Understand The 5 Erotic Blueprints In (2022)

If you’re wondering what your erotic blueprint is, this is the guide for you.

Below, you’ll find descriptions of the five erotic blueprints, how to find yours and how doing so will improve your sex life.

As a certified and experienced life coach, I have been privileged enough to help many couples figure out problems in their love lives. 

So, I can confidently say that your erotic blueprint is ABSOLUTELY worth understanding if you want to learn to have better sex.   

What Is An Erotic Blueprint?

Consider it your sexual love language. 

A single-word archetype which quickly explains what you like and dislike in the bedroom. 

The concept was created by internationally-recognized award-winning sexologist and best-selling author Jaiya, who deduced there are five categories of erotic blueprint that describes most people’s sexual nature. 

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What Are The 5 Erotic Blueprints? 

The five blueprints are energetic, sensual, sexual, kinky and shapeshifter. You can learn what your erotic blueprint is my taking the Erotic Blueprint Quiz on Jaiya’s website. Anyone can take this quiz to know more about themselves, regardless of their sexuality.

Once you’ve completed the free quiz, your erotic blueprint will be revealed, alongside what percentage your scored for each of the other blueprints.

At this point, you’ll be invited to purchase a detailed report, explaining how to maximise your sexual pleasure based on your erotic blueprint. 

However, I have provided a basic description of each erotic blueprint below.     

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With this erotic blueprint, you’re mostly turned on by tease, anticipation and space.

Often, that means that not touching you is the best way to feed your arousal.  

Instead, you’d prefer your partner to build the foreplay slowly by teasing what they’re going to do to you later.

You may find eye-gazing arousing, as well as light honouring touches. 

You find it easier than most to tune into your chakras, and those of your partner too. As such, you may typically find it easier than others to achieve orgasm, even with little to no touch from your partner.   

A potential downside is that you may be overly sensitive to feeling negative emotions within your partner during sex. What’s more, this could completely shut down your arousal.

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With this type of erotic blueprint, you love when all your senses are ignited.

Perhaps you’re turned on by licking food off your partner, scented candles, mood lighting and smooth R&B playing in the background.

But, most of all, you’re excited by touch.

Maybe that’s your partner’s nails digging into your back, an ice cube on your chest or feathers tickling your legs. Either way, you feel these sensations deeper than others.

A common downside is that you tend to get stuck in your thoughts and become unable to focus on the sex. Also, if the sensations aren’t just right, this could really distract you. 

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Only really care about penetration and orgasms? Then, you probably have a sexual blueprint!

You’re probably simple to excite. If someone touches your genitals, shows you theirs or initiates sex, you’re good to go! You just want to get laid!

The problem is: you may also be more prone to incompatibility with other blueprints.

Perhaps you don’t like long drawn-out foreplay or erotic sex games. More likely, you just want to get off without any of the bells and whistles. 

You’re also more prone to a bad mood if you’re not experiencing orgasms. In a nutshell, you’re easy to please, but easy to frustrate as well.

If you have a sexual blueprint, you may need to make extra efforts to be mindful of your partner’s pleasure.    

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If you’re into dominance, submission, bondage or pain for pleasure, it’s a safe bet you have the kinky blueprint.

With this type of sex, there is always one dominant and one submissive. You could like either one or both of these.

The main two categories of kinky sex are: 

  • Psychological. The dominant partner emotionally dominates the submissive  
  • Impact. The dominant partner physically dominates the submissive. 

Both categories play with power dynamics in a healthy way. There are plenty of toys out there to aid either category. 

A lot of people are ashamed or guilty of this blueprint. Some may not tell their partner even if they’ve been in love for years. They need a non-judgmental partner who they can really trust before they can reveal themselves. 

If you encourage your partner to take the erotic blueprint quiz created by Jaiya, it could turn out they were hiding their kinks from you all along.   

Another downside of this blueprint is not being able to get off with regular ‘vanilla’ sex. Or, worse yet, only having one niche route to orgasm. This can lead to incompatibility with a lot of partners. 

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Jaiya calls this type of blueprint the ‘superhero’, because shapeshifters are turned on by everything. 

If you desire lots of surprise and variety in your sex life, this blueprint is probably yours. 

Because you’re turned on by everything, variety is crucial to your sexual satisfaction.

However, because a lot of shapeshifters tend to feel selfish for desiring so much, they’ll often focus only on their partner’s pleasure.  

A downside of this is their own needs aren’t fulfilled. So, shapeshifters are among the most likely to become bored with their partner. 

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How Can Your Erotic Blueprint Improve Your Love Life? 

Your erotic blueprint translates your sexual desires into an easy-to-understand language. 

A great understanding of it will teach you and your partner how to maximise your sexual satisfaction and theirs. 

You’ll be able to appeal to each other’s minds far better with this understanding. That’s great because the mind is the most powerful sexual organ. 

With a deeper understanding of your and your partner’s sexuality, it’ll also become easy to predict new physical sex acts that they’re likely to enjoy. Keeping things fresh in the bedroom will become easier than ever.

On top of that, knowledge of each other’s blueprints will help new couples learn how to get past supposed sexual incompatibility.   

Enjoying the best possible sex with your partner isn’t just about physical pleasure, it’s also about experiencing increased intimacy, connection and a greater spiritual satisfaction in your life. 

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Any Questions About The 5 Erotic Blueprints? 

I hope this guide will help you build a deeper connection with yourself and with your partner on a sexual level.

To learn more and skyrocket your sexual satisfaction to the next level, take the Erotic Blueprint Quiz created by Jaiya. Maybe get hold of her book ‘Red Hot Touch’ too. I know that will help you. 

However, if you have a question for me about sexuality within relationships, you can write one in the comments section below. 

I’d love to get your take on this topic.

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