21 Moments When A Man Realizes He Lost You (2022), And Regrets It

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The moments when a man realizes he lost you…

These are the moments he fights with all his might to save your relationship. Alternatively, they might be the moments he realizes he made an irreversible mistake. 

Either way, these can be moments of bittersweet comfort for a woman after the pain of a break-up.

But when do they happen? What can you do to make them occur? And what should you do afterwards? These are the questions I’ll answer in the guide below.

In my role as a life coach, I am often helping people improve their romantic relationships, professional relationships and their relationship with themselves.

That’s why I’m excited to share this guide with you.

So, let’s dive in.   

Do Guys Regret Losing A Girl?

It happens. Sometimes we feel like we make a huge mistake causing a break-up. Sometimes, we move onto better things and have no regrets. 

Will A Guy Realize What He Lost? 

It depends. Sometimes, a man realizes what a good woman he lost. Sometimes, he’ll move on without considering this too deeply.  

It depends mostly on how much of a good woman you were in his eyes, and how much worse his life becomes without you.

Below, you’ll find some tips to help make him realize he lost a good woman.   

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How Long Does It Take A Man To Realize What He Lost?

There’s no specific time frame. It depends on how his life situation becomes without you.

However, there are certain moments in his life that will make him realize he lost a good woman, so let’s explore these now. 

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Signs He Knows He Lost You

These are the moments in a man’s life when he’ll realize not only that he has lost you for good, but that he lost a good woman.

1. He Sees It In Your Eyes

Maybe you threatened to leave during previous arguments. Maybe you left and came back. In those initial arguments, he probably saw the self-doubt in your eyes and knew you weren’t serious about abandoning him.

In much the same way, he will see the change in your expression when you’re serious about not wanting to be in his life anymore.

Often, the realization hits in that moment that he’s about to lose an amazing woman. Whether he’s strong enough to do anything about it is another story.    

2. He Hears It In Your Voice

Again, there will be a subtle change in the way you speak to him that’ll make him realize you’re exiting his life for good.

3. When You Don’t Come Back 

Maybe he’s not socially acute enough to read your body language. If so, he’ll eventually realize that he’s lost you when you don’t come back as quickly as you may have done in the past. This could be the first moment when panic and emotional turmoil sets in, although he may initially be too proud to try and contact you.

4. The No Contact Period

If he tries to contact you and you don’t respond, this can create a powerful moment when he truly realizes he went too far this time.

5. He Sees It In Your Texts 

Maybe you do reply to his messages, either after an initial no contact period or straight away. Either way, he may notice a difference in the tone of your messages. The emojis, memes and cute slang have been replaced by short texts with correct grammar. It’s subtle, but it can create enough of an impact that a man realizes his relationship is in tatters.

6. The Reaction Of His Friends And Family 

Eventually, he’ll talk to his friends and family about your departure. Their reaction can really leave a mark on his emotions.

Perhaps he’s been telling himself that he’ll focus on his own life just fine without you, only for his friends’ reactions to leave him doubting himself. 

Of course, his loved ones will try to support him. But perhaps he will see in their faces that they think this split is a huge loss for him. 

7. When He Has No-One To Hang Out With  

Sure, his best friend and family members will probably be there for him at first. But there’s a fair chance he’ll eventually want to talk to someone and have no-one ready to hang out.

It’s more likely as his friends reach their thirties, begin to settle down, have kids and become less available for spontaneous nights out.

8. That First Night Alone With His Thoughts

When a guy regrets losing a good woman, he’ll often do anything he can to distract himself from these thoughts. Maybe he’ll start drinking, partying, over-working, binging video games, chasing women on Tinder, or indulging in some other form of escapism. 

But he can’t run forever. Eventually, he’ll be forced to come to terms with losing you.

9. When He Stops To Think What He Did Wrong

There may be moments of denial, where he tells himself you were stupid to leave – and that you’ll be the one to deeply regret leaving.

However, the moment may come where he stops to think about what he did to ruin the relationship. This may be the point where he comes to regret losing a great woman.

10. In The Club  

This can be a brutal moment where a guy truly regrets losing his ex-partner. Perhaps as the relationship is crumbling, he pictures himself picking up an abundance of beautiful women at the club.

Then, the moment comes to actually do it.

Now, he feels anxious to introduce himself. Trashy women reject him before he even gets to say a word. In many cases, he’ll realize that the single life is not as fun as he imagined.

11. He Discovers The Harsh Nature Of Modern Dating

The modern dating scene is very different from even five years ago. The mainstream adoption of social media and dating apps mean that women have more choice than ever before. This means their dating standards have risen higher than ever before.

When a newly single man re-enters the dating market and realizes this fact, it can quickly make him regret losing his ex. 

12. His First Bad Date

He’ll eventually find a new person to spend time with. But what are the chances they have the same chemistry as you two had?

Good women can be hard for some men to find. This can become clear after a bad first date or two. That’s why these can be the catalysts where a man realizes he lost a great woman.  

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13. When Meaningless One-Night Stands Don’t Fulfil Him

Maybe he’s gifted enough to find a string of one-night stands with other women. A lot of men and women will indulge in this after a break-up, if they can. But, after they do, most people realize that it doesn’t fulfill them. Not as much as their relationship did, anyway. This epiphany can lead to the most painful post-breakup regret.

14. When He Doesn’t Have That Special Person To Share Good News With

A big draw of romantic relationships is sharing the ups and downs of life together. It can hurt to lose this after a break-up, for sure.  

When a man has a stroke of good fortune or receives some amazing news, it can lead to a bittersweet moment because it doesn’t feel right to share it with his ex.

Maybe he tells her anyway, but it’ll usually come from a place of jealousy and desperation, rather than pure joy.

15. When He Spots Your Post-Breakup Glow-Up

Perhaps he bumps into you on a night out – or he stalks your social media profile (the stupidest thing a guy can do after a break-up, by the way).

Anyway, if you’re living your best life, having fun with your friends and looking fantastic in a new party dress, it’s often going to make him miss you like crazy. A picture is worth a thousand words and that’s why seeing you in the flesh can often be the moment a man realizes he lost a great woman.  

16. He Sees You With Another Guy

It’s an aspect of psychology that all human beings can’t help but fall into.

At first, we throw someone away. Then, we see someone else enjoying them – and regret losing the opportunity to have them to ourselves.

If your ex sees you with another man, it can impact his emotions more than anything else, especially if he seems like a high-value guy.     

17. When He Returns To Porn

It’s one heck of a comedown from the real thing. There’s a bittersweet guilt-ridden moment after he’s done with his first session that often makes a man miss his ex.

18. When He Sees Your Favorite Date Night Spot

Often, this will trigger memories of the fun times you had together and that’s when he’ll realize he lost a good woman. He’ll also realize it’s time for him to discover new restaurants and bars.

19. A Lost Moment For Callback Humor

In-jokes and callback humor are a cute benefit that men will enjoy in most relationships. It’s something else that can hurt once he realises it’s gone.  

When a moment to make that fun joke appears and there’s no-one to understand it anymore, it can make him remember the good times and miss hanging out with you.

20. The Physical Pain Of Heartbreak 

Studies show that break-ups can cause physical ailments. When he starts to feel these, this can also be a catalyst that makes a guy realize he lost a good woman.

21. When Tragedy Strikes

I’m sure that you don’t hope something awful happens to him. But life does have its ups and downs that we can’t control. During moments of tragedy and misfortune, a man will often long for a good woman to help him through it. These rough moments can therefore be necessary for a man to realize he lost a good woman.  

What Happens When He Realizes Lost You?

There are two steps that a man can choose when he realizes he lost a good woman. He can act upon his desire to get his relationship back, or suppress it. 

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His decision will mostly be based on his sense of pride, his mental health, how his love life looks without you and how much he misses you.  

Make Him Think He Has Lost You Forever

As mentioned earlier, human beings are prone to wanting a person back once it appears they’re lost forever.

Does that mean that abandoning your man – and making him think he has lost you forever – is a good strategy to fix a relationship? Not necessarily.

If you were never serious about leaving, it’s common that your ex-boyfriend will continue to indulge in the behaviors that upset you once you return. 

A better strategy is to set clear boundaries for your relationship and to walk away if your man oversteps them. 

Perhaps he’s worthy of one second chance. After that, you might be better off deciding to focus your energy on finding a man who realizes your worth.  

When He Finally Realizes He Loves You

This is a sentiment you’ll often hear when your man realizes he lost a good woman.

The question is: is that really love he’s suddenly experiencing or is it fear of loss?

Both are powerful enough that he’ll learn his lesson and stop doing you wrong. But it’s also possible that he’ll find himself resorting to his own ways once he has you back.

It’s nice that he says he loves you, but don’t you deserve a man who consistently shows it too? Your own happiness should come first.  

He Has To Lose You To Realize Your Worth?

This is not a true sentiment. There are plenty of men who will treat you well in the first place, without you having to walk away. 

Frequently Asked Questions About Break-Ups And Regret

Let’s round off the article with the answers to some frequently asked questions surrounding this topic. 

Can A Bad Person Change?

Yes, but it’s not always easy.

Your man will need to truly understand the benefits of changing, plus the downsides of staying the same. In my experience as a life coach, the latter is often a more powerful motivator.

That can be tricky to show him in romantic relationships though. A bad boyfriend might fear losing you, but if you keep giving him second chances, his motivation to change will often evaporate.

Sometimes, the biggest favor you can do for a bad boyfriend is to leave him for good. In many cases, that might be the only thing that’ll inspire him to change for good. 

Signs A Guy Knows He Messed Up

There are a few behaviors which are reliable in revealing whether a person truly believes he’s in the wrong. When a guy knows he messed up, he’ll start by admitting it and trying to make things right. You should be able to see the guilt in his face and in his behavior. 

For more signs to look out for, check out this guide on How A Man Feels When He Hurts A Woman.   

Should I Take My Ex-Boyfriend Back?

Before making the decision, I’d suggest you ask yourself:

  • Can you forgive him for his past behavior?
  • Do you truly believe he will change? (or are you just scared to leave)

The answers to the questions matter. If the answer to either of them is no, do you really want him back? The ability to trust someone is one of the most important characteristics of a relationship, after all.

The Kind Of Girl Guys Regret Losing

Don’t make the mistake of believing you deserve to be mistreated in your relationship. No matter what type of woman you are, you should feel free to set boundaries for how a person treats you. 

With that said, perhaps you’d be interested in my guide on the principles of high-value women.    

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