11 Possible Spiritual Meanings Of Dreaming About Your Ex (2024)

It might be ages since you’ve last seen your ex boyfriend or girlfriend. You’re completely convinced that you’ve gotten over your relationship. 

But maybe your subconscious doesn’t agree, and you keep meeting them in your dreams?

In this article , we’ll explore the spiritual meaning of dreaming about your ex!

What Does It Spiritually Mean To Dream About Your Ex? 

Usually a dream reflects something that’s happening beneath the surface. So you might not be able to explain why you’re having such a dream. 

You have moved on mentally and physically, and you may even have a new life and relationship to focus on. 

But the subconscious mind will always find a way to be heard. When you’re in your most relaxed state (sleeping), that’s when it will call to you. 

So what does it mean when you dream about an ex boyfriend or girlfriend? 

There are many potential interpretations. The best way to be sure of which one applies to you is to keep track.

Try keeping some sort of dream journal at your bed – track your dreams for just a few minutes a day. 

Does your ex appear often? What is the context? What kind of dream are they appearing in?

And what is your state of mind and emotion on the day you have such a dream?

This information could help you to figure out the dream interpretation. 

Once you have some information on the circumstances, let’s examine what could be the possible spiritual meaning of dreaming about your ex.

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Dreaming About Your Ex- 11 Possible Spiritual meanings 

1. Your Ex May be Manifesting You

We know the power of consistent manifestation techniques, usually when it applies to us, or our own goal.

But it can go both ways. Without you knowing, your ex may be using manifestation practices, such as visualization or affirmations, in order to get you back.

Examine the way that your ex appears in your dreams. Is it in feel-good, amazing dreams – dreams that you make you desire to contact them again? 

Or maybe it’s a dream in which they’re calling you, and you feel obliged to run to them. These are good indicators that your subconscious mind may be influenced by your ex.

If you’re keen on reuniting with your ex boyfriend or girlfriend, then maybe try contacting them. 

This particular interpretation is quite rare, so we can first examine another possible spiritual meaning of dreaming about your ex before coming to this conclusion.

It might actually have more to do with you than with them. 

Often our waking lives hold the key to what we dream. If you can’t find other instances of manifestation (such as thinking about them unconsciously while going about your day), this interpretation might not be true for you. 

2. Trouble In Your Current Relationship

Spiritual Meaning Of Dreaming About Your Ex
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Try thinking about what your ex girlfriend or boyfriend symbolizes to you.

Your dream might not be about the past relationship itself, but more about something they added to your life that you don’t have in your current relationship.

What is your ex doing in your dream? It could be that they’re always laughing. Maybe your current partner is a bit more serious, and it bothers you. 

It could be a bigger problem. Maybe your current partner is hesitant to talk about their feelings, so you could dream about your ex, who was a lot more emotional and open. 

Often when we don’t address an issue we have, our subconscious likes to escape from our current unsatisfying situations imagining previous relationships. 

The solution here is simple: communication is key. Talk to your partner openly about things that bother you. 

You don’t have to mention such a dream to them, as it may cause jealousy and insecurity issues in your current partner. 

Just maturely indicate your needs, and have an open discussion that leads to a resolution you both prefer.

If it goes well, you could say that your ex is the reason for your current relationship becoming stronger.

3. Dreaming About An Ex You Don’t Talk To Anymore? You May Have Unresolved Feelings

Often the most common meaning of dreaming about your ex is the right one.

Which is that you might have unresolved feelings about the way the relationship ended. 

Did you exchange hurtful words or actions that you might regret? 

Ultimately, your inner spirit wants to heal and feel whole. 

When you carry emotional baggage from the past, it is like a wound that won’t close.

The state of your subconscious can affect your self-esteem, future relationships, and personal life. 

The best way to address this wound is to first admit that it exists. Denial will not make it go away. Instead it might cause issues with your current partner.

Few people would want to talk to their ex girlfriends or ex boyfriends directly to apologize or get closure. If that’s impossible, it’s understandable. 

A mental health professional, like a therapist or coach, might be the next best option to talk to. 

They specialize in helping patients to heal from traumas in their inner being, so it would be good to set up an appointment to talk about it and begin your healing journey.

4. You Have A Twin Flame Connection With Your Ex

Another spiritual meaning of dreaming about your ex is your soul connection. It could be that you are dreaming about your twin flame

If you and your ex boyfriend or girlfriend are spiritually connected, then it’s going to be hard to separate from them.

The universe might be sending you such dreams to demand a reunion. 

It will be hard to find such a person again, if not impossible. 

If you’re not currently in a relationship or single and satisfied, then it could be that your soul aches to be with your ex again. 

Consider the relationship you had together, and why you broke up.

If it’s something that can be reconciled, and your ex is willing, these dreams could be a sign to give it another chance. 

Even if you never end up together again romantically, it would help to have them as a presence in your life, instead of cutting ties completely. 

The twin flame connection is powerful. It is futile to try and ignore or override it. This person symbolizes a big step in your life journey.

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5. You Need To “Break Up” With Something In Your Life

Seeing your ex lover in a dream doesn’t always point to the actual person. 

Sometimes the vision of past relationships is a nudge to ‘break up’ with something in your waking life. 

Do you have a broken relationship with bad habits, or toxic friendships that you need to let go of?

The ex boyfriend dream is usually a good sign to do so, especially if this particular ex doesn’t mean anything to you anymore. 

They’re a symbol of letting go. Examine the toxic relationships, environments and behaviors that could be triggering these dreams. 

Quitting is hard. And it’s not going to be an easy road, but it is necessary for your mental health. 

So let go of this entity that is making your subconscious unhappy, and you will be much freer in life.

6. You Miss Some Part Of Your Old Life (Ex Not Included)

Missing Old Life With Ex
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Did you live in a different city when you were together with your ex?

Did you have a hobby that they introduced to you, that you can’t seem to find the time for anymore? 

Then the dreams of your ex boyfriend or girlfriend might symbolize the absence of these things that you were fond of. 

Think about the things surrounding your old relationship, that you don’t do or see anymore.

Perhaps you miss the city you used to live in, or the hobbies you used to do together. 

Such a dream doesn’t necessarily mean that you need the person back in your life.

But you might have a subconscious desire to rekindle an aspect of your life that you abandoned when you broke up. 

Such a dream might also indicate a time for growth. 

Your ex may have encouraged you to try a healthy diet and work on self improvement habits.

But when you separated, you also separated from those things which benefited you. 

7. A Sign To Forgive Or Grieve, And Move On

What if the circumstances of the breakup were particularly hurtful, swept in betrayal, heartbreak, or even death? 

Then these can cause very deep wounds that you may have glossed over in an attempt to move on. 

What might be happening when you dream about your ex is that your spirit is nudging you into the next step of the grieving process. 

Beyond denial, toward the emotions necessary to move on from the heartache. 

Anger, bargaining, and the rest of the process are painful, but they are not inherently negative feelings. 

These negative emotions are genuinely helpful, and they long to be felt. 

If you’re persistently dreaming about an ex boyfriend or ex husband that you’d rather forget, then take this dream as a sign that it’s time to move toward forgiveness and healing. 

If you ignore it, it may lead to heartbreak and other serious emotional issues in your life.

8. You’re Hesitant About A New Relationship

Say you’re in the start of a blossoming relationship. They’re everything you’ve dreamed of, and you feel safe and so in love. 

But suddenly you start dreaming about an ex boyfriend or girlfriend.

The one who betrayed your trust and broke your heart. The one you loved with your whole being, but who disappointed you immensely. 

Dreaming about an ex during the honeymoon phase of a new relationship can be startling. 

Usually it indicates some part of you that hesitates, that is afraid to put your heart on the line again. 

This dream is asking, “what if I get hurt again?” “What’s the point of loving again if it will hurt in the end?” 

Your subconscious mind fears that you’ll make the same mistakes in your love life again, that you’ll repeat painful cycles. 

But love always comes with a risk. If your new lover hasn’t shown signs of betraying your trust, then maybe it’s safe to let yourself be vulnerable again. 

Or perhaps you still need time to figure things out. It is always up to you.

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9. You Need To Reconnect With A Neglected Part Of Yourself

Meaning Of Dreaming About An Ex Reconnecting With Self
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Most people can admit that those they’ve loved will always hold a part of them.

When you dream about your ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend, it could mean that a reunion is called for. 

Not a lover’s reunion, but a reunion between yourself and the parts of yourself that you’ve neglected. 

When people dream about a psychological part of themselves that they miss, the image they usually see is someone who reminds them of the past. 

It’s common to see a childhood friend, or an old teacher, or late grandparent. But it could also be a long-forgotten ex. 

Maybe it’s someone that you dated in high school, who you thought you’d never see again. 

This person might symbolize something about your school days that you’ve been missing. 

Were you a skilled writer in class, or maybe part of the school musical, but now hardly find the time to write or sing?

Such dreams could be attempting to rekindle you with your past loves.

10. You’re Not Over Them

Another obvious spiritual meaning of dreaming about your ex is that you have lingering feelings for them. 

In other words, you’re not over them. 

Seeing them in your dream, and maybe also thinking about them in your waking life is a good indication of that. 

Were you diligent in taking the steps to get over the relationship (like using the no contact rule, and working on self-care and hobbies)?

If you still find yourself dreaming about them, it could be a sign that your relationship might need a second chance. 

Many successful relationships and marriages have a history of taking a break and taking time apart. 

In many cases, taking time apart made the relationship stronger. Perhaps this is also true for your relationship. 

You have to be absolutely sure that you’ve spent time working on your own life without them. 

It helps to take note of the pros and cons of your relationship. 

You may find that time apart gives you a clearer perspective of how compatible you are. 

It wouldn’t hurt to reach out, to see if you have the possibility to rekindle what was a good relationship.

11. You’re Feeling Lonely

Your relationship was one that took a lot of your time and energy. Possibly at the expense of your friendships. 

If this is the case, then it’s natural to feel like there’s a large hole in your life when the relationship ends. 

Because you spent most of your everyday life on your relationship, you won’t really know what to do with yourself in your waking hours. 

Without thinking your mind will go to missing your ex, and the comfort and stability they used to offer you. 

Naturally these thoughts might also seep into your dreams. If you let the loneliness persist, it will be very tempting to reach out to them. 

But take these constant dreams as a sign that you need to fill the gap that your partner left. 

Cultivate your current relationships with your family and friends. 

Make plans on the weekends and follow through on them. 

Let yourself get busy on your off days, and the feeling of loneliness will not be as suffocating as it  might seem now. 


Why do I Keep dreaming about my ex when I’m happily married?

No matter your current marital status, it’s not unusual to dream about an ex.

For many people, marriage feels comfortable, but also very final. 

Because you’ve taken it for granted that you have your forever person, your subconscious might start getting nostalgic about old times with old relationships. 

The dreams could also be triggered by your husband or wife doing something that reminds you of an ex.

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Does dreaming about an ex mean they are thinking about me?

This might be the case. The lingering spiritual connection between yourself and your ex results in random dreams about them. 

These might occur at the same time that they are thinking or dreaming about you. 

As the newness of the break-up wears off, the dreams may pass.

What is the spiritual meaning of dreaming about your ex kissing you?

Having an intimate dream about your ex could mean that you long for physical affection that you don’t receive at the moment. 

It could also mean that you are subconsciously comparing your current lover to your ex, and the dream manifests itself in the most obvious comparison: the difference in how they kiss you.


In this article, we explored the possible spiritual meanings of dreaming about your ex. 

Some of them may have a more significant meaning than just being about your previous relationship.

So it’s best to take the time to journal and explore what they mean to you specifically. 

Thanks for reading! Please comment and share if you found this information helpful! 

About The Author

Bijan Kholghi is a certified life coach with the Milton Erickson Institute Heidelberg (Germany). He helps clients and couples reach breakthroughs in their lives by changing subconscious patterns. His solution-oriented approach is based on Systemic- and Hypnotherapy.