21 Signs An Aries Man Is Using You & How To React (2024)

Welcome to my extensive list of signs an Aries man is using you and how to react. 

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An Aries man generally has a big personality and is fun to be around, but he is prone to playing games. So, if you’re pursuing an Aries man romantically, this guide will be useful to you.  

In my role as a life coach, I am often helping clients better understand themselves and those closest to them. 

That’s why I’m keen to share this guide with you. 

Do Aries Play Mindgames?

Aries is a fire sign. That means you can expect Aries men to have big personalities. They are often full of passion and confidence. An Aries man likes to flirt and interact with many women while he’s single. 

They are great fun to be around, but the truth is: some Aries men use their charm and charisma to mess women around. 

It’s not the most attractive trait of this zodiac sign. In fact, it can cause a lot of drama in your love life when you chase romantic relationships with Aries guys.

It’s only a matter of time until you run into an Aries who’s not an honest person and is happy to hurt your feelings if it means getting what he wants.

I’m not saying all Aries men are like this, but the Aries man players are very good at it. So, it can be hard to spot the signs you’re being played.

That’s why I wrote this guide detailing the signs an Aries guy is using you. Below, you’ll discover 21 of the most common of these signs.

By taking just a few minutes to read this list, you can make yourself much better prepared to notice when an Aries is messing you around.

So, let’s dive in.   

How Do You Know When An Aries Man Is Playing You?

1. He’s Manipulative

If you get the impression he’s always trying to manipulate your emotions or your behavior, that’s a clear sign he’s playing you.

2. His Words Don’t Match His Actions

This is the telltale sign of a player and a fairly obvious sign that you’re being manipulated and used.

3. He Always Puts Himself First

If his feelings and desires always come first, that’s not a real relationship, is it? Most likely, he’s using you to make his life better in some way.

4. Your Emotions Aren’t A Big Deal

If you’re trying to share your feelings but they don’t seem to matter to him, that’s one of the clearer signs you’re dealing with a player.

5. He Doesn’t Listen

Aries isn’t known for being a good listener as much as other zodiac signs. Still, if he never seems to listen to you, that’s most likely because he only cares what you can do for his life.

6. He Only Wants Sex

Do you only get phone calls and text messages when he wants sex? Does he only want to spend time with you if sex is a possibility? Then, you’re most likely dealing with a player. 

Related: 17 Ways To Beat An Aries Man At His Own Game

7. He’s Not Affectionate

If he’s not affectionate – or only affectionate when he can get something from you – that’s a bad sign for the future of your relationship. Most likely, you’re being played.

8. He’s Impatient 

Impatience is a key indicator that an Aries man only cares about what he can get from you, rather than who you are as a person.

9. He Takes Forever To Message You Back

Maybe you see that he’s online a lot, but he still takes an age to reply to your messages. This either means he’s not that interested in you – or he’s pretending to be not that interested. 

10. He Disappears For Days At A Time

If this guy is unreachable for several days at a time, you can take that as a sign he’s no longer interested in you. If he disappears then comes back several days later, of course he’s playing games with you. No-one gives the cold shoulder for that long if they’re genuinely interested in a relationship. 

11. You Never Meet His Family

That’s a reliable indicator that he’s not considering a serious relationship with you.

Related: 13 Tips On How To Make An Aries Man Miss You

12. You Never Meet His Friends

Not meeting his family is one thing, but what about if you never meet his friends? That’s one of the brightest red flags as far as whether you’re being played.

If you don’t meet his friends, it could well be because he’s embarrassed of you. Most men are excited to show off the women they’re dating to their inner circle of pals. It’s definitely a bad sign for your relationship if you never meet anyone important in his life. 

13. He’s Not There During The Bad Times

If he’s no longer interested in talking to you during a ‘tough patch’ of your life, that says a lot about his feelings towards you. The sad truth of this situation is: he only wants to take from your relationship and doesn’t want to give back at all.

Most guys would try to be genuinely helpful during these times, but this guy has decided to leave you alone. This says a lot about the type of person he is.  

14. Inconsistent Behavior

If you’re getting mixed signals and this guy is generally unpredictable, that’s a reasonable indicator that he’s playing games. 

15. Nothing Seems Like A Big Deal To Him

Aries men tend to wear their hearts on their sleeves. If you notice he’s hiding his feelings around you, there’s almost definitely something fishy going on.

16. He Won’t Discuss Whether He Wants A Serious Relationship

If he won’t have an honest discussion about this, you know he’s playing games. If you want a relationship, don’t let him dodge the question unless you want to still be in the same place next year. 

17. He Gaslights You   

Gaslighting is a giveaway sign of a true manipulator. Don’t accept it. 

18. He’ll Guilt-Trip You

Another popular tactic that manipulative men will use to get away with messing you around. 

Aries Man Is Playing You

19. He Threatens To Move On

Ultimatums are another harsh trick in the armory of a manipulator. If an Aries man is using ultimatums to get his way, call his bluff and let him go.

20. You Catch Him Lying

If you catch him lying, you can guarantee he’s playing games with you. 

21. You’re Always Chasing Him

The final sign that an Aries man is playing you is perhaps the most clear. Indeed, this is usually the intended result of his mind games.

Related: How To Get An Aries Man Back After A Breakup

How To React When An Aries Guy Is Using You 

The answer is simple. The first step is to have a calm discussion explaining what behavior you’re unhappy with. The next step is to leave if he doesn’t change.

If an Aries man loves playing mind games, he may do his best to convince you that he’s doing nothing wrong.

This is where it’s important to retain a strong belief about what you deserve in a relationship. If he can’t provide that, move on.

If he doesn’t change his behavior, it’s clear that he was never serious about enjoying a real relationship with you.   

It might hurt your feelings to let him go, but you deserve so much better than a man who is using you. 

Never forget that. 

Frequently Asked Questions About Aries Men

Let’s round off this guide with the answers to some frequently asked questions about dating Aries men. 

What Is An Aries Man?

Aries is one of the 12 zodiac signs. An Aries man is a man born between March 21 and April 9. 

How Do You Know If An Aries Man Is Lying?

Some Aries men are great at using their charisma to cover their lies. That’s why it can be tough to spot the Aries men players.

The most obvious signs of lying include: no prolonged eye contact, stuttering and stories with holes in them. 

So, look out for these.

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How Do You Know An Aries Man Is Serious About You?

An Aries guy might still play games when he wants a serious relationship with you. But, in this case, he’ll be doing so to make you more interested in being with him. This is perhaps the most frustrating thing about dating an Aries man.

The best way to tell whether an Aries man is serious about you is to be clear about your intentions.

If you tell him you want a relationship, he’s most likely to agree if he wants one too. 

Then, hopefully the mind games will stop and you can actually enjoy spending time in a drama-free relationship.

Gifted advisors – or psychics – have a great ability to understand the energy between yourself and other people. If you’re open-minded about this type of thing, why not book an appointment with a gifted advisor to get the lowdown on how an Aries guy really feels about you?

Related Content: How To Make An Aries Man Obsessed With You 

When An Aries Man Respects You

A great way to make an Aries man respect you is to calmly call him out on his games.

Make it clear that you know what he’s doing and you’re not going to stand for it.

If he’s decided that he respects you, he’ll stop messing you around and treat you the way you deserve. 

If he doesn’t, he’ll either keep trying to play you or disappear and move on to the next woman. 

Signs An Aries Man Is Talking To Another Woman

As mentioned earlier, an Aries man tends to be incredibly passionate, charming and flirtatious. These personality traits tend to earn him a lot of attention from the opposite sex. You can expect that you’re not the only woman he’s talking to while he’s single. Most likely, there are other women on the scene.  

Of course, if he’s committed to a monogamous relationship with you, that’s not OK.

The most common signs that he’s doing that include him being very protective of his phone and vague about his whereabouts.

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Any Questions?

Thanks for reading my guide. 

I hope it gave the unique insight you needed to figure out what the future holds for your relationship with an Aries man. 

If you’d like to share some final thoughts or ask for specific advice on this topic, leave a comment in the box below. 

Feel free to explain your personal experience dealing with an Aries guy, so I can give some tailor-made advice for your situation.

If you want to add some other signs an Aries man is using you to my list, go ahead. 

It would be great to hear from you!

About The Author

Bijan Kholghi is a certified life coach with the Milton Erickson Institute Heidelberg (Germany). He helps clients and couples reach breakthroughs in their lives by changing subconscious patterns. His solution-oriented approach is based on Systemic- and Hypnotherapy.