So, you’re wondering if a guy likes you.
The problem? He’s your co worker.
You know that an office romance might not be the best idea, but you can’t help feeling all tingly whenever you’re near him.
You need to know if your male coworker likes you — so pay attention, and you might spot these 21 subtle signs.
21 Signs a Male Coworker Likes You
#1: His Body Language
The first sign to look for is his body language.
Since his subconscious mind controls his body, his movements can give away his feelings about you.
In general, if he faces his body toward you, it’s a sign that he’s into you.
But if you want to really make sure, start paying attention to his feet.
If they are pointing at you, it’s a sure sign he likes you.
But if they’re pointing at the door…he may be wanting to escape!
#2: He Makes Eye Contact With You
Does he lock eyes with you in meetings or across a crowded lunchroom?
Can you feel his gaze burning holes in your head while you sit at your desk pretending to concentrate?
Does he try to catch your eye, even when your colleagues are around?
If he’s always trying to make eye contact with you, it’s a dead giveaway that he’s interested in you.
#3: You Catch Him Looking At You
Sometimes, he might make eye contact with you — but if you catch him looking at you and he suddenly looks away, it could mean he’s been checking you out and doesn’t want you to know.
Men don’t waste time looking at women they’re not interested in, so if it seems like he’s got you in his sights, you can be pretty sure he’s into you.
#4: He Acts Weird Around You
We all get nervous when we’re around someone we have a crush on.
You know that feeling when you start sweating, your hands shake, and your heart beats a little faster?
Well, it happens to guys, too.
That’s because our bodies release a cocktail of hormones when we’re near someone we find attractive.
One of these hormones, norepinephrine, gives us a hit of nervous energy.
So watch out for the signs of nervousness — this could be fidgeting, talking fast, or moving his hands a lot.
If you want to be sure he really is nervous, observe how he acts around other colleagues and compare it to how he acts around you.
If seems more nervous around you, it’s pretty obvious he likes you.
#5: He Gives You Compliments
This is a less subtle sign, but an important one nonetheless.
If a male coworker likes you, he will find ways to compliment you that go way beyond the usual, generic compliments.
If he starts mentioning specifics like “I love what you did with your hair today,” then you know he’s paying attention to the little details.
This is another good sign he’s interested in you since if he weren’t, he simply wouldn’t notice!
#6: He Makes You Laugh
If he’s always acting the clown, joking around, and trying to make you laugh, it’s because he wants to get on your good side.
All men know that women can’t resist a man who can make them laugh — and it’s a subtle way of letting you know how he feels about you.
#7: He Finds (Not-So-Subtle) Ways to Spend Time Alone With You
Does he always “happen” to be in the break room at the same time as you?
Maybe he always gets up to leave at the exact same time as you so he can take the elevator with you and walk you to your car.
Or perhaps you run into him in your favorite lunch spot.
If any of these are happening on a regular basis, it’s not a coincidence — he is trying to spend more time with you.
This means he wants to get to know you better and find ways to be near you — both in the office and outside of work.
#8: He Wants to Know Your Relationship Status
No man is going to act on his feelings toward you if he thinks you’re going to shoot him down.
He needs to make sure you’re available before embarking on a workplace romance — imagine how embarrassed he would be if you were married!
If your male coworker likes you, he is going to try to find out your relationship status.
But he won’t just ask you directly — that would be too obvious.
Instead, he’ll find indirect ways to get the information.
For example, if you talk about your weekend plans, he might ask you if you’re going with your boyfriend.
This is his way of finding out whether or not you’re single.
#9: He Praises You in Front of Colleagues
If your male coworker is letting everyone else know how great he thinks you are then you can be pretty sure he likes you.
Sure, he might be the kind of person who likes to make people feel good, but if you notice he’s talking you up more than the rest of your coworkers, then it’s a sure sign.
#10: He Sits Near You in Meetings
If your male coworker likes you, he will try to be near you at any chance he gets.
If you notice him finding creative ways to sit near you — such as in meetings, in the break room, or even at lunch — then it means he just can’t get enough of you.
And since he can’t spend time with you outside work, he’s looking for any opportunity to be close to you.
#11: He Makes Physical Contact
Similarly, if finds excuses to make physical contact with you, it’s a sign he would like you to be more than just colleagues.
Maybe it’s a high-five at the end of a successful day.
Perhaps he touches your arm while he’s talking to you.
Whatever it is, if he’s making physical contact with you, you can be sure he’s attracted to you.
#12: He Helps You Solve Your Work Problems
Is he always the first one to leap to your assistance when you have a problem with work?
If so, it’s a sign he’s interested in you.
According to relationship psychology, men have a so-called “hero instinct” that makes them naturally want to protect their mate.
This means a man will be attracted to a woman who lets him play the role of the hero.
And if he’s doing this in an office setting, it’s one of the best signs a guy likes you.
Next time you have a work-related problem, pay attention to who comes to your aid — if he really likes you, your male coworker will be the first one there.
#13: You Have Inside Jokes With Him
Maybe you have code names for all your colleagues.
Perhaps you went on a business trip together and still look back on how disastrous the meeting was.
Whatever it is, having insider jokes with a guy means you’re spending time together and you have great chemistry, according to science.
Laughing together is a sure sign that not only is he into you, but you’re also into him.
#14: He Wants to Know About Your Personal Life
If a guy really likes you, he will want to know everything about you.
He will ask you about your personal life, such as your family and friends, and other non work-related topics such as your hobbies, interests, and things you do outside of work.
No man would do this unless he was romantically interested in you — he simply wouldn’t be interested and wouldn’t bother to waste his time.
So, if he wants to know about your life outside of work, you can be sure he has a crush on you.
#15: He Follows You on Social Media
If your male coworker starts following you on social media, it might be a clue that he’s into you.
But, if you want to make sure, first check if he is following any of your other coworkers.
If he is, he may just be a sociable guy.
However, if you’re the only one, or one of a select few, chances are he likes you, because it means he wants to connect with you in a setting outside of work.
And if he goes through your old posts and only likes the ones with you in them, you know you’ve hit the jackpot.
#16: He Takes Care of His Appearance
If a guy likes you and can only see you when he’s at work, he’s going to make sure he looks damn good at the office.
After all, he wants the chance to impress you at every possible opportunity.
If you notice your male coworker always looks good, it could be a sign he’s interested in you — bonus points if he always smells good, too.
And, if he does this, watch his body language.
If he touches his hair, clothes, or face a lot when he’s around you, it could be a sign he’s “peacocking” and wants you to notice him.
#17: His Voice Gets Deeper
A little-known fact about attraction is that our voices change when we’re talking to someone we find attractive.
Men’s voices get deeper when talking to a woman they like.
That’s because women are more attracted to men with deep voices.
So listen out for the tone of his voice — if it’s lower when talking to you than to other colleagues, it probably means he likes you.
#18: He Mirrors You
People tend to unconsciously mirror the movements and gestures of the person they’re attracted to, so watch him closely.
If he puts his hand on his hip at the same time as you, sips his coffee right after you sip yours, or laughs with his head thrown back just like you, it means he’s mirroring you.
Mirroring is a sign that, subconsciously, he feels a connection to you — and probably attraction, too.
#19: Your Colleagues Are Acting Weird
If he has work buddies, you can be sure some of them are in on the secret.
If you notice them glancing at each other, whispering, or looking at him when you walk past, you can be sure they’re in on his secret.
#20: He Flirts With You
Flirting can look like different things to different people, but let’s be honest — you know when a guy is flirting with you.
Maybe it’s the stolen glances, covert eye contact, subtle arm touches and mirroring that we’ve already discussed.
Maybe you have a private ongoing conversation between the two of you on Slack.
Or perhaps he brings you coffee every day, or buys you random gifts “as a joke.”
Whatever it is, a co worker wouldn’t flirt with you unless he were into you.
#21: He Wants to Spend Time With You Outside of Work
Eventually, your co worker may decide to make his move and ask you to spend time with him outside of work.
He might not necessarily frame it as a date, though.
In fact, he may be thinking of it more as a kind of “proto-date” — a way to get to know you better in a non-work setting so he can decide if he really wants to date you or not.
After all, he knows that a workplace romance can be risky, so he’ll want to feel sure the two of you are compatible before putting himself out there.
So, by now you should have a pretty good idea if your male coworker likes you or not.
The question is — do you like him?
Trust your gut feeling and let it guide you to navigate this potentially complicated situation — and share your experience in the comments.