21 Clear Signs A Scorpio Man Is Playing You (2024)

Is there a Scorpio man in your life right now? Then, you’re in for the ride of your life. 

They are quite charming and mysterious. They know how to drive you crazy but not chase you away. They are unique, to say the least. 

But how do you know if a Scorpio man is serious about you? Well, you can start here. 

In this article, we’re going to dive deep into the most common signs a Scorpio man is playing you. Continue reading to learn more.

How Do You Know a Scorpio Man Is Playing You?

Scorpio men are living proof that you shouldn’t judge a book by its cover. They are charismatic; they are all about sweet words and grand gestures

But sometimes, they’re just playing games. 

So, if you don’t want to get hurt by a Scorpio guy, you should try to learn as much as possible about them and play them at their own game. 

But first things first. Check out these 21 clear signs a Scorpio man is playing you. Let’s dive in!

1. He never makes an effort to get to know you

Lack of interest is the first sign a Scorpio man is playing you. If he never asks you anything about your personal life or childhood experiences, he’s probably not interested in you. 

Don’t take this lightly; he’s probably not looking for a deep relationship right now because if he wanted something serious, he would make an effort to get to know you more. 

Scorpio is one of the most passionate zodiac signs, so when they’re in love, they’re fully committed and devoted. When he doesn’t show any interest, it means he’s probably not serious about you.

2. He doesn’t open up to you

Scorpio men won’t open up to just anyone. They’re very mysterious by nature and tend to clam up. But when they’re serious about you, they will go above and beyond to connect with you on a deeper level. 

So if your Scorpio partner is not willing to talk about his emotions and form a deeper connection with you, it’s very clear why – he just doesn’t want to. This is just another sign he’s playing you.

3. Everything revolves around sex

Although Scorpions have a reputation for being overly passionate and sex-driven, not all Scorpio men are like that. 

When they’re truly interested in you, they will want more than a physical connection. They will want to get to know you, take you out on a proper date, and introduce you to their family. But if your Scorpio guy is constantly talking about sex, that is a fixed sign he’s playing you. 

If you’re looking for something deeper, you might want to take these red flags for what they truly are – a sign you should leave this not-so-healthy relationship.

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4. He makes you doubt yourself

Nobody should make you doubt yourself and ruin your self-esteem. So if your Scorpio partner is making you question everything – your personality and physical appearance – then it’s time to call it quits with him. He doesn’t deserve you. 

Scorpio men who put you down are shady and players. They use shady tactics and tend to toy with girls’ emotions. It’s better for you to leave and find someone who deserves you.

5. He doesn’t want to meet your friends or family

Another clear sign that a Scorpio man is playing you is when he doesn’t want to meet any of your friends or family members. Even if you’re fully committed to this relationship, he probably has other plans for the future. 

He doesn’t want to take this next step in your relationship because he’s already got one foot out the door. Don’t ignore this high alert and find a partner who will be all in.

6. He clearly doesn’t want you to meet his closest circle of friends

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When a Scorpio guy falls in love, he wants to show off his chosen one and not hide her from the world. But if your Scorpio partner is the exact opposite, you should ask yourself if he’s a player. 

Maybe he’s not looking for anything serious right now. Or maybe he’s just not ready to settle down… ever. Accept the harsh reality and move on; he doesn’t want you in his closest circle.

7. He avoids being with you in public places

When was the last time you went on a date together? If you’re constantly hanging out in the bedroom, it’s a vital sign your Scorpio man is playing you. 

Although Scorpio is a complex zodiac sign, and you can’t get through them that easily, one thing’s for sure; when they like someone, they will spoil them. If this is not the case with you, maybe it’s time to call it quits.

8. He only hits you up at nighttime

Yes, Scorpios are the most sensual signs of the sun sign zodiac. They’re incredibly sexy and effortlessly seductive, so it’s absolutely normal for Scorpio men to want to spend a lot of time in the bedroom. 

But even though nighttime is their ideal time to shine, that doesn’t mean you should see each other only at night. There should be room for emotional connection in every relationship, and your Scorpio man knows that very well. He’s probably playing you and doesn’t want to get involved in anything serious right now.

9. He’s manipulative

Scientists define manipulative behavior as a clear sign your Scorpio man is hiding something, whether that’s the fact he has another girl in his life or that he’s only playing you to get what he wants. 

Scorpio is a water sign, which means they are master manipulators. They understand the emotions of other people and know how to use them to their benefit. 

Scorpio mind games are often based on manipulative methods such as gaslighting, flattery, and deceit.

10. He’s overly protective of his phone

Does he get jumpy when you get near his phone? Is he overly protective of his phone and doesn’t let you touch it under any circumstances? 

That’s a bad sign something is off. While it’s perfectly normal to respect each other’s privacy in a relationship, that doesn’t mean he should lie to you and hide things from you. 

11. He ghosts you for hours/days/weeks

Another clear sign a Scorpio man is playing you is when he gaslights you for a long period of time. 

Gaslighting is unacceptable and bad behavior, especially in romantic relationships. It makes you doubt yourself and question everything about your relationship. But that’s not how you’re supposed to feel; take this sign for what it is – a red flag. 

12. He’s never there for you

When a man doesn’t show up when you need him, that is an obvious sign that he’s not interested in you. 

Perhaps he doesn’t want to pursue a romantic relationship with you right now or he’s a natural player. When a Scorpio man is truly into you, you will know it. He will go above and beyond to spend time with you.

Of course, showing up for you doesn’t necessarily mean he should drop everything to be there for you. He can have his own life, but he should be there for you when you truly need him. Communicate your feelings and see if he’s ready to commit to you.

13. He gives you mixed signals

There shouldn’t be any mixed signals in a serious relationship. If your Scorpio partner is all lovey-dovey one day, then missing in action the next day, that’s one of the most common signs a Scorpio man is playing you. 

Confront him about this because you shouldn’t waste your time with a person who’s not willing to be with you.

14. You feel it in your gut that he’s playing you

Your gut instinct is your guiding light, so don’t take it for granted. 

If you’re constantly suspicious of your partner, try to uncover where those doubtful feelings are coming from. You may be onto something when it comes to your Scorpio man.

15. He never texts or calls first

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Are you always the first to call or text him? That’s no coincidence. If he’s not showing any initiative in your relationship, it’s a clear sign he’s not that into you. 

A Scorpio man in love will always find the time to call and check up on you, so try to understand why he’s not interested.

16. He never invites you on dates

You never go out. And when you do go out, it’s because you asked for it. That’s not a good sign!

If he never invites you on dates, it’s probably because he doesn’t want to be seen in public with you. That’s one of the most common signs a Scorpio man is playing you.

17. He constantly blows you off

You feel like there’s always something more urgent or someone more important than you in his life. You shouldn’t feel that way in a romantic relationship. You should be one of his top priorities, and don’t let him convince you of anything else. 

18. He can’t keep any of his huge promises

Scorpios tend to keep their promises because they care a lot about what others will say about them. But if your boyfriend doesn’t keep true to his word, then something is off. 

A broken promise is always a sign something is not right in a relationship. Don’t ignore the red flags, especially if you’re falling hard for this guy. Talk to him or say goodbye to him.

19. He tells you he’s not looking for a serious relationship

Most Scorpios are honest, so they will likely tell you loud and clear they’re not looking for anything serious. Don’t take these words lightly. 

If he says he’s not interested, then he’s not lying. Why would he lie about that? He’s a player who’s not ready to settle down, but at least he’s open about it.

20. He doesn’t respect your boundaries

You tell him you don’t like how he’s treating you, but he continues to mistreat you. You tell him not to call you late at night, but he continues to call whenever he wants to. 

That’s a clear sign and a red flag he’s not respectful of your personal boundaries. If you want to be in a serious relationship, you need a guy who will respect you and protect your boundaries, not break them on purpose.

This is one of the most obvious signs a Scorpio man is playing you.

21. He’s obviously a player

Some things are obvious. And if he’s obviously a player, then you shouldn’t expect him to change overnight for you. He will change when he’s ready to change. Maybe he won’t ever do it, but that’s totally up to him. 

Despite what most women think, you can’t change a person, no matter how hard you try. So if you want to be happy, it may be time to move on with your life.

How Do You Tell if a Scorpio Man Is Serious About You?

A Scorpio man in love will show many signs that he’s serious about you. When it comes to emotions, Scorpio men are truly one of a kind. 

When a Scorpio man is ready to commit, he’s all in. But when he’s not, you can easily tell he’s playing you. Just look for some of these signs a Scorpio man is playing you.

We’ve already gone through the most common signs a Scorpio man is playing you, but how do you know if he’s serious about your relationship?

Here are the most obvious signs he’s ready to settle down:

  • He opens up to you and tells you his personal stuff
  • He shows your his true self
  • He shows you his insecure Scorpio side
  • He shares his deepest, darkest secrets with you
  • There’s an amazing physical connection between you
  • He’s willing to stop playing games for you
  • He asks you personal questions
  • He sends you sweet messages

How Do You Know When a Scorpio Man Is Lying?

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Even though Scorpios are very mysterious, It’s not that hard to tell when a Scorpio man is lying to you. 

Here are the most common signs to look for:

  • He always looks away when talking to you
  • He keeps changing the topic
  • He’s awkward and uncomfortable
  • His body language is off
  • He changes his story all the time
  • He accuses you of lying
  • He gives vague answers

How Do Scorpios Test You?

Scorpio men are often guarded emotionally and won’t let you in that easily. Once they test your loyalty and make sure you’re trustworthy, that’s when they start opening up to you. 

So how do Scorpios test you? 

They will start asking you about your past relationships, often very directly and with no filter. They will want to test you, it’s just something they do to see if you can keep even a minor secret of theirs or keep someone else’s secrets.

In certain circumstances, they might even try to quiz your closest friends to find out what they need to know. They will do everything in their power to make sure you’re loyal. Insecure Scorpios tend to test others’ trustworthiness in relationships. 

They’re big on loyalty. If you hurt a Scorpio man, he will probably never forgive you. And if he does forgive you, he will probably never forget it. 

How to Play a Scorpio Man at His Own Game

So you’ve decided to play a Scorpio man in his own game? Well, good luck, because you’re going to need it.

Scorpios know how to play complicated mind games. They’re a controlling sign, so it’s not that easy to defeat them at their own game. 

When playing Scorpio men at their own game, you’re going to be facing complicated mind games all the time. Their controlling nature is not easy to mirror; they can plant harmless secrets without you even noticing.

They’re attracted to a strong woman, and they appreciate a good mind game. If you’re able to keep up with their outlandish behavior, then you will catch their attention.

They’ll eventually expose their true intentions, and you will know you have their heart. But don’t make a huge deal out of this game; Scorpios like to enjoy the quest, so try to enjoy it as much as you can with them.

Signs a Scorpio Man Is Fighting His Feelings for You

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There’s a mutual spark between you and a Scorpio man in your life. But for some reason, he seems not to do anything about it. So now you’re thinking about whether or not to make the first move. 

First, I suggest you check out these signs a Scorpio man is fighting his feelings for you:

  • He gets awkward around you
  • He makes excuses to see you
  • He’s following your social media activity
  • He shows off in front of you
  • He remembers everything about you
  • He gets jealous
  • He asks around about you

Related post: 31 Clear Signs That A Scorpio Man Has Feelings For You

Signs a Scorpio Man Is Not Interested Anymore

If you’re worried about whether a Scorpio man in your life is not interested anymore, I’ve got you covered. Check out these clear signs he wants to move:

  • He’s never in a good mood when he’s around you
  • He shows interest in other women
  • He’s involved in cheating behavior
  • He gives you hints that he’s interested anymore
  • He flirts with other women in front of you
  • He always seems distracted and bored
  • He’s constantly picking fights with you
  • He stops texting suddenly
  • He tends to suddenly disappear
  • He gives you the silent treatment

Final Thoughts

Thanks for taking the time to read my article. I hope you found this article helpful and that it helped you understand the most obvious signs a Scorpio man is playing you.

If you have a Scorpio man in your life who’s making you question everything – from your relationship to your personality – you should start asking yourself whether he’s even right for you. 

Scorpios are charismatic, passionate, and mysterious. But no one should toy with your feelings. 

Remember that you teach others how to treat you by what you allow and what you stop. If you allow your Scorpio boyfriend to manipulate you, lie to you, and deceive you, you will never find true happiness and have a beautiful life.

Choose what’s best for you and your mental health. And if he’s a player, then he’s probably not the best choice for you.

If you have any additional questions about this topic or you need my advice regarding a Scorpio man in your life, I’m here to help! 

Don’t hesitate to reach out or leave a comment in the section below. Let me know your thoughts, and I hope I hear from you soon!

About The Author

Bijan Kholghi is a certified life coach with the Milton Erickson Institute Heidelberg (Germany). He helps clients and couples reach breakthroughs in their lives by changing subconscious patterns. His solution-oriented approach is based on Systemic- and Hypnotherapy.