11 Tips To Know That You Are Good Enough (2024)

This guide will help you know that you are good enough.

It features 11 invaluable reminders to boost the self-esteem of those who think they’re not good enough for a certain person, job, path in life etc.

I’m often using these reminders during my life coach services – and that’s why I’m excited to share this guide with you.

So, let’s dive in. 

Know That You Are Good Enough Meaning

The knowledge you have what it takes to be accepted by anyone in this life.

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11 Tips To Know That You Are Good Enough

Sometimes, your mind tricks you into believing you’re not good enough. These 11 reminders will help you to realize that you are good enough once again.

1. There’s No Reason Why You’re Not Enough 

You don’t need to convince yourself that you’re good enough.  

Instead, remember there’s no reason why you’re not enough.

You can’t question the semantics of this statement. It’s a law of the universe. It’s always there, like gravity. You don’t need to worry about it.

More importantly, you don’t need to prove to anyone that you’re good enough.    

This abundant approach to life is so attractive in itself. 

2. Your Thoughts Become Your Reality 

Something magical happens when you accept there’s no reason why you’re not enough.

Your behavior will reflect that. 

You’ll make moves with natural confidence. You’ll take shots that others wouldn’t dream of taking. You’ll begin to approach new people out of curiosity, rather than a desire to prove something. 

You’ll be outcome-independent. You won’t need anyone to validate or accept you. 

This is so unique and intriguing. 

Most people are always trying to show off and prove themselves. When you don’t do that, your natural confidence will catch people’s attention and open a lot of doors for you. 

3. ‘Not Good Enough’ Is Simply An Idea You Decided To Believe

When you were born, there was no question of whether you were ‘good enough’ for anyone. 

These questions only enter your mind after you absorb negative feedback. 

But why do other people in your life get to decide whether you’re good enough?

Only you can truly decide that.

So, when you catch yourself thinking badly about yourself, stop and question it. 

Ask yourself: “Is this objectively true?”

Also, ask: “Would I say this to my best friend?”

That’s a good question because humans have a nasty habit of being unnecessarily harsh on themselves.   

4. Love Is About How You Make Someone Feel

Men don’t fall in love with your looks. Women don’t fall in love with your possessions or the lifestyle you provide. 

People fall in love with how you make them feel

And there’s no reason why you can’t make your crush feel amazing.

The hardest part is getting your foot in the door. Once you’re in, the only person stopping you is yourself and your low self-esteem.   

5. Most People Reject Themselves

You think you’ve been rejected by all these romantic partners in the past? Most people reject themselves… 

Some reject themselves by making an excuse why they shouldn’t talk to their crush. 

Others approach with defeated body language, an apologetic tone of voice or that belief they need to show off to impress them. 

Then, there’s the people who abandon the conversation too early or self-sabotage because they don’t believe in themselves. 

They’ve already decided they’re not good enough, without the other person having to think for themselves. 

My aim for this article is to show that you don’t need to do this.

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6. Stay Present

Your thoughts of being ‘not enough’ don’t serve you.

And you don’t need to consciously remind yourself that you are enough. 

There’s no reason why you’re not, after all!

So, why not drop all thoughts and stay in the present moment when approaching women?

Meditation is a great practice to help you separate yourself from your thoughts, so that you don’t get in your own way when trying to make something happen in your life. 

See my list of proven ways to empty your mind for more exercises to help you stay present. 

7. Avoid The Comparison Trap

Most people conclude they’re not good enough by comparing themselves to others. 

However, no matter who you are, there will always be someone better than you. 

So, everyone can end up feeling inadequate if they fall into this comparison trap.

There’s no benefit to doing it.

8. Your World Changes When You Focus On The Small Wins

A lot of people get stuck in the habit of noticing everything that went wrong.

By choosing to flip that mindset around and focus on the small wins, it becomes easier to feel ‘good enough’.

That’s why I’m such a big proponent of gratitude journaling

9. God Makes No Mistakes

Religious people take great comfort in the belief that their God makes no mistakes.

In religious services, they’ll often be reminded that if you look a certain way or experience a certain setback, it’s because this is God’s will.  

There’s no question of it being because they weren’t good enough.  

10. Even When You’re Rejected, You’re Still Good Enough

When someone overlooks you, it’s so common to assume it’s because you’re not good enough.

We never consider what’s going through their head. 

Maybe this person is going through something. Perhaps there’s some other reason why they don’t want what you want. 

Not everyone can be chosen. There’s limited spaces to fill a position, whether that’s for a job or to be someone’s life partner. 

It’s possible to not be chosen and still be ‘good enough’.

The problem is: most people give up on their search before making the connection that truly fulfils them. 

11. Talking To Someone Can Really Help 

If you’re struggling to feel good enough, I’d highly recommend speaking to a professional about that.

Therapy or life coaching services can help you gain a clearer perspective on your thought patterns, and hopefully to develop a more positive point of view. 

These professionals are fully qualified to help you gain more clarity over your thoughts and feelings, in a judgement-free environment.  

Therapy services aren’t just for people with depression or other mental health problems. They can be brilliant for anyone who wants to understand and improve the way they think about certain aspects of their life.

Of course, you can get a lot of benefit from talking with a best friend or a family member as well.

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Know That You Are Good Enough Tiktok Song

The desire to feel good enough is so common and I imagine that’s part of the reason why Lillian Hepler’s song ‘Know That You Are Good Enough’ has become so popular on TikTok and other social media platforms.

The song helps people to boost their self-esteem by reminding them that they are in fact good enough. 

Watch the video below to listen to the song.

You can also search for heartwarming compilations of TikTok videos using this song. 

Any Questions?

Thanks for reading my guide.

If you have any questions on this topic, feel free to leave a comment below.  

I’ll search for new comments regularly and try to get back to you as quickly as possible.

About The Author

Bijan Kholghi is a certified life coach with the Milton Erickson Institute Heidelberg (Germany). He helps clients and couples reach breakthroughs in their lives by changing subconscious patterns. His solution-oriented approach is based on Systemic- and Hypnotherapy.