11 Insights – What Does It Mean When a Guy Says He Thinks About You? (2021)

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A man just told you that he’s been thinking a lot about you in the past few days. You’re now wondering what he means?

  • Does he like you?
  • Is he just trying to sleep with you? or
  • Does he miss you?

Today’s post will answer these questions. In this article, we answer the question “what does it mean when a guy says he thinks about you?”

Here’s what you learn.

Let’s get right into it.

What Does It Mean When a Guy Says He Thinks About You?

What Does it Mean When a Guy Says He Thinks about You?

#1. You’re Always on His Mind

One of the most literal explanations to the statement that a guy thinks about you is that you’re always on his mind.

It means that he’s constantly thinking about what you’re up to, your daily activities, and what it is like in your life.

If a man tells you that things around him remind him of you, it means that you’re always in his mind.

If you’re always on his mind, high chances are you’re the subject of his daydreams.

#2. Uses It as An Ice-Breaker for Staying Out of Contactt

If you’ve been wondering what he means when a guy says that he thinks about you, it could be because the two of you haven’t talked in days.

Many men will use this as an ice-breaker for getting back into contact with someone they’re interested in.  

Let’s take the example of a guy who suddenly stopped talking to you but doesn’t know how to start the conversation again.

Rather than coming up and owning up to his mistake, which could be that he was a jerk and didn’t know or wasn’t sure if the two of would work out together; the guy will start the conversation by telling you that he’s been thinking a lot about you and has been meaning to contact you but has been busy.

If you respond to this guy, he might go ahead and apologize, then reassure you that it won’t happen again.  

#3. He Has a Crush on You

When a man tells you that he’s been thinking about you, chances are he has a genuine interest in you.

When a man has a crush on you, he’ll constantly be thinking of you. He’ll be thinking of how to make you smile, thinking of how beautiful you are, or even about something you said.

However, rather than coming out and saying he has a crush on you, he’ll tell you that he’s been thinking about you.

However, if you know the common signs men exhibit when they like a girl, it won’t be hard for you to decipher his coded message..

If you don’t know the signs, here are a few common signs that he might like you:

  • He’s nervous around you
  • He playfully touches or hits you
  • He’s constantly looking at you.

#4. He Could be Trying to Find Out How You Feel About Him.

Let’s be honest!

Most men aren’t very straightforward when it comes to expressing their feelings. They don’t like being vulnerable.

This is why a man that has a crush on you will tell you that he thinks about you in a bid to find out how you feel about him.

How you respond to this statement will give him a good understanding of how you feel about him.

If you tell him what he wants to hear, it means that there’s a good chance of the two of you working out together.

However, if your response isn’t what he wants to hear, this will give him an idea of how far he can go with his feelings for you.  

Keep reading this article to learn more about how to respond to a guy telling you that he thinks about you.

#5. He Wants to Have Sex with You

There are a lot of sleazy men out there.

They’ll say anything to get you to bed. They’ll sugarcoat their personalities just to get you to appear friendly so that you can like them.

And the worst part!’

These guys don’t intend to be in your life for long. In most cases, they’re just looking for sexual gratification.

Such guys might tell you that they’ve been thinking about you just to get in your pants.

Don’t fall for such talk. Here are some signs to look out for that he only wants sex from you:

  • Every time you meet, he introduces a lot of sexual innuendos
  • He only calls you in the late night
  • He’s not spending any money on you
  • You only meet by his terms
  • You haven’t met any of his friends

Check out our article here to find out if he just wants to sleep with you or wants to make love to you.

#6. Something Terrible has Happened to Him

When a man gets hurt, bored, dumped, lonely, or bankrupt, he’s likely to seek happiness from external sources.

By telling you that he’s been thinking about you, he could be trying to distract his mind from the bad things happening in his life.

To assess if he thinks of you to escape his current reality, try asking him what it is that makes him think about you. This will help clarify if the thought of you has any real meaning or is just a means to an escape.

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#7. He Might be Yearning for Some Connection from You

If a man starts to think about you beyond what is normal, it could be that he’s craving for a connection with you.

If a guy feels lonely, he’ll try anything to build a connection with someone.

Telling you that he’s been thinking of you doesn’t necessarily mean that he wants to create a romantic connection.

Maybe all he wants is someone to fill the loneliness void, and by telling you that he’s been thinking of you, he sees you as the perfect person to fill the void.

#8. Could be an Ex Trying to Get Back Together with You

Some men might find it hard to get over what was once there.

This means that even if he’s on a rebound, he might still be thinking of you trying to figure out what went wrong and what could have been done differently.

By telling you that he thinks about you, some guys are looking for validation or a free therapy session from you.

If such a situation happens, think back to how things ended between the two of you.

Some of the things to think about when your ex texts you that he misses you include:

  • Why did you guys decide to end the relationship?
  • Is the relationship redeemable?
  • How special is he in your life?
  • Has he changed?

Be very cautious of an ex who comes out of the blues and tells you that he’s been thinking of you. In most instances, he could be messing with your feelings or is just after some familiar sex.

Check out our article to learn if your ex really misses you.

#9. He Misses You and the Good Times

Just like the saying goes, “absence makes the heart grow fonder.”

Your absence could be the reason why a guy might text or call you to tell you that he thinks about you.

If it’s an old friend whom you haven’t talked to in a while, he could be relieving the memories you guys created in his mind, which may prompt him to text you.

He may even tell you that he thinks about the good times shared with you.

#10. He’s Concerned about You.

A guy may also say that he thinks about you if he’s thinking about what a great person you are and what your future holds.

He might want to see how you’re doing or what new things have happened in your life lately; making him text or call you just to find out what’s up with you.

Sometimes, it’s not as complicated. He could just be concerned about you.

#11. Uses it as a Trick to Make you Fall Harder

Some guys use this statement as a trick to make you fall harder for them.

If he knows that his words can cause your heart to flutter, what better way is there than using it against you?

He might even tell you that he thinks about the good times shared with you because of how much more effective those words are to make you fall for him.

He may even go further and tell you that he thought of you first thing in the morning in a bid to push you further to like him.

What Does It Mean When a Guy Says He Thinks About You?
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How to Know if a Guy Thinks About You

Not every guy who tells you that he thinks about you means what he says.

So how do you know he means what he says? Here are a few signs:

He’s Always Happy to See You

If you’re always on his mind, he’ll be happy to see you. As soon as he sees your face, a big smile will appear.

He often asks if it’s okay for him to come over, even in unexpected times. When you’re with him, he’s ever happy, and he always looks forward to the two of you meeting.

If you notice such signs in a guy who tells you that he’s been thinking of you, high chances are that this is true.

His Friends and Family Know About You

As explained above, when a guy says that he thinks about you, he could have a crush on you.

If that’s the case, one or several of his friends and family members already know a thing or two about you.

So, if a guy says he thinks about you, and none of his friends know you, there’s a high chance he’s not sincere.

If you’re always on his mind, he must have mentioned you once or twice to his friends.

He Wants to Get to Know You Better

When a guy says that he thinks about you, what’s next?

Well, if he has any feelings for you at all, the next step is to want to get to know more about you and see how compatible the two of you are.

He Asks Your Opinion and Listens to Your Responses

One sign that a guy is thinking about you is that he asks for your opinion and listens carefully.

He doesn’t just ask what you think and not care what your response is.

If he likes you, he’ll be trying to figure out how well the two of you work together by listening carefully to what you have to say.

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He Takes an Interest in Your Likes

When you think about someone, you often think about what they like, their hobbies, and other interests.

Therefore, if a guy tells you that he thinks about you but has little interest in your likes, he’s probably lying.

If he’s always asking about your likes, takes an interest in your hobbies, he’s sincere when he says he thinks about you.

He Remembers Things you Told Him.

A guy who thinks about you will remember specific things you told him.

This includes remembering how you take your coffee and other things you could have told him.

He’s not just thinking about what you’re like, but what your personality is and what makes you unique.

If he remembers the little things that matter to you most, chances are he does think about everything else in between as well.

Now that you know how to know if a guy thinks about you, how do you respond?

Keep reading to learn more.

How to Respond When a Guy Tells You That He Thinks About You

When a guy tells you that he thinks about you, one of the first things on your mind is, “What do I say?”

The answer to this question will depend on how close the two of you are or how you feel about him.

If you’re interested in the guy, you can go ahead and tell him that you’ve also been thinking about him. This may lead to him asking you out for a date.

If you don’t feel the same way, go ahead, and tell him that you’re not interested in anything more than just being friends.

Be sure to make it very clear.

There’s nothing worse than him thinking you’re interested and then finding out that it wasn’t what he thought.

If you’re not interested in him, be honest about what he means to you.

And if you are interested but want to take things slowly, tell him what your intentions are and what pace you’d like the relationship to move forward.

FAQs

When a Guy Says He Cares about You, does it Mean that He is in Love with You?

Not necessarily!

A guy could be caring about you without being in love. He might care what happens to you and what the two of you are doing together, but not necessarily feel romantic feelings for you just yet.

A guy could also tell you that he cares about you if he has a crush on you.

What Does It Mean When a Guy Says He Misses You?

It could mean that he’s thinking about what you’re doing and misses spending time with you.

However, it can also be a way of him getting closer to you by telling you what he likes best by being around the two of you together.

Just like telling you he thinks about you, a guy could say that he misses you just to sleep with you.

He could also tell you that he misses you to break the ice after not talking to you for a while or even to gauge how you feel about him.

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Any Further Questions

There you go.

Now you know the answer to the question, “What Does It Mean When a Guy Says He Thinks About You?”

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