“The key to leadership today is influence, not authority.”
This quote by Kenneth Blanchard is probably the realest thing I have ever heard.
Regardless if we admit it to ourselves or not, we all dream of being an influencer.
We want our words to matter.
We need our presence to make a difference.
We wish to feel significant.
And above all, we want to be followed, and not merely be a follower.
But how can you do that if people keep saying no to you?
Well, it’s about time that you turn the tables on your conversation.
It’s time that you make them understand you.
Or better yet, it’s time to make them follow you.
In this article, we will learn how to control someone’s mind in the most positive way possible.
If you want to know how, let’s get started!
How to Mind Control Someone Instantly
How long will it take for you to persuade people?
Can mind control work in an instant?
According to author Nicholas Boothman, it is possible.
He claims that you lose your power of changing someone’s mind if you get to more than five minutes.
This is because people make decisions fast.
This is most especially true when it comes to making emotional decisions.
Nicholas Boothman is the author of the book entitled, “Convince Them in 90 Seconds or Less: Make Instant Connections That Pay Off in Business and Life.”
According to him, convincing other people does not have to go beyond 90 seconds.
TV commercials do it in just 30 seconds, while it will only take magazine ads less than 4 seconds to change someone’s mind.
The good news is that such speedy mind control is possible for you too.
How? Boothman claims that the keys to doing these are trust, emotional impact, and clarity.
When you create a good impression through your body language, you can establish trust.
Your message must be as clear as possible, and you have to deliver it positively.
For example, you should say, “feel free to contact me” instead of saying, “don’t hesitate to call me.”
Lastly, stay positive and happy so you can create a significant emotional impact that people will always remember.
How Do You Change Someone’s Mind?
Here are some of the things that you can do to change the mind of others:
Have a deeper understanding of your goals.
Controlling someone is about convincing them to agree with your perspective and belief.
Understand that it is not about manipulating them, as this may cause irreparable harm to your relationship.
Establish the right goals.
What do you wish to achieve?
Do you aim to trick someone into falling in love with you?
Do you wish others to undergo significant life changes against their will?
If these are your goals, you should know that these are impossible and unhealthy goals.
The best thing that you can do is establish a healthier goal.
Instead of making someone love you, aim to let them see your good side.
Instead of forcing them to undergo significant life changes, aim to let them see their bad habits or help them understand why they need to change.
Find out what motivates them.
When you know what motivates a person, you can use it to your advantage.
It will be easier for you to get them to do what you wish.
The best way to determine what motivates them is to watch what they do, listen to what they say, and learn how they think.
Once you have identified what their motivations are, try to determine which is the most important motivation for them.
You can easily do this by thinking of what they value the most when making a decision.
As mentioned, trust is the biggest thing that can help you control others.
You can establish rapport by showing people how they can have a positive impact in your life, providing them with a sense of belongingness, doing them a favor, and letting them see that you are in control of the situation.
Use persuasive language.
Here are actionable strategies to use when attempting to persuade a person with words:
Pay them a compliment.
Complimenting a person before asking them to do something disarms them and places them in a position where they are more open to saying yes to you.
Explain what you want clearly and specifically.
Humans appreciate honesty and clarity.
By being clear with what you want, you can win them over.
Moreover, you can send the message across without any confusion.
Don’t say sorry or make up excuses when saying what you want.
When you make excuses or apologize for asking what you want, you will look less confident, and you will put them in a more authoritative position.
As a result, it will be easier for them to say no to you.
Keep your body language and intonation open.
When your body language speaks relaxed, the other person will feel more relaxed too, and they will not be in defensive mode.
Start your statements with “I”.
You will look more confident when you do this, increasing your chance to get a “yes”.
Show how your request can benefit them.
When you show people that your request can benefit them too, they are more likely to do it.
The Dark Side of Controlling Someone’s Mind
When you say “mind control”, people automatically assume you are talking about some weird occult magic—or at least good old-fashioned manipulation.
That’s because this practice has two faces.
The one we have talked about is all about influencing other people to do what you wish them to do by understanding them and helping them understand you.
And there’s the dark side which is all about manipulation.
Some don’t know how to ask what they want in the right and direct manner.
As a result, they resort to manipulation, which is psychologically and emotionally unhealthy for both persons involved.
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How Can You Tell if Someone is Controlling Your Mind?
Have you been in an encounter or relationship where you have felt pressured and controlled?
If yes, it might be because you’re being manipulated, which is perhaps the opposite of love.
Here are some signs to watch out for:
You keep on questioning yourself.
Gaslighting is the term used to refer to the type of manipulation that causes people to question their reality, thoughts, intentions, beliefs, memory, and above all—themselves.
One of the ways a person can manipulate you is by twisting your action and words and making you feel as if you’ve done something wrong.
If you find yourself feeling guilty or defensive when you are not sure you are, you are being manipulated.
You feel afraid, guilty, and obligated.
Fear, guilt, and obligation—these are three things that a manipulative person capitalizes on.
Another way manipulative people work is by playing the victim so that the other person will feel scared, guilty, or obligated to obey them.
If you find yourself in this position, you are being manipulated.
Mind Control Reversal Tips That You Need to Know
If you exhibit the above mentioned signs, what should you do?
That would depend on the type of manipulation you are experiencing.
If you’re being gaslighted, the best thing that you can do is join a support group that will provide you with counterpoints that will help you understand that what you’re experiencing is not normal and wrong.
For other types of manipulation, establishing boundaries is one of the best ways to reverse mind control.
Another way you can use is to delay your response so you can gain a better perspective on what is happening to you and around you.
Are You Evil Because of Your Wish?
Does your wish to control someone make you evil?
As we have talked about, mind control has two sides—the good and the bad.
Everything would depend on your intention and the manner in which you do it.
What is your motivation and reason behind controlling someone?
If you wish to control people so they can do things that are good for them, you are not evil.
But if you’re going to change the ways other people think in a harmful manner, then you may want to rethink your move.
Mind control is a powerful weapon, and how you use it matters too!
Instead of trying to manipulate people, the best, most effective, and least evil way to control someone is to talk openly with them.
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