Wondering how to know if a girl likes you but is hiding it? Below, you’ll find a list of more than 50 signs that this is happening.
In my role as a life coach, I am often helping my clients understand the subtleties of human behavior. That’s why I’m excited to share this guide with you.
So, let’s dive in.
Signs A Girl Likes You But Is Trying Not To Show It
It’s one of the biggest tragedies of modern romance.
We’re all susceptible to developing feelings quickly, but we also fear that showing our true feelings too quickly can scare the other person off.
Women are the more emotional gender and they also tend to be more socially-savvy. That’s why they’re more susceptible to developing strong feelings and hiding them.
As a man, it’s therefore important to pay close attention to what your crush does, not what she says.
This is the the easiest way for you to notice whether a woman has feelings for you or not
She might be saying things to throw you off the scent, but if she’s showing lots of the behavioral signs listed below, that’s a clear indicator she’s romantically interested in you.
The more of these signs you spot, the more likely it is that a girl likes you, but is hiding it.
1. She Smiles At You Whole-Heartedly
There are plenty of subconscious tells in a girl’s body language that will do a great job of revealing whether she likes you. Her smile is one of them, for sure.
If she is giving you a big natural whole-hearted smile, that is a very good sign, regardless of her other actions.
2. She Gazes At You Often
They say the eyes are the window to the soul, because you can learn so much about someone’s true intentions through their eye contact.
If you catch a girl regularly gazing at you in a group setting, that’s a clear hint that she’s into you.
3. She’ll Talk To You In Group Settings
If you’re at a party or among a group of friends and she still gives you her undivided attention, that’s a pretty effective way to tell if a girl likes you. It’s rare for a girl to talk to one person in this type of social setting unless they have some sort of crush.
4. She’ll Always Seem To Be In A Good Mood Around You
When we’re in the courtship stage of a romantic relationship, we always want to put our best foot forward. With that in mind, an accurate way to tell if a girl likes you is if she always seems to be happy and cheerful around you. Perhaps you’ll also notice that she’s always trying not to show you when she’s in a bad mood.
5. Her Eyes Dilate When She Stares At You
If her eyes dilate during eye contact with you, that’s a consistent way to tell if a girl likes you. Her subconscious mind makes her eyes do this when she’s around a person she’s attracted to, and it’s incredibly difficult to hide.
6. She Gets Physical With You
Women are reluctant to get too touchy-feely with men they’re not attracted to. If you ever spot her touching you unnecessarily, that’s a key sign she’s attracted to you.
7. She Embraces Your Touch
This is a great way to discover how attracted to you a woman is. When you give a woman a hug, does she tense up or embrace it? If it’s the latter, that’s a nice sign that a girl likes you.
8. She Compliments You
If she’s trying to hide that she likes you, her compliments might be somewhat low-key. Perhaps she’s not saying that you’re “hot” or “sexy”, but the truth is: any compliments might suggest she’s attracted.
A lot of women are scared of guys taking compliments the wrong way, so they rarely compliment guys they’re not attracted to at all.
9. She’ll Laugh At All Your Jokes
If you’re looking for a fun way to test whether a girl likes you, tell jokes that aren’t funny. If a woman is attracted to you, she’ll usually laugh anyway.
10. Her Body Language Is Open Around You
If a woman isn’t attracted to you, she’ll often have closed off body language, sub-consciously protecting the erogenous parts of her body.
When she’s attracted to you, she’ll display more open body language, because she’s subconsciously less concerned about you being near these parts of her body.
11. She Tries To Impress You
This is something that most women will do subtly when they like you but are trying to hide it. So, pay close attention to the things they say and question why they’re saying it. Are they simply sharing information or are they trying to impress you?
12. She Does You Favors
This is a less subtle method of impressing you, but again this is something that may happen when a woman likes you. It’s common that a woman will offer to do you favors as an excuse to spend more of her free time with you.
13. She Asks Deep Questions
Most women will stick to smalltalk if they’re not particularly attracted to a man. If she’s asking deeper more intrusive questions about your life, that’s a sign that she’s romantically interested in you.
The exception to this tip might come if you have a particularly interesting life, or a career she’s interested in.
14. She Remembers The Tiny Details You Tell Her
Most men and women struggle to remember the finer details of other people’s lives, especially their casual non-romantic connections.
If she’s remembering the tiny details you mention to her, this could be another sure sign of romantic interest on her part, even if she’s not disclosing that right now.
15. She Initiates Plans To Meet You
Even in this new modern era of dating, women are rarely the initiators when it comes to making plans with a man. If she’s the one pushing to meet one-on-one, this should be taken as one of the clear signs that she likes you.
16. She Prioritizes Spending Time With You
If she’s blowing off plans with other friends to spend time with you, that’s a clear indicator that you’re more important to her than these other things. You’re either a really good friend or she’s hoping for something more.
17. She Teases You
Teasing is a key element of flirting. It’s also a surefire sign that we like someone and feel comfortable around them. We don’t typically tease people unless we feel close to them.
This subtle form of flirting is often adopted by women who want to hide their feelings for you.
18. She Asks About Other Women In Your Life
Another subtle way of flirting, as well as getting information about your relationship status. A woman will rarely do this with their ‘good friends’ for fear of them getting the wrong idea about her intentions.
There’s no reason for her to tell you secrets she’s not sharing with other women, unless she really likes you and is keen to forge a stronger emotional bond with you.
20. She Tells You About Her Fears And Vulnerabilities
Again, this is something that girls won’t do unless they want to create a stronger bond with you.
21. Her Friends Know About You
If her good friends know a lot of the information about your life, that usually means they’ve been gossiping about you. Girls only really do this about men they have a crush on.
22. She Seems To Get Jealous When Other Girls Get Your Attention
Look out for subtle signs of jealousy when you’re paying attention to other girls. She has no reason to get jealous if she wants to be good friends.
23. She Always Looks Her Best Around You
If she never seems to want you to see her without make-up or in casual clothes, that’s another sign she’s secretly attracted to you.
24. She Always Answers Your Calls Or Quickly Returns Them
When they’re not romantically interested in you, girls will always seem to find a reason not to answer your calls. What’s more, they’ll magically find a way to forget to call you back.
If she’s answering your calls, that shows you’re more of a priority than whatever else she’s doing.
25. She Calls You Regularly
If she’s the one calling you, that’s one of the clearest signs that you’re a priority in her life.
26. She Doesn’t Want To Use Video Call
If you video call her spontaneously, but she rarely picks up these calls, this could actually be a good sign. Maybe she doesn’t want you to see her not looking at her best.
On the other hand, if she’s always looking fantastic during scheduled video calls, this could also be taken as a sign she likes you.
27. She Sounds Excited To Hear From You
If there’s a genuine eagerness in her voice when she talks to you, this can be another giveaway sign that a girl likes you. Take care to notice the tone of her voice when she first answers the phone, especially.
28. She’s Interested And Excited To Hear Your Stories
It’s one thing if she pays attention to your stories, it’s another if she’s actively listening and showing excitement. When you tell stories, how does she listen? When we really like someone, we show genuine enthusiasm when listening to their stories and encourage them to continue.
29. She Uses A More Feminine Voice Around You
Does she speak to you in a more feminine manner to other people? This is another subtle behavioral change that indicates a girl likes you.
30. She Giggles for No Reason
Giggles are a sign that she’s nervous. Why would she be nervous if she only wanted to be friends? This is a particularly clear sign that a shy girl likes you.
31. She Hints That She’s Not Busy
Girls do this when they want a guy to invite them out on a date. Most aren’t comfortable enough to ask you out directly.
Signs She Is Developing Feelings
Want to know the signs she is developing strong feelings for you, but hiding it?
Once you’re in a committed relationship, a woman might still feel the need to hide her feelings for fear of scaring you off.
Even if she’s ready to take things to the next level, she might say things imply that she’s totally relaxed about your relationship. It’s what she does that you need to notice.
Here are some of the key behaviors that suggest a woman is hiding her strong feelings for you.
32. She Is Hot And Cold With Her Physical Touch
Is she happy to cuddle and hold hands in one moment, only to tense up and avoid all touch later? This is one of the clearest body language signs that she’s trying to control her strong feelings for you.
33. She Is Incredibly Inconsistent Over The Phone
Perhaps she’s usually quick to text you back or reply to your calls, only to occasionally take entire days off from getting in touch with you over the phone. This is another sign that she is trying to consciously hold herself back from showing her feelings.
34. She Laughs At Your Jokes Instinctively, Only To Filter Herself
When women are afraid of showing their true romantic feelings, they will hold themselves back from ‘letting go’ emotionally, instead choosing to keep a tight rein on their emotions.
It’s a shame because we are at our happiest when we ‘let go’ and express ourselves without filters.
Anyway, one of the most obvious examples of this is when a girl begins to laugh at your jokes, only to pull herself together and say that the joke is stupid.
35. She Makes Future Plans With You
If a woman talks about setting up plans in the future and actually does it, this shows she is serious about the relationship. Remember, it’s her actions that show this, not her words.
36. She Jokes That You’re A ‘Bad Guy’
Remember teasing is a fundamental part of flirting. When she makes playful accusations tht you’re a ‘bad guy’ or a player who can’t be trusted, this is her subtle way of trying to hide her feelings for you.
37. She Refuses Sex, Even Though You’ve Slept Together Before
Yes, there are plenty of legitimate reasons why a woman might genuinely not want to have sex with her boyfriend. Women – more so than men – need to be in the right emotional state to have sex.
But, there are some occasions when women will deny sex to try and regain power or hide her genuine feelings in the relationship.
38. She’ll Pretend To Forget About Some Of The Things You Told Her
Again, it could be that she’s genuinely forgetful. But it might be that she’s trying to ‘play it cool’ as far as how much she really likes you.
39. She Tries To Make You Jealous
This is another power-play to try and mess with your head to regain power in a relationship. This is not a necessary part of healthy relationships. These mind games are a clear sign of insecurity, but they do happen. If you notice a woman doing this, it’s usually best to call this out and let her know it’s unnecessary.
40. She’ll Begin To Cancel Plans With No Good Reason
Another potential way to hide her feelings for you. Perhaps, within hours or minutes of meeting you, she decides you too are getting too close. In this moment, she might get spooked and cancel your plans in an effort to maintain emotional distance.
41. You Can Feel The Passion In Her Kiss
A kiss is a great way to discover how much a girl likes you. In these moments, she’ll often ‘let go’ and show her true feelings. Pay attention to the passion in her kiss. This guide lists the behaviors to look for in men and women.
How To Know If A Girl Likes You But Is Hiding It In School
The odds of a woman hiding her feelings grows when you’re in school and college, if only because doing this is a sign of emotional immaturity.
Here are some of the key signs a girl likes you in school, but is hiding it.
42. Her Friends Gang Up On You
This is one of the biggest signs a girl likes you. Most girls in school or college will tell their friends when they secretly like a boy, and the end result is often merciless teasing.
43. She’ll Sit Next To You
Pay attention to where she chooses to sit in class. If she chooses to head towards your desk when there’s plenty of space to sit elsewhere, that’s an indicator she’s interested in you.
If she arrived in class before you, maybe she’ll invite you to sit near her. That would be an even clearer sign that a girl likes you.
44. She Asks For Help With A Project
She could have asked anyone, but she asked you. It could be that you’re the smartest in class, but more likely it’s that she secretly likes you.
45. She Does Anything To Get Your Attention
In a group environment like school or college when you’re surrounded by friends, a girl will often have to do more to get your attention.
If she’s going above and beyond to get your attention, there’s a good chance she’s interested in you romantically.
How To Know If A Girl Likes You But Is Hiding It Over Text
Texting is a big part of any romantic courtship these days. So, let’s close off the article with some signs a girl likes you over text.
As always, remember to pay attention to her behavior more than the words she sends in her text messages.
46. She Texts You A Lot
With the advent of dating apps and social media, young women aren’t short of people to text. If texting you is part of her daily routine, that’s a clear sign a woman likes you.
47. She’ll Text You About Everything And Nothing
If a woman is texting you with important information you need to know, it could just be that she needs to text you.
If she’s trying to have long conversations about unimportant topics, that’s one of the more obvious signs she likes you.
48. She Cares About Your Snap Streak
Not everyone uses Snapchat – but I’m reliably informed that young female users want to keep a lengthy ‘streak’ with their crushes.
49. Her Grammar
It’s a running joke that the more Ys a young woman adds on her ‘Heyyyyyyy’, the more she likes you. But there’s some truth behind it.
Young men and women have a habit of writing formally when they’re not close to someone, but letting spelling and grammar go out the window when talking to their crush.
50. Look For The Clues In Her Emojis
The kiss emoji and similar pictures are all reliable indicators that a woman likes you. Again, emojis tend to disappear during formal conversations that aren’t emotionally-charged.
51. She Sends Disappearing Texts
More messaging apps now have the feature to make your messages disappear after they’ve been read.
If a woman is sending these sorts of texts, it’s because she’s worried about you sharing these messages with your friends. It could be that she’s an incredibly private person, but more likely it’s that she’s trying not to show other people she’s flirting with you.
52. She Sends You Pictures Of Herself
Unless she’s an attention-seeking narcissist, a woman won’t do this unless she’s romantically interested in you.
53. She’ll Regularly Engage With Your Social Media
If it feels like she’s paying close attention to your social media and regularly trying to talk to you on these platforms, that’s a good sign she likes you too.
How To Know A Man Likes You But Is Hiding It
If you’re a woman and you want to know the signs a man likes you but is trying not to show it, I have plenty of guides on this.
Have a look at these:
- Subtle Signs He Likes You MORE Than A Friend
- Clear Signs Your Male Friend Has Feelings For You
- Signs A Male Coworker Likes You
- CLEAR Signs He Likes You But Is Afraid Of Rejection
- CLEAR Signs Your Guy Friend Is Falling For You
Any More Questions About How To Know If A Girl Likes You But Is Hiding It?
Thanks for reading my guide! I hope you found it useful. Hopefully, it leaves a lasting impression on your future interactions with women throughout your daily life.
If you’d like to ask a question on this topic or add some other signs that a woman likes you, feel free to do so in the comments.
I’ll do my best to reply, so don’t be shy. It’ll be great to talk to you more about this interesting subject.
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