He Tries To Know Your Relationship Status
If he’s shy, he’ll probably try to find your relationship status in a subtle way so his intentions aren’t too obvious.
19. He Tries Flirting In A Non-Serious Way
This is another strategy among nervous guys. He’ll either throw in a few jokes about you two being together or he’ll find non-serious ways to flirt with you. When he makes jokes like this, it’s usually a defence mechanism to protect his ego from rejection.
Often, this is so subtle that women can’t tell that this funny guy is actually interested in them.
Signs He Likes You But Is Playing It Cool
It’s a tragedy of modern romance that most other people feel the need to ‘play it cool’ during the early stages of a courtship. Wouldn’t it be easier if we were all honest from the start?
However you feel about that sentiment, the reality is that most men will try to play it cool even if they are quickly falling head over heels in love with you.
With that in mind, here are some common signs he likes you but is playing it cool.
20. He Teases You
Teasing is a subtle form of flirting. If he’s regularly teasing you, that’s a sign he’s comfortable in your presence. In most cases when a guy does this, it’s because he likes you.
21. He Doesn’t Initiate, But Accepts All Your Invitiations
He’s playing so cool that he waits for you to invite him out. It happens. If you feel comfortable initiating your meet-ups, this isn’t the worst thing in the world. The most important thing is that he turns up and you have a good time together.
If that’s happening, enjoy it for now. You can talk him out of trying to hide his feelings once he gets more comfortable around you.
22. Mixed Signals
If a guy is giving you hot and cold signals at the same time, it’s not usually that he’s unsure about you. More likely, he’s just sending these mixed signals to make you want him more.
Guys aren’t as up and down as women when it comes to romantic feelings. Once they have a crush, they tend to keep feeling the same way, unless something huge happens to alter their feelings or they decide to focus on other women.
There’s no other reason for them to completely ignore you after regularly talking to you.
23. He Remembers Details About You
It’s not always the grand gestures that signify a man’s true feelings. Unless he’s a hopeless romantic, these gestures may never arrive.
That’s OK. There are often more subtle things that men do to show they’re interested in you, such as remembering the little details you tell them about your life. This shows he really pays attention to your conversation. These can often give you a more clear indication of his intentions.
24. You’ll See It In His Eye Contact
Even if a guy is really good at hiding his feelings, the truth will often be revealed by his eyes. Practice deep eye contact and you’ll get a better sense of his real feelings.
A man’s eyes will often dilate when he’s around a crush too. This is impossible to hide, so make an effort to try and notice that.
25. He Treats You Like A Girlfriend
Ultimately, his actions will speak louder than his words. If he’s always talking with you, inviting you out and treating you like an important person in his life, there’s a good chance he’s interested in a romantic relationship.
Signs He Likes You But Is Hiding It: Text
Texting would appear to be an essential part of a modern romance. It’s easier to hide your feelings in a text conversation compared to in-person interactions. However, there are still signs he likes you that can be spotted in this situation.
26. He Texts You Often
If he’s texting you every day, that’s a good sign he’s interested in meeting for a date.
27. He’ll Start A Conversation About Anything And Nothing
If he’s having a lot of smalltalk over text, that’s another good sign that a guy wants to date you.
He could be having these monotonous chats with anyone, but he chooses you.
Indeed, most shy guys wait too long to actually pull the trigger and ask a girl out over text.
If you’re feeling impatient, your choices are to invite him somewhere, or wait and hope he eventually gets to the point.
28. You’ll Find Clues In His Emoji Use
Look beyond the words of your text conversation and search for clues within his emojis. The eyes, the smirk and the *ahem* eggplant emoji are known to be the flirtiest.
29. He Sends Photos Of Himself
Guys might send funny photos of themselves to buddies. But, if he’s trying to send serious or sexy photos of himself, he’s trying to impress you. At that point, it should be clear he’s interested in a date.
30. He Engages With Your Social Media
If a guy is trying to hide his feelings, he may be more subtle about his social media engagement with you.
Perhaps he’ll deliberately withhold from leaving ‘likes’ and ‘ comments’ because it’ll make it too clear he’s interested in you.
However, you can get a good gauge of his interest by how often he views your ‘Stories’. On Facebook, Instagram and Snapchat, you’ll be able to see who views your stories the most. It’s impossible for him to hide this.
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If you’re interested in reading more about how to notice when someone likes you but is hiding it, check out these guides.
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- Signs A Male Coworker Likes You
- CLEAR Signs He Likes You But Is Afraid Of Rejection
- CLEAR Signs Your Guy Friend Is Falling For You
Any More Questions About How To Tell If A Guy Likes You But Is Hiding It?
Thanks for reading my guide about how to tell when a guy is hiding his romantic feelings. Hopefully, you’ll find it easier to notice when your crush likes you or to figure out exactly what other guys are thinking in the future.
If you have a question on this topic or would like to add some other signs, the good news is: you can do so in the comments. Feel free to include examples from your love life if you want.
It would be great to continue the conversation on this interesting subject.