21 Ways Balancing Masculine And Feminine Energy (2024)

Masculine and feminine energy have nothing do with gender, we all have both energies within us. 

If you’re feeling undervalued and stressed or unsupported and scattered then develop your masculine and feminine energies that may be off balance. 

There is a better way. Keep reading for 21 ways of balancing your masculine and feminine energies.

Let’s Dive In:

1. Time For Yourself

  • Meditate, journal, sleep, nap, take time for your own self care.

2. Feel Your Feelings

They’re your superpower. Cry just to cry, throw an adult temper tantrum, or dance it all out. Get ahead of the feelings. Feelings are like a portal to your intuition and internal navigation system. 

They offer you helpful feedback. When you don’t set aside enough time for them, that feedback may come in retroactively, as it can take you longer than most to process what just happened.

3. Sacred Space

Schedule in twenty-minute blocks of sacred space once to twice daily. Meditate in the mornings before work, an afternoon recalibration, or the evenings in between switching gears. These are all great times to tune in to you.

4. Give More

Giving will put you in action and offer your power back to you. Give, volunteer, help a friend out, or practice random acts of kindness.

When giving more, you’re elevating your energy from your second chakra, your feelings center, where insecurities are stored, to your heart chakra.

Your heart center is your love, abundance, and compassion center, where unity, cohesion, and a sense of belonging happens. You’re going from isolation, worries, and problems to connection, confidence, and solutions.

5. Stop Asking

Stop asking for advice and forfeiting your power to others and start turning to your intuition to empower yourself.

6. Be Creative

Creative projects are fun, as they can be just as insightful as they are productive. 

The creative process can be a perfect mirror for your spiritual growth, whether you’re learning the choreography to your favorite song or making a new handmade coffee mug in a pottery class. Plan to get time for yourself and have something to show for it.

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7. Forward Movement

While you may value simply “sitting” with your feelings and having a meditation or journaling practice, you may also be into forward motion, resolutions, and measurable outcomes.

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8. Give Back

First, give back to yourself. Carve out time for your creative endeavors, as well as some self-care time. You need both.

Creativity will honor your yang, and self-care will honor your yin. You’ve got a great balance of both, so honor it.

Once you’ve replenished your well, give back to others. A little goes a long way in helping you acknowledge how powerful and significant you truly are and how much you’re capable of impacting change.

9. Create Boundaries

Boundaries are also a big deal. Without them, your need for self-care may bleed into relationships and so you’ll get your feelings hurt a little too easily.

Take space for yourself and notice how much easier your relationships get, how much less you actually “need” from them, and how much more you’re able to offer them. Boundaries also help you assess who gets to sit at your table, and who does not.

10. Nurture Your Curiosity

Curiosity brings out innocence, sense of adventure, and desire for growth. Join classes, maybe one or two new hobbies each year.

Maybe it’s dance, a foreign language, learning how to invest in cryptocurrency. Whatever it is, you will ultimately outgrow it and need something new. Plan for this so it doesn’t surprise or upset you.

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11. Create A Bucket List

List all the things you wish to do in your lifetime and see how many of those you can accomplish each year.

Add in some adventure and it will reduce the drama in your life. Prioritize it as self-care.

12. Be Your Own Best Friend

Do yourself a favor and be your own bestie first and choose other close friends according to how much value they add to your life, not how much value you’re adding to theirs.

You don’t have to be a slave to your own magic. Honor it with healthy boundaries and send your fans some psychic love.

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13. Accept Your Strengths Unapologetically

The sooner you own that you’re a strong, benevolent leader, the easier it will be for others to follow suit and help you out.

What’s cool about you is that while you were born with all this cosmic consciousness that has you totally winning in life, you’re also a sweetheart and not trying to win if it means others lose.

Trust that everyone wins when you take control. It’s a position of great responsibility, and not for everyone.

14. Learn To Delegate

Let others pull through. Let them fail. Let it be a reflection of them and not you. Also, get comfortable watching people fall apart and make totally preventable mistakes.

It’s the best way they’ll learn and grow into better versions of themselves and become better able to support you. Explain yourself and your expectations. Teach others how you work as a way of inspiring them to rise.

15. Spend Time In Nature

Nature moves at a much slower and steadier pace than our rushed and frantic modern lives. It is the perfect example of balancing doing and being. 

When we spend time in nature, our minds and bodies can re-attune to the natural rhythms of life. Go for a walk or hike and relax with all of the sounds, smells and sights. See if you can appreciate all of the beauty and nourishment that nature offers.

16. Let Life Flow

Set aside a whole day with nothing on your agenda and let yourself wake up and just flow through it. Don’t plan anything, let your body and intuition guide you to what’s next, listening to what feels good.

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17. Adjust Your Thinking

To create this balance in yourself, try whatever approach is the opposite of what you usually do.

For example, if your thinking is usually linear or focused on analyzing and keeping out emotions, try to pay attention to your intuition. If your thinking is normally on content and how things relate to each other with emotion, focus on a specific problem.

18. Take A Step Back

If you normally respond to a situation in attack mode try not acting right away. Consider how all the players involved will react before you act.

19. Practice Strategic Confrontation

Make sure that when you avoid conflict, it’s strategic. Not because you’re scared of confrontation.

Practice confrontation in every day, low-stakes situations. Don’t consider the other person’s feelings, don’t be deferential, and be aggressive.

20. Self Responsibility

Try looking for their own role in failures and others’ roles in their successes. Also try to get a more accurate picture of yourself.

Balance seeing your desirable qualities, as well as the not so desirable ones so you’ll be motivated to actually improve.

21. Let Go Of Past Criticism

Hanging onto years of criticism can make you less inclined to try new things. Also try not to take things personally.

People rarely do things specifically to affect you. It’s usually because of their own demons or past experiences. This will free you to be you.

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What Is Masculine And Feminine Energy?

We can all have healthier and more prosperous relationships by understanding the energetic dynamics and work towards balancing both our masculine and feminine energies.

Typically, men tend to have more masculine energy and less of feminine energy while women usually have more feminine energy than masculine. Although this can be totally reversed as well.

According to Tantric philosophy, an Eastern philosophy that believes the universe is created by and made up of masculine (Shiva) and feminine (Shakti) energies that infuse all things.

Women’s brains are wired differently than men’s, however both energies exist within each of us in varying amounts. Learning how to embrace and engage both fully is what makes a person psychologically, emotionally, and physically well.

Just as you wouldn’t operate a remote control with only one battery, you need both of these energies as your power sources. They’re necessary tools for shaping your life.

Is Your Energy Masculine Or Feminine?

Your Feminine Energy:

  • Is flowing and dynamic 
  • Her moves can’t be predicted or always explained with a rational mind
  • She’s unrestricted by the social norms because she doesn’t follow any rules other than the guidance coming from her heart
  • The core of feminine energy is a creation out of thin air
  • Unlike masculine energy, feminine energy doesn’t need to apply 10 steps to manifestation. She embodies the frequency of that which she wishes to experience and then she attracts like a magnet
  • Contrary to the traditional opinions, the feminine energy is powerful
  • Feminine energy strength comes from knowing who she is
  • Feminine energy doesn’t fear descending to her shadows. Far from it, she enjoys facing her inner demons because she recognizes that she meets her inner power in places where most are unwilling to travel.

Your Masculine Energy:

  • Stable and predictable.
  • Its strengths are willpower, clarity, and focus.
  • Masculine energy likes to create structures and rules, so it knows how to apply logic correctly.
  • It’s also knowledge whereas the feminine is knowing. Knowledge is static with precise dimensions and exact design. While knowing is forever changing. 
  • Pure masculine energy has the gift of clarity, so it knows what needs to be done to achieve something. No confusion or lack of direction blinds the masculine because it can cut with his sword of knowledge through any unclarity. 
  • He is the master of planning and laying out the guidelines that are based on logic and experience.
  • The masculine energy is protective. Thus he can smell danger from afar and make sure that nothing threatens him or his beloved ones. 
  • He fights for what he loves and finds the ways to achieve his goals.

What Are Signs Of Masculine Energy?

Signs Of Masculine Energy
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The traits and characteristics more representative for the divine masculine side are: 

  • Taking action
  • Assertiveness
  • Physical force
  • Decision maker
  • Leadership
  • Protection
  • Logical thinking and reasoning
  • Achieving
  • Being goal-oriented
  • Providing 

Thus, masculine energy is made of action, power, and strength.

If you think of the anatomy of a man’s body and heterosexual relationship, it makes a lot of sense. The masculine sexual organs are all about force and penetration, whereas in contrast, the feminine anatomy is built to be able to receive, create and shelter human life. 

A man that’s truly in his masculine energy, will display these traits and characteristics. It’s important for perfect balance, wellbeing and personal growth that men manifest feminine energy as well.

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Feminine Energy Characteristics

Masculine and feminine energies are completely opposite to each other. The main traits and characteristics of feminine energy are: 

  • Gentleness
  • Kindness
  • Heart-centeredness
  • Creativity
  • Intuition
  • Acceptance
  • Receiving
  • Emotionality 
  • Communication
  • Compassion
  • Empathy
  • Understanding
  • Forgiveness

A woman who has completely embraced her divine feminine energy will display all these qualities.

She’ll allow herself to receive, be in touch with her emotions and intuition, and have deep compassion for all living beings.

She’ll show empathy and understanding in her intimate relationships and will be able to forgive. This doesn’t mean she’ll be submissive or taken for granted. Instead, she’ll genuinely display these qualities and be able to choose a man who will respect her at all times.

What Does It Mean To Balance Masculine And Feminine Energy?

An uneven relationship exists between the seeming duality of feminine and masculine energies, which is of utmost importance.

In society, generally, we honor and elevate the masculine as more dominant energy (reasoning, strength, action) while diminishing and undervaluing feminine energy (emotional, nurturing, receptivity).

Although you may express more femininity as the dominant energy in your daily life while your friend expresses more masculinity and others somewhere in between, these expressions of gender have implications for what you  experience and your overall identity.

As you navigate ever-changing relationships with others and within yourself, keep in mind the value, validity, and ubiquitous presence of both masculine and feminine energies, and how they influence you on a deep, emotional level. This will serve you well.

Masculine And Feminine Energy Psychology

Gender is one of the first social categories that children learn in today’s societies. So an understanding of gender stereotypes is evident from early childhood on.

Into adulthood, both adolescents and college students construct their self-concepts in line with the gender stereotypes which they’ve internalized.

The Attitude Interest Analysis Survey (AIAS) was the first attempt to measure masculinity versus femininity.

Contemporary scales of masculinity/femininity have abandoned the single-factor approach in favor of multifactorial models.

In the 1970s, the Bem Sex Role Inventory (BSRI) introduced the concept of androgyny by allowing for combinations of two independent dimensions of masculinity and femininity.

Measuring masculinity/femininity in a theoretically meaningful way continues to be problematic. 

Currently, the multifactor gender identity perspective of masculinity and femininity has received stronger empirical support than other models.

Despite theoretical criticisms, both the BSRI and PAQ remain frequently used measures in gender research.

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Woman With Too Much Masculine Energy

Yes, women can definitely have too much masculine energy, known as a masculine woman.

A woman with too much masculine energy shows excessive masculine energy traits such as competitiveness, aggressiveness, and dominance.

She is often very independent, goal-oriented, and directive. She’s not usually very emotional or expressive and can be quite harsh and unyielding.

These are some specific traits:

  • always doing, competitive
  • pushing yourself too hard
  • obsessive with tasks
  • you find it difficult to express yourself
  • you come off as aggressive
  • you are authoritarian, micromanaging
  • you are the one in charge of arranging dates
  • disconnected from your emotions
  • self-worth based on the outside – material success, other people opinions
  • overly self-critical

However, it’s important to note that masculine energy is not bad or wrong. It’s just an aspect of who we are.

The key is to find balance and to use our masculine energy in a way that serves us and our lives.

If you find that you can relate to any of the traits above, or if you feel masculine energy is running your life, it might be time to do some work to balance and release that energy.

Ask yourself: What is your ideal? How fulfilled do you feel in your life?

Man With Too Much Feminine Energy

Effeminacy is the embodiment of traits in a boy or man that are more often associated with feminine behavior, mannerism, style, or gender roles rather than with traditionally masculine behavior, mannerisms, style or roles.

When the feminine energies inside you is in excess, you can:

  • be too sheltering toward others
  • feel responsible for the well-being of others
  • be too empathetic
  • be loose with your boundaries
  • feel content to the extreme where you don’t set new goals

When we integrate feminine and masculine energy, we can be powerful and compassionate, bold and kind, purposeful and caring, strong-willed and patient, demanding and collaborative.

This makes us more powerful and whole human beings.

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Masculine And Feminine Energy Yoga

Even in the world of yoga and spirituality, our practices easily become too forceful, competitive and regimented.

Much of the asana we practice was originally designed for 15-year-old male bodies! Masculine practices focus on transcending the body to attain a state of enlightenment.

These practices are powerful in the right context, yet must be balanced by the feminine energy. When we only feed masculine practices, we are getting just half of the story

Masculine practices focus on aesthetics, purification, strict and regimented movement and big, heady philosophy organized in linear charts and formulas.

Where the masculine focuses on transcendence, the feminine brings us into embodiment. Bliss is something we experience right here and right now, in the midst of imperfection.

Feminine traits for movement happen organically, intuitively and in spirals. Feminine meditation cultivates body awareness, acceptance, emotional expression and pleasure.

The feminine energy brings us into our feeling, sensing and ever-changing bodies. We are drawn to experience the world with presence, joy and heart.

Balancing Masculine And Feminine Energy Meditation

Here are a few tips to get your spiritual healing with balancing the masculine and feminine energies within:

  • Ask yourself throughout the day, “Am I in a state of doing (trying to get somewhere) or being (accepting myself as I am)?”
  • Add more intuitive, circular movements to your yoga practice. Close your eyes and let your body lead the way.
  • Use your hands to feel your body. This nourishes our desire for touch and intimacy.
  • Breathe into the pelvic floor and womb space. This is a plexus where feminine power resides.
  • Practice gratitude. When we do this, we can connect to the spirit of generosity in the world and in nature. 

Balance of the Masculine & Feminine Energy Meditation | Ilona Selke

Nurturing the differences in your feminine and masculine energies to correct any imbalance in your well being.

The two poles of energy within you merging together in balance can lead you on a path of self discovery and relationship building pointing you to embrace the best version of yourself and greater happiness.

If you know women or men who could nurture the feminine side of their energy or the masculine side, you have the opportunity ✅ to share this article with them. Consider sharing with three people you know today.

About The Author

Bijan Kholghi is a certified life coach with the Milton Erickson Institute Heidelberg (Germany). He helps clients and couples reach breakthroughs in their lives by changing subconscious patterns. His solution-oriented approach is based on Systemic- and Hypnotherapy.