Take personal responsibility for your life. Own your shit.
Many of us tend to blame things that aren’t working on someone or something else. Let’s be honest with ourselves.
Once we do that, we can use our brilliant subconscious selves to pull it all together using these hacks.
Let’s dive right into it.
Get Your Life Together Checklist
#1: Assess Your Situation
Start writing things down. Look at different areas of your life. Whether it’s
career, finances, relationships, living space, mindset etc. see what’s working and what’s not.
#2: Start Small
Sometimes the biggest things are not the best to start with because they can lead to overwhelm.
If we begin with smaller issues and work our way through those, the bigger ones could take care of themselves or we get clear on how best to pull that shit together.
#3: Become More Mindful
A good way to start weeding a garden is to take a step back and mindfully observe where the shit might be hiding before you mindlessly step in it.
Like the garden, we’re not always aware of our thoughts and actions because most of them are run by our subconscious.
By mindfully paying attention to our overall state of being we can catch the space between thoughts and question them. “I’ll weed the garden tomorrow. Why do I keep procrastinating?”
#4: Purge The Shit – I Mean Clutter!
When our space is cluttered, our mind is cluttered.
If you have closets or rooms filled with old, unused, or unloved things, understand that this is something your subconscious is trying to avoid.
Clearing clutter can actually help you release old, worn out beliefs, leaving room for new beliefs more current with your present mindset to settle in.
As Marie Kondo, an expert on tidying, says, “Ask yourself, does it spark joy?”
Whether it’s a closet, your day, or your finances, organize it so it makes the most sense for you.
#6: Create A System
Having a system or method can often work best.
When you’re organizing your day think about a system to suit you and your activities for that day.
#7: Step Back and Reassess
Now that you have cleared the clutter, take a step back and reassess your situation.
Do you like what you’ve accomplished? What have you managed to clear off your list? Is this working better for you?
This hack, you’ll come back to often. It confirms you are beginning to get your shit Together and inspire you to keep going.
#8: Stir Up The Shit
If it’s not quite right yet, then stir up the shit. It’s alright if it’s not perfect in the first go.
Make the changes you require. Turn the whole thing upside down if necessary. Think outside the box.
If exercising first thing in the morning is not working for you, causing more stress than ease, then try it later in the day. Maybe even try a new type of exercise!
Stir things up so the pieces fall in the right places – for you.
#9: Determine Your Goal
When assessing the various categories in your life determine the end goal. How do you choose to see yourself in that area?
Be creative and open to possibilities. If your goal is for your highest good and benefits others, the only obstacles will be your beliefs about your success.
Remind yourself that “I am enough” and get your shit together.
#10: Begin With The End In Mind
Begin at the end then work backwards step by step. What steps are required to be in place so you are going towards your ideal outcome?
Take action on them one at a time.
#11: Set An Intention
Setting an intention sends a message to the Universe that you’re serious about moving forward in this area of your life.
You may like how the Universe will conspire to support your best outcome.
#12: Be Mindful Of Your Focused Attention
Throughout your day look at where your attention is. How much of it is in wasteful even degrading pursuits?
Purposefully write down how much time you spend on social media, listening to gossip, adult movies, etc. These can cause you to veer off track from your original goal.
#13: Meeting Life
Many of the situations in our lives occur because of the mindset we bring to it.
Do you greet your day with joy and gratitude or doom and gloom? This is fully within our control to choose.
Pay attention to those thoughts upon waking every morning and consider whether they’re really something you’d like to keep doing.
Everyday we meet people we don’t necessarily have any familiarity with, other than they are a cashier at the grocery store or a waiter at the restaurant.
Take two minutes to ask how they’re doing, call them by name, offer them the opportunity to be seen. This creates an emotional connection you can initiate each day.
#15: Take A Look At Your Actions
Make note of your day from the time you wake up to the time you go to bed. Do you like the direction your actions are taking you in?
Determine whether they’re helping you move towards the goals you’ve written down or away from them.
If you really want to get your shit together, your decisions are required to be in line with moving you forward towards your goal.
#16: Be Responsive Rather Than Reactive
Life throws us curves so we can assess how we’re doing. It could be an argument with a coworker, or family member, or someone says or does something that feels hurtful.
Rather than just reacting, offer yourself the time to breathe and settle into your body before you react. This offers you the choice to respond more effectively to the situation.
You may find a deeper well of understanding or compassion within you. Situations are not always as they seem at face value.
#17: Focus On What You Can Control
As in the famous quote in The Serenity Prayer, written by the American theologian Reinhold Niebuhr, “God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference.”
Focus on the shit you can control. This is where the power to get your life together lies. Be realistic about what is in your power to shift.
#18: How Do You Want To Be Remembered?
Rarely do we remember specifics about a long past event or interaction with a person.
We usually remember what someone made us feel like. The embodied emotions of their experience with you are what will remain with them.
So think about the feeling you want to leave people with and set that intention.
Related: Emotional Reactivity – 5 Ways To Be More Mature
#20: Dream Big!
Once you’ve gotten a handle on what you do want in life and let go of what you don’t want, amplify it. If there were no obstacles, how far could you go with it? Dream big!
This is not just fantasy. If that thought comes up, recognize it and release it. This is creating. You are creating your journey, make it on purpose.
#21: Don’t Let Self Doubt Get In The Way
You know that little voice in your head saying, “What makes you think this time it’ll work?”, “Who do you think you are?”, “You know nothing about this.”, and so on?
Don’t let this little voice keep running your life. It’s there with the mistaken view it’ll protect you from some perceived hurt or danger.
In reality, it’s not letting you get your shit together. So reassure that all is well and Instead say, “I can do this. I am enough”.
#22: Determine Your Values
Many people today don’t have their shit together because they don’t know what their values are.
Without thinking too much about them yet, write down at least twenty values deeply important to you.
Begin whittling it down to ten. Be focused and mindful while doing this. Then whittle it down further to two or three at the most. Here is where you’ll find your compass.
#23: Are You Living According To Your Values?
Now look at your life, your actions, thoughts, behaviours and decide whether you’ve been living according to your own values.
These are your own soul’s rules or guidelines. It’s important to live according to them if you want to get your shit together.
#24: Question Your Habits
You could be driving for half an hour and suddenly “wake up” and say, “How did I get all the way over here?”
Our subconscious learns patterns (habits) that we can follow without realizing it.
Driving is one example, certain phrases people say, behaviours, etc. Others all the way over here?”
can notice them in you instantly but you could be unaware.
Learn to catch yourself and question those habits.
#25: Categorize (Urgent and Important)
President Eisenhower said, “What is important is seldom urgent and what is urgent is seldom important.” and Dr. Stephen Covey took these principles to the mainstream in his book 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.
Make the distinction in your life with a list you categorize in this way.
#26: Focus On What’s Important To You
Start with what’s urgent and important on your list of tasks. It could be an aspect of relationship, career task, or financial. This is also where your values tie in.
Just be clear that with this action you’re going towards your goal.
#27: Think Win – Win
Once you’re clear about your action ask yourself who benefits. Does only one person in the equation benefit or is it a win-win for everyone involved?
You want to think win-win because that gives you a better experience in the long run.
#28: Have An Abundance Mindset
By accepting that you’re worthy of receiving an abundance of whatever it is that sparks joy in you, you’re more likely to experience it.
Feel gratitude for all that you have, even if all you can think of is a bed or food today.
Feel abundantly comfortable or satisfied, etc.
#29: Seek To Understand
When talking with people, listen more and speak less. Listen to understand the person, not just to speak back.
If we understood each other more, more of us could have our shit together.
#30: Celebrate Differences
We are all so similar and at the same time so different. Our differences don’t have to divide us.
Celebrate the differences and seek to understand them.
Getting My Shit Together
#31: Physical Well Being, Now Or Later?
One important aspect is to keep your body healthy through nutrition, hydration, and movement you like doing.
#32: Spiritual Well Being, Now Or Later?
Another aspect is spiritual. To recognize your connection to a higher power is what grounds you and gives you a purpose for being you.
So all of this becomes worth it.
#33: Cognitive Well Being, Now Or Later?
Keeping your mental focus sharp keeps you curious about life. Ask questions and learn more. Your brain requires new and challenging experiences.
Make the choice to take on some of these hacks so you can get your shit together. I hope you enjoyed this and will consider sharing this with a friend who could benefit.
If not now, when?
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