If A Man Wants You He Will Make It Happen: 9 Reasons (2024)

You’re about to discover why if a man wants you, he will make it happen.

The truth about romance is: a man will pursue you if he wants you. If he’s not showing signs of interest in this moment, it’s best for you to move on. 

In my role as a life coach, I am often helping clients better understand themselves and those closest to them. 

That’s why I’m keen to share this guide with you.

So, let’s dive in. 

9 Reasons Why If A Man Wants You He Will Make It Happen

These are the nine reasons you need to hear.  

1. Masculine Energy Is About Leading

Masculine energy is about leading, pursuing, creating and achieving. It’s about making things happen!

If he’s a naturally masculine guy, he’ll want to be the one that approaches the single woman. He’ll want to be the one who makes the effort to push the relationship forward. He’ll want to be the first one to say those three little words and to propose to you.

For a masculine man, it would be weird if it happened the other way around.  

2. Society Has Trained Him To Make The First Move

If he has been brought up right, he’ll have learned that men pursue women. If his parents and friends didn’t teach him, he’ll have seen it in movies and TV shows. This has been the way of the world since the dawn of time and he surely knows that. 

3. He Has Probably Learned That Inaction Does Nothing

Unless he’s an incredibly young and socially inexperienced guy, he’ll probably have seen what happens when you do nothing to pursue a girl. Nothing.

Perhaps he’s felt the pain of witnessing his crush with other guys who had the guts to do something.

That’s a lesson that’ll quickly teach men to make something happen the next time they have real feelings for a woman. 

4. He’s Aware You’re In Demand

Beautiful ladies have a lot of other guys chasing them. This has never been more obvious than in the age of social media. If he sees your Instagram profile, he doesn’t need to wonder how many men are interested in you. He can see it for himself.

So, unless he’s a fool, he’s surely aware that waiting for you to talk to him won’t work. He’ll need to prove himself and make the effort to get your attention, if he wants you of course.  

If he doesn’t, some other guy will. 

Related: Why Does He Keep Me Around If He Doesn’t Want A Relationship?

5. He Knows That Boldness Is Super-Romantic

Women love when the right guy is bold enough to make the first move.

Most likely, he’ll have seen a woman melt when talking about how she met her boyfriend, or how he asked her to be in a relationship. 

He’ll have seen the bold moves that men make in romantic movies, and how girls react to that.

There are clear signs that this is what women want.   

6. He Knows That Bravery Is Attractive

It’s not just that making the first move is romantic, it’s also a way for him to prove he’s brave.

Women want to date brave men. They don’t want men who are afraid of them.  

Again, if he was raised with a positive influence in his life, he’ll know that being a man is about bravely going for what he wants.

Waiting for a girl to make the first move is not brave. So, unless he’s a coward, you can be pretty sure that’s not what he’s doing.  

7. Sex And Dating Is Important To Young Men 

Don’t be fooled into believing that this guy is not bothered about sex and dating. A romantic connection is one of the most important parts of life for most people. If he’s a young man, the chances are his sex drive is high.

Most guys will make a massive effort to get the girl they want. If he’s not making an effort with you, he probably is with other girls. 

8. It’s Easier Than Ever To Talk To You 

If A Man Wants You He Will Make It Happen
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Your parents didn’t have social media when they were growing up. They might not have even had text messages! Just phone calls. 

In the modern world, it’s so easy for a guy to reach out and talk to a girl he wants.

If he’s not making an effort to do so, the truth is: he doesn’t want you.  

9. If A Man Wants You Nothing Will Keep Him Away

Persistence pays off. This is what pop culture teaches modern men.

In romantic movies, the male protagonist has to work hard to win the heart of his crush.

In any part of life, we’re taught that you need a work ethic to get what you want. 

So, unless he’s a weak dude who lacks self-confidence, the right guy will keep pursuing a relationship no matter what hurdles are in his way. He’ll find a way if he really cares. 

If A Man Wants You He Will Make It Happen: Frequently Asked Questions

Let’s round off this guide with the answers to some frequently asked questions about why if a man wants you he will make it happen. 

What Makes A Man Choose You?

If you’re not sure what makes a guy choose a woman for a relationship, see my list of principles for how to be a high value woman.  

How Long Does It Take For A Man To Want To Be With You?

He’ll know whether he wants to sleep with you within one second. Honestly.

He’ll take a lot longer to decide whether he wants a relationship. It can take even longer for him to decide you’re the only girl he wants in his life forever.

Still, if he’wants to learn more about you, he’ll be the one arranging to meet you again.  

How Do You Tell If A Man Wants You?

A man will show plenty of pretty simple and obvious signs if he wants you to be in his life. See my bumper list of signs he wants you badly sexually for more information.

How Do You Know If A Man Is Truly Interested In You? 

Want to know whether a guy wants you for more than casual sex? The key is to look for signs that he’s interested in other things. Does he suggest date ideas away from his bedroom? 

Does he text you for reasons other than organising hook-ups? Is he consistent in the attention and affection he gives you? Does he invite you to spend holidays and long weekends together? 

These are all signs that a guy likes you as more than a casual sex partner – and probably wants to be in a relationship with you soon.

If he’s a super mature guy, he’ll simply say you’re the only woman for him. That’s the best way to start a healthy relationship. No mixed signals, just the honest truth.  

Signs That A Man Is Pursuing You

Want to know whether a guy is pursuing you romantically or just wants to be friends? Maybe he’s organising regular hang-outs, but not making a move. If a guy is shy or afraid it can be confusing AF to understand the truth of his intentions.

The key is to listen to his words and watch his body language. Is he flirting when you talk to him? Is he touching you unnecessarily? These are the clearest signs he wants to be more than friends. 

If you can’t possibly spend any longer waiting for him to make a move, don’t be afraid to ask what his intentions are. This idea might make you super-stressed, but at least you won’t be spending time wondering what he wants afterwards.  

When A Man Is Truly Interested In You There Will Be No Need To Do The Pursuing

If you really like a guy and can’t imagine life without him, it can be tempting to chase him.

Honestly, most guys would LOVE it if you did that.

However, it won’t make them want to be in a relationship with you any more.

In fact, some guys will think less of you if you make it too easy for them. They’ll begin to wonder why you want them so badly, when valuable women are supposed to have loads of worthy guys chasing them. 

They might even think you’re one of these damaged promiscuous girls who aren’t suitable for a relationship, even if you’re the complete opposite! 

Many guys will sleep with you then never call you again when you pursue them. I’m going to imagine you don’t want that. 

If he’s boyfriend material and you’re looking for a proper grown-up relationship, let him pursue you.    

Stop chasing men. If they want you, they’ll be the ones to make it happen. 

Any More Questions?

Thanks for reading my guide. I hope it made a positive impact and you now understand why if a man wants you he will make it happen. 

I also hope it reduces the time spent wondering whether a guy you like feels the same way about you. If he’s giving mixed signals or playing mind games, he’s not interested enough.  

If you’d like to ask a question or make a point about this important relationship advice, please take a moment to leave a comment below.  

Of course, it would be great to hear from you! 

About The Author

Bijan Kholghi is a certified life coach with the Milton Erickson Institute Heidelberg (Germany). He helps clients and couples reach breakthroughs in their lives by changing subconscious patterns. His solution-oriented approach is based on Systemic- and Hypnotherapy.