23 Signs Of An Emotionally Mature Man (2024)

Want to know how to spot an emotionally mature man? This guide will reveal 23 signs of a man who has reached emotional maturity. 

In my role as a life coach, I am often helping clients learn how to read and connect with people better.

That’s why I’m keen to share this guide with you. 

So, let’s dive in. 

What Is A Mature Man?

An older guy might be described as a mature man. However, the word is most commonly used to describe emotional maturity, rather than someone’s age.

Mature Man Meaning

In this guide, we’ll be exploring the signs of a man who has reached emotional maturity. 

What Are The Signs Of A Mature Man?

Below are 23 signs of an emotionally mature person that only a mature man is likely to show consistently.

Mature Man Qualities

1. He’s Confident

You can expect a mature guy to hold himself with a quiet and calculated confidence. This isn’t the type of confidence where he knows he’ll succeed. Instead, it’s the confidence where he knows he’ll be fine no matter what happens.

2. He’s Realistic 

A mature guy doesn’t let his emotions stretch his expectations of what might happen in the future. Instead, he can take an objective view of a situation and plan accordingly.

3. He Sees The Good In Other People 

A mature guy understands that people sometimes show bad qualities because of the pain and trauma they’ve experienced in the past. He’s more able than most men to look past that and see the good in people.

4. He Can Forgive Himself  

A mature man isn’t the type to beat himself up for his mistakes. He’s able to forgive himself, learn from his mistakes and progress in life.

5. He Doesn’t Care What Other People Think 

Here’s a classic quote about caring what other people think.

“When you’re 20 you care what everyone thinks, when you’re 40 you stop caring what everyone thinks, when you’re 60 you realize no-one was ever thinking about you in the first place.”

Although it’s possible to be an emotionally immature man as you get older if you don’t put in the work to better yourself, the sentiment is true that most people stop caring about other people’s opinions as they age.

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Mature Man Characteristics

6. Grounded

A mature man isn’t moved by outside circumstances. He’s an emotional rock, rather than a leaf in the wind.

7. Humility

Humility is a clear sign of an emotionally mature man. Mature men understand the benefits of staying humble and sharing credit with other people.

8. Selflessness

A mature man’s emotional cup is full. He doesn’t need anything, so he’s free to turn his attention to helping other people. 

9. Understanding

An emotionally mature man has been around enough people to understand why some people act the way they do. They’re more likely to know how to deal with people who are ‘acting strangely’ and bring them back to a more desirable emotional state.

10. Self-Awareness

An emotionally mature man has been around himself enough to understand his strengths, weaknesses, desires and triggers. Working with a therapist or life coach will certainly help any man achieve this same level of self-awareness.

11. Gratitude

While an emotionally immature man might be ungrateful and believe the world owes him something, a mature man chooses to focus on what he’s grateful for.

12. Bravery

Bravery is one of the strongest signs of emotional maturity. A mature man understands all the important things in life are a little scary. While he may be afraid of some things, he finds the courage to act anyway. 

13. Compassion

An emotionally mature man is more likely to have compassion for other’s misfortunes. He has probably been through enough ups and downs himself to want to help others. 

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14. An Emotionally Mature Man Controls His Emotions

His emotions don’t control him. Mindfulness and meditation exercises will help with this.

15. He Doesn’t Judge People Too Quickly 

A mature man is smarter than to judge people based on first impressions. Even if someone is consistently acting unfavorably, he understands this is usually triggered by unfortunate circumstances in their past.

16. He Forgives People 

A mature man isn’t the type to hold grudges. He might not decide to hang out with the people who wronged him, but he’ll still forgive them.

17. He Apologises

Mature men have the humility to admit when they did something wrong. Even if they acted childishly or hurt people accidentally, they’re not afraid to apologise for this.  

Mature Man In Relationship

18. Mature Men Don’t Fall In Love Super-Quickly

This isn’t to say he’s avoiding feelings. It just takes a longer period of dating for emotionally mature men to feel them intensely.

This is a side-effect of dating a lot of people. A mature man has been in enough relationships to understand the heightened feelings of the ‘honeymoon phase’. He understands these feelings have little correlation on whether it’ll be a good relationship in the long run.

Instead of getting swept up in these feelings, he chooses to focus on whether this person is suitable for a long-term relationship.

19. He Keeps His Ego Out Of His Relationship

Immature guys might let their ego determine who they should be dating. Perhaps it says they should date the hottest babe who all their friends want. His ego might also tell her to leave her for trivial reasons.

A mature man is happy to be with a partner who improves his own life and meets his goals, regardless of what his family and friends think about it.  

20. He Accepts His Partner’s Flaws

Mature guys understand the person they’re dating won’t be perfect. They don’t expect perfection. While he’s able to assert boundaries in his relationship, he’s not one to panic and overreact when somthing goes wrong.

21. He Understands Relationships Are About Teamwork

An emotionally mature man wants his relationship to be him and his woman against the world. It’s not ever him against his woman. She’s there to make him a better person and he can do the same for her. But they’re always teammates, not opponents.

22. He Encourages Vulnerability 

Immature men might avoid vulnerable and emotional conversations. Mature men actively  encourage them. 

23. He Learns To Argue Properly

Disagreements are inevitable in romantic relationships. However, emotionally mature men are able to navigate these properly. They treat their women with love and respect, even in an argument. They encourage open communication and finding a solution that aids both people.

An emotionally mature guy will listen to your grievances with an open mind. He offers solutions. He gives you space to figure things out, if you need that. This skill is key to enjoying healthy relationships.

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Frequently Asked Questions

Let’s round off this guide with the answers to some frequently asked questions about emotionally mature men.

What Age Is A Mature Man?

It’s no use asking what age does a man fully emotionally mature. There is no specific age. Emotional maturity isn’t defined by a number. It’s defined by a man’s behavior.

If a grown-up man stays stuck in his old patterns and fails to solve the same problems, there’s every chance he’ll never reach emotional maturity in his life. 

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What A Mature Man Wants In A Relationship

While an immature man typically wants women to fuel his ego, an immature man doesn’t need this. He’s not interested in impressing his family and friends. He doesn’t need women (or his family and friends) to validate him.

He usually wants a romantic relationship where both people grow together. He wants a woman he can talk to, respect and enjoy life with. There’s every chance he wants to start a family, and that’s why these personal qualities are so important to him.

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Signs You Are Dating A Mature Man

Here are some clear signs you’re dating an emotionally mature man. 

  • He doesn’t run from difficult conversations, he encourages and creates space for them. 
  • He’s happy creating space for you to do things outside the relationship.
  • He understands your feelings are as important as his feelings.
  • He’s always happy to listen before giving his opinion.
  • He doesn’t get intimidated when you talk to other guys.
  • He understands the importance of respect in relationships.

How To Attract Emotionally Mature Man

Want to improve your love life and start dating guys like those described in this article?  

Mature men usually want a woman who avoids drama and unnecessary arguments, rather than creating these things. They want a partner who takes responsibility for her mistakes, rather than looking to blame someone else.

They want an independent woman who has her priorities straight, rather than someone who has no idea what they want out of life. They want a woman ready to give her love, rather than being emotionally ungenerous.  

These are the most important things for most older men who have reached emotional maturity.

Any More Questions

Thanks for reading my guide. Hopefully, you’ll now be able to spot the biggest signs of an emotionally mature guy.

It could be argued that no man or woman ever becomes fully mature. There’s always room for people to grow. Still, the more of these signs you spot, the more likely you’re dealing with a mature guy. 

If you have a question on the topic of emotionally mature guys, feel free to leave a comment below. 

I have so much respect for people who take the time to leave nice words in the comments. I’m always happy to communicate with men or women who seek advice on specific topics too, so it would be great to hear from you!

About The Author

Bijan Kholghi is a certified life coach with the Milton Erickson Institute Heidelberg (Germany). He helps clients and couples reach breakthroughs in their lives by changing subconscious patterns. His solution-oriented approach is based on Systemic- and Hypnotherapy.