Have you recently met a handsome and mysterious love interest? Are you wondering about the signs he wants you badly sexually?
This guide will not only reveal the signs he wants to sleep with you, but also how to tell if that’s all he wants.
In my role as a life coach, I am always helping clients learn to understand the people closest to them.
That’s why I’m keen to share this guide with you.
So, let’s dive in.
Signs He Secretly Wants You
1. He Tries To Find Out If You’re Available
Maybe he straight-up asks if you have a boyfriend, or maybe he asks more subtle questions to see if you’re available.
2. He Compliments Your Appearance
It’s rare that a man will do this if he’s not sexually interested.
3. He Looks You Up And Down
If he scans your body from head to toe, that’s a clear sign of sexual attraction.
4. He Touches You Unecessarily
If he’s seemingly always finds excuses to touch you, that’s another sign that he’s sexually attracted to you. Physical flirting is one of the clear signs of sexual attraction.
5. He Makes An Effort To Be Liked
If he’s trying extra-hard to be liked by you, it’s usually because he wants to get intimate with you. It’s rare for a man to put in this work just to have a female friend.
6. He Talks About Your Body
Another clear sign he’s playing the flirting game. It would be inappropriate for a man to do this if he wasn’t flirting.
7. He Talks About His Body
Usually, this is a form of hinting to see if you’re interested in physical intimacy.
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8. He Discusses Intimate Topics
This is another way of testing to see how interested you are in getting intimate with him.
9. He Asks You About Intimate Experiences
Again, this would only be appropriate if he was interested in getting intimate with you.
10. He Talks Slowly
This is a flirting method which helps to create tension in a conversation.
11. He Talks In A Low-Pitched Voice
He may have a naturally low-pitched voice, of course. Still, using a deep voice is another seductive flirting trick regularly suggested to guys. Try to note if he talks in a deeper voice around you.
12. He Mentions “Taking It Slow”
This is a subtle way of telling you that he hopes your relationship progresses eventually.
13. He Replies Quickly To Your Texts
Guys will often reply instantly to a text message if they think a quick hook-up is on the cards.
14. He Boasts
Often, men do this as a strategy to woo women into bed.
15. He Treats You Differently To His Friends
Does he treat you differently to people he definitely doesn’t want to sleep with? That’s one of the clearer signs he wants you.
16. He Always Dresses Well Around You
This is a common way men try to impress the women they want to sleep with.
17. He’s Seemingly Always In A Good Mood Around You
This is another way that men try to impress the women they want to sleep with. Being a depressed and shy type of guy isn’t too much of a turn-on, after all.
18. His Body Language Shows Interest
Is his body turned towards you when you speak? Are his eyes fixed on you? These are often signs of interest.
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19. He Invades Your Personal Space
This is either an indicator of desire, or a sign of being socially inept. In most cases, it’ll be the former.
20. He’s Not Afraid To Kiss You In Public
If he’s OK with public displays of affection, that’s a good sign he’s ready for the next step of intimate contact.
21. He Offers To Massage You
This is a common strategy to ramp up the physical intimacy and lead to more.
22. He Tells Hinting Jokes
This is a risque move, and not worth the risk unless he actually wanted to get intimate with you.
23. He Cancels His Plans For You
It’s rare for a man to do this even for a best friend, unless it’s an emergency or he wants to be intimate with you.
24. He Ditches His Friends To See You
This is hardly a noble move on his part. However, his male friends would usually understand being ditched if their buddy thought he was going to have pleasure.
25. He Travels Far To See You
How far would you travel to just visit a friend? It’s unlikely a guy would travel further than that unless he thought he’d be having intimacy.
26. He Travels To See You Late At Night
Most guys wouldn’t do this just for a pleasant conversation. If you invite a man to see you late at night, he’ll usually assume a hook-up is on the cards.
27. He Invites You To His Place Late At Night
Once again, he’s not craving stimulating late-night conversation. When a guy does this, he wants to approach you.
28. He Puts His Hobbies On Hold For You
Again, it’s rare that a man would do this for someone unless he wanted to have intimacy with them.
29. His Friends Will Know It
If he’s super-excited to get intimate with you, there’s every chance he can’t stop talking about you to his friends and co-workers. If you’re not sure of his intentions, maybe you can ask them.
30. He’s Considerate Of Your Feelings
If he’s overly considerate of your feelings – more so than he is around other people – you can take that as another sign he wants something more than friendship.
31. He Tells You His Fantasies
If he tries to make the conversation intimate, it’s one of the clear signs he wants to have sex with you. Most likely, he wants you to fulfill these fantasies one day.
32. He Calls You “Sexy”
If he calls you “beautiful”, he probably wants to sleep with you. If he calls you “sexy”, there’s barely any doubt remaining.
33. He Locks Eye Contact
Good eye contact is a sign of confidence. Unwavering laser eye contact is one of the clearer signs he wants to get intimate with you.
34. That Spark In His Eyes
The eyes are the window to the soul. If he wants to get intimate with you, you’ll see it in his eyes. This look is difficult to put into words, but you’ll know it when you see it.
35. He Listens To You
When a man wants to get close to you, he’ll listen through the most long-winded and boring stories.
36. He’s Not Afraid To Connect Emotionally
When you have that deep connection and trust, there’s every chance he’s ready for physical intimacy.
37. He’s Jealous Of Other Men Around You
When he shows signs of jealousy, it’s because he sees these guys as competition for what he wants.
38. He Talks Badly About Your Boyfriend
He’ll do this when he’s jealous of the guy who is intimate with you.
39. He Tries To Make You Jealous By Flirting With Other Women
This is part of the mind games which so many men think are part of convincing a woman to get intimate.
40. He’ll Act Like A Perfect Gentleman
Guys will often put on a front, trying to hide all their flaws during the initial courtship when they want to sleep with a woman.
41. He Spoils You
A lot of guys think that spoiling a woman with gifts improves the chances of them sleeping together. Of all the signs of sexual desire, spoiling a woman with a gift is one of the most obvious. But hey, there’s nothing wrong with some old-fashioned courtship!
42. He Buys You Sexy Gifts From The Lingerie Store
If being spoiled is a pretty obvious sign of his interest, a gift from the lingerie store is one of the most obvious signs he wants to sleep with you. For sure, he’s not wanting some other guy to see you dressed like that.
43. He’s Doing You Huge Favors
Some guys think this is a good idea that’ll help women want to sleep with them. If a guy is doing you favors he wouldn’t do for other people, he’s probably trying to get into your pants.
44. He Tries To Compete With Other Guys
If he tries to show you that he’s better than other guys, that’s one of the clearer signs he wants you.
45. He’s Proud About You And Is Always Talking About You
It’s rare for guys to do that for women they don’t want to sleep with.
46. He Posts Pictures Of You On His Social Media
Usually, he’ll do this because he thinks you’re good-looking and wants to show that off to his friends.
47. He’s Interested To Hear About Your Relationship History
That’s unless you’re talking about how happy you are with your partner…
48. He’s Always Inviting You Places
Are you always his first choice for a plus one, even though he has lots of close friends? You can take this as a good sign he wants to sleep with you.
49. He Calls You Out Of The Blue
There aren’t a lot of guys who call women just to chat, even if they’re feeling lonely. In most cases, he’ll only do this to try and lead to a hook-up.
50. All Your Plans Seem To Involve Alcohol
Maybe he enjoys drinking, but he also probably knows the advantages of you drinking with him. That’s not to say he’s the type to get you drunk to take advantage of you, but he probably knows the chances of sleeping together are higher after a few drinks.
51. He Seems Distracted
This is one of the more subtle signs he wants to get intimate with you. If he seems distracted in conversation with you, it’s usually because he’s secretly planning his next move to get you into bed.
52. He Always Has Excuses To Go Back To His Place
Or somewhere else where it can happen…
53. He Plans Date Nights At His Place
If you’ve been dating for a while and he’s ready to sleep with you, he might invite you to his place for a meal or a movie.
54. His House Is Unnaturally Clean
He could be a neat-freak, or he could have tidied up to “set the mood” for intimacy.
55. He Has Mood Lighting
If the lights are dimmed, it’s another sign he’s trying to “set the mood”.
56. He’s Playing Romantic Music
If he’s got chilled R&B music in the background, that’s usually no coincidence. That’s another deliberate attempt to “set the mood” for intimacy.
57. He Always Has Excuses To Go To His Bedroom
If you’re at his house and he always has reasons to go to his bedroom, it’s probably because he wants to make a move.
58. He Plays Intimacy-Themed Movies
It doesn’t have to be an erotic movie, just one with some undertones. If he plays intimacy-themed movies in your presence, that’s a good sign he’s trying to make something happen. If you does play an erotic movie, that’s a surefire sign.
59. A Passionate Kiss
When his kisses have that extra passion, that’s a great sign that he’s ready to sleep with you.
60. He Doesn’t Back Away When You Kiss Him Passionately
This is one of the clearest body language signs that shows he’s ready for it.
61. He Kisses You On The Neck Or Collarbone
This is a classic foreplay move, which women can barely resist and usually makes their legs spread within minutes. Notice how guys don’t do this in public. It’s their go-to move to escalate further.
62. His Wandering Hands
If, during a passionate kiss, his hands begin to wander to very inappropriate places, this intimate contact is another obvious sign he’s trying to lead to intimacy.
63. You Met On A “Hook-Up” Dating Site
Some dating apps are for finding a serious relationship, others are for quick hook-ups. You can tell by how these apps market themselves. If you met on the latter, he’s probably ready to sleep with you right now.
64. He Has Condoms In His Wallet Or Pocket
Some guys always want to be prepared, just in case. But this is an interesting sign, nonetheless.
65. He Tells You
I left the most obvious sign for last. While some guys will draw the lines at hinting, others will admit they want to sleep with you. If he tells you he wants to get intimate with you, he’s not showing mixed signals or lying. He means it!
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How Do You Tell If A Guy Wants A Relationship Or Just A Hookup?
You should now be clued up on the signs he wants to slep with you, but how do you know if he just wants fun?
This is an important skill for women who want a long-term relationship and don’t want to waste their feelings on guys who aren’t interested in commitment.
How Do You Know If A Guy Just Wants Quick Fun With You?
You can start by paying attention to his words. Does he just compliment your looks? Is he talking about a future with you or not?
His behavior is equally important, or arguably even more so. Does he only show signs of physical attraction or is he interested in you as a person? Does he want to spend time with you outside the bedroom, or is he only arranging date nights at one of your homes?
You’ll be able to tell a lot about a man’s true feelings if you pay attention to how he acts around you.
Sadly, some guys will pretend to be interested in a relationship just to get into your pants.
The only way to stop your feelings being hurt by these players is to wait before jumping into bed with them. Give it some time until you’re sure you’re on the same page.
If he enjoys your company and really wants a relationship with you, he won’t mind waiting until you’re ready for it. It’s usually the dudes who only wanted a one-night stand that gets impatient and disappear.
Signs He Only Wants You For Your Body
- He’s inconsistent with his contact, often disappearing for days or weeks at a time.
- He shows little interest in your feelings, hopes, dreams, or opinions.
- He doesn’t want to meet your friends or family.
- He’s only interested in bedroom dates.
- He only compliments your looks.
- He continues to show interest in other women.
- He gets upset if you don’t jump into bed quickly.
How Do You Tell If A Guy Likes You More Than Physically?
If he wants more than an affair, he’ll want to spend time with you outside the bedroom. He’ll invite you on nice dates and be happy to meet your friends. He’ll compliment your personality as well as your looks. He’ll talk about a future with you.
Yes, it’s usually your looks that initially attract men – and it often takes men a bit of time to decide if they want a future with you. All the more reason to wait before jumping into bed then.
Signs He Wants A Serious Relationship With You
- He’s consistent with his contact.
- He’s interested in talking to you about everything.
- He’s excited to meet your friends and learn about your life.
- He arranges fancy dates.
- He compliments your personality, as well as your appearance.
- He’s excited about committing to you.
- He doesn’t pressure you to sleep with him.
If a guy is falling for you, the intimacy will be a lot more passionate and intimate. You can learn more about this in my guide on the Clear Signs He Wants to ‘Make Love’ to You.
How Do You Know If A Guy Is Using You?
As you can see, there’s a big difference between a guy who wants just physical pleasure and one who wants a relationship – but how can you tell if a guy is just using you?
This is difficult because manipulative guys like this tend to be good liars.
The only thing you can do is take your time, read his behavior and go with your gut.
Remember, a genuine guy will be patient and empathetic with you.
Most men do have good romantic intentions. If you’re continuously attracting toxic lovers, you might benefit from reading my guide on Why Do I Attract Toxic People?
Frequently Asked Questions About The Signs He Wants You Badly Sexually
Let’s round off this guide with the answer to some frequently asked questions on this topic.
Signs He Finds You Irresistible
- He never gets bored of talking to you.
- He tells his friends all about you.
- You can tell his honest compliments come from the heart.
- He can’t help but get excited over kissing or other physical contact.
- He wants making love all the time.
- He does whatever it takes to make your relationship work.
- He’s excited about planning a future with you.
Physical Signs He Wants To Kiss You
- He stares at your lips.
- He invades your personal space.
- He has the spark of attraction in his eyes.
- He touches you unnecessarily.
- He talks slowly.
- He bites his own lips.
- He tells you!
When Is The Right Time To Sleep With A Guy?
The right time is: when you feel comfortable.
If you’re comfortable sleeping with a guy and confident in his intentions on the first date, go ahead!
If it takes you a few weeks or longer to feel comfortable about that, then wait!
If a guy is pressuring you into sleeping with him before you’re comfortable, that’s a huge red flag that suggests he doesn’t have your well-being at heart.