How To Not Be A Dry Texter – 23 Tips How To Be Different (2024)

You’re tired!

Tired of the “ok, cool, and yeah” responses. Tired of being terrible in textual relationships. Tired of always being left on read.

You want to stop being a dry texter. You want to up your game. Maybe even get to the point where you finally ask your crush for a date.

Well, pull up a chair. It’s time to finally stop being a bad texter.

In this post, you’ll learn 23 ways on how to not be a dry texter.

Here’s what you’ll learn:

Let’s get right into it.

What Does It Mean to Be a Dry Texter?

Does any of these describe you?

  • Most of your texts are one-word answers.
  • You never ask any questions in return.
  • You’re incapable of texting first.
  • You leave people on reading for days.
  • You ignore all cute photos being sent to you.

If you answered yes to more than one of the above, you’re a textbook definition of a dry texter.

Being a dry texter means your text messages are uninteresting. You cannot sustain a conversation with someone over text messages. And since you can’t sustain conversations, communication problems are a common occurrence in your relationships.

To change this, you need to be a better texter.

But how do you do that? We cover that in the next section.

23 Tips on How to Not be a Dry Texter

#1. Avoid One Word Responses

There’s no faster way to kill a conversation than sending one-word responses.

Responding to a message with more than just “ok” or “yeah” shows that you’re engaged in the conversation. It also gives the other person something to work with when they reply.

Instead of just replying with “lol,” give a full laugh. Or how about “I know, right?”

This shows they’ve made an impression on you, and they can continue the conversation.

#2. Don’t Take Too Long to Reply

One of the worst things you can do to someone is ignore their messages.

It makes it seem like you’re not interested in talking to them or that you have better things to do.

This will not only make you seem rude, but it can also damage your relationship.

It’s best to avoid this by not taking too long to send a reply.

This means replying as soon as you can, within reason, of course. Don’t leave people on read for days because you’re busy doing something else.

#3. Don’t be overzealous

While you shouldn’t take too long to respond to messages, don’t be overzealous in your reply.

Replying too fast might indicate that you don’t have anything better to do.

Instead, try and match the energy exhibited by the other person on the line.

If they’re taking their time to reply, take your time. If they send you short and brief messages, don’t go writing paragraphs.

Matching the other person’s energy will make the conversation feel more natural and fluid.

It’ll also prevent it from drying out prematurely.

Related: Unique Texts To Get Him Chasing You

#4. Ask Interesting Questions

Another tip on how to not be a dry texter is to ask interesting questions. 

Questions are a great way to keep the conversation going.

Not only do they show that you’re interested in learning more about the person, but it also gives them something to work with when they reply.

Some questions could include asking about their childhood or their likes and passions.

Avoid asking generic questions such as “How are you doing?”.

Not only are these questions uninteresting, but on most occasions, the answer is usually the same.

You want to be asking questions that will elicit interesting responses. This is how you’ll keep the conversation going and prevent it from becoming dry.

Remember, the more engaged you are in the conversation, the less likely it will become a dry text exchange.

Wondering what types of questions to ask? This New York Times article on 36 questions to fall in love is a great place to start.

#5. Catch Their Attention By Starting an Interesting Conversation

The best way to start a conversation is by catching the other person’s attention.

One way of doing this is by starting with an exciting statement or question. This will get their attention, and it’ll also make them more likely to reply.

Some examples of statements that could work include making predictions, asking how they feel about a specific topic, or making an observation about something that recently happened.

Once you’ve gotten their attention, continue the conversation from there by asking them questions. This will make it easier for you to keep talking and avoid becoming too dry.

Remember that if your text messages are interesting, your conversations will be as well!

#6. Don’t Start Your Conversation the Same Everyday

Are you the kind of person who always starts your conversation with a “Hey!”

This could be why your conversations are becoming dry.

Every day, you’re starting your conversation the same way, and it’s making things boring for both of you. It’s best to switch things up a bit instead of always doing the same thing repeatedly.

Starting with how their day was or how yours is going can be great ways of breaking this habit.

You can also start your conversation with a question or statement unrelated to the weather. This will help keep things fresh and exciting for both of you.

#7. Have a Purpose for Your Conversation

Another way to make your conversation interesting is by always having a purpose for your conversations.

Don’t just text for the sake of texting.

Before initiating a conversation, have an idea of what you’d want to achieve by the end of the conversation.

What’s your aim? Do you want to ask them out on a date? Do you just want to check up on them?

Always have a plan for your conversations. This way, you’ll always know how to keep things exciting.

Having a purpose for your conversation will help with keeping the chatter alive!

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#8. Be Dynamic

Another tip on how to not be a dry texter is to be dynamic. 

Don’t only rely on words when texting.

Make your conversations more dynamic by introducing emojis and GIFs to express emotions.

They can also be ways to spice up how you’re talking.

However, be sure not to overdo it by adding too many emojis or GIFs in one text message.

This might make the conversation feel like a game of charades at times, leading to your texts becoming dry.

What’s important is that you use them sparingly to add some flavor to your conversations.

It’ll make the interactions more exciting and livelier!

#9. Share Memes and Photos

Like with emojis and GIFs, memes and cute photos could also help liven up the conversation.

You could send a cute photo or meme to start an interesting conversation. Ensure that they’re relevant and interesting before sending a photo or meme to another person.

You don’t want to be sharing something that will make things awkward between both of you!

After all, it’s not fun if your conversation is just a series of photos or memes.

Try to use them sparingly and only when relevant to the conversation.

#10. Have a Sense of Humor

Having a sense of humor will help you keep your conversation interesting.

Humor can be an excellent way to break the ice and lighten up how things are going.

You don’t have to come off as a comedian or anything like that. Just make sure that you’re showing how funny you can be.

It’ll make the conversations more enjoyable for both of you!

One way to show how funny you are is by sending memes or funny videos to make them laugh. Just be sure that they’re appropriate and not something that will offend them.

Laughter is a great way to keep any conversation going.

Related: How To Get Someone To Stop Texting You

#11. Flirt a Little

Flirting is a great way to make your conversations more interesting.

When you flirt with the person you’re talking to, it adds excitement and passion to the conversation.

However, don’t be too aggressive when you flirt with the other person but also make sure they know how you feel.

Flirting is a great way to get them interested in what’s going on between both of you!

Like adding humor, using flirty statements sparingly will help keep things interesting.

Too much of it, and it’ll become one-sided and might not be as fun for the other person! It’s essential to keep things balanced when you’re flirting with them.

#12. Be the First One to Text (Sometimes)

At the very start of a relationship, a woman will test a man by not being the first one to text or call. However, when this keeps up for too long, the man may see the woman as uninterested.

Don’t let this be you!

Don’t let your textual relationships feel one-sided. 

Start reaching out. Don’t always wait for the other person to text first.

Being the first one to text shows that you’re interested. It also helps you direct the conversation to topics you find interesting.

#13. Ask for an Opinion

Another great tip on how to not be a dry texter is to ask the other person their opinion on something. 

This could be anything, from a current event to how they feel about a particular celebrity.

It’ll help the conversation flow more smoothly, and it’ll show that you’re interested in what they have to say.

People love giving their opinions, and it’ll make them feel like you value their thoughts and views! Plus, you might learn something new by hearing an opinion from someone else.

Asking for someone’s opinion is a great way to keep the conversation going.

Just be sure that you’re not asking too many questions, or it might become overwhelming for them!

#14. Also, Share Your Opinion

Don’t just ask for their opinion!

While reading someone’s opinion, be sure to respond with your point of view.

This will show how well you can articulate your thoughts, and it’ll keep the conversation more interesting!

It’ll also show that you’re engaged in the conversation and that you want to hear what they have to say.

When both of you give your opinions, it’ll make the discussion more engaging!

Sharing your thoughts is a great way to keep the conversation going. Just be sure not to overpower them or hog all the conversation.

Share your thoughts, and let them share theirs!

#15. Use Proper End Punctuation

One thing that people tend to do when they’re texting is use abbreviations and cut out parts of their sentences.

When you’re writing a text, be sure to punctuate it correctly!

This will make the conversation more interesting, as proper punctuation makes your texts stand out! It’ll also show how well-versed you are in writing.

Use punctuation marks that are appropriate for how you’re texting them!

When asking them how their day is going, you might use a question mark. Use an exclamation point if you’re telling them something exciting. Also avoid using too may question marks as this makes you seem needy.

Using proper grammar and punctuation will keep the conversation more interesting as it’ll be easier to read!

Related: Why Does He Text Me Everyday If He Only Wants Friendship

#16. Switch Between Questions and Stories

When you’re texting someone, be sure to switch between asking questions and telling stories.

This will make the conversation flow more naturally, and it’ll keep them engaged in what you have to say!

If you’re asking too many questions, it can be overwhelming for them, and they might not know how to answer.

On the other hand, if you always tell stories without giving any time for them to respond, it’ll make the conversation more one-sided!

You don’t want that when someone’s trying to get to know you better!

By alternating between questions and stories, you’ll keep the conversation more interesting. This way, they’ll have a chance to talk about themselves while also hearing about what’s going on in your life!

It’ll be a balance of both giving and receiving information which is crucial for any conversation

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#17. Be Spontaneous and Mysterious

Just as it is in real life, being spontaneous and mysterious helps to keep people interested.

Don’t give up everything in your first text messages.

Save some things for later and let them wonder about you. This will make them more intrigued by you, and they’ll want to learn more.

It’s also an excellent way to test their interest in you.

If they’re not interested, they won’t bother finding out more about you.

#18. Read Between the Lines

A lot can be said by how someone texts you.

Pay attention to the tone of their messages and see if they’re trying to hint at something.

For example, if they ask how you are but don’t respond to your answer, it might mean that they’re not interested in continuing the conversation.

On the other hand, if they ask how you’re doing and then respond to your answer, it shows that they’re engaged in the conversation.

By reading between the lines, you’ll better understand how they feel about the conversation!

It can be difficult to read someone’s tone through text messages, but it’s possible!

If you’re looking for a better understanding of why a guy keeps texting you every day, check out our article here.

#19. Focus on Details

When talking to someone, be sure to focus on the details.

This will show that you’re interested in what they have to say, and it’ll make the conversation more engaging for both of you.

It could be anything from asking about their favorite football team or about a meal they had told you they were making.

When you focus on the details, it’ll show that you’re genuinely interested in getting to know them better. It could also lead to further conversations about those details!

The more engaged you are in the conversation, the more interesting it’s going to be for both of you.

Make sure that you’re actively listening and asking questions about the things that they’re saying! 

#20. Know Your Limits

Just like in real life, there are some topics that you should avoid when texting.

These include religion, politics, and money.

You don’t need to talk about how much money you make or how you vote.

Unless the other person brings it up, avoid talking about these things. You don’t want to come off as aggressive or opinionated.

There are plenty of other things to talk about!

It’s better for the relationship if you keep off certain topics!

#21. Don’t Just Text, Request to Meet Up

Let’s be honest!

The reason you want to be a more exciting texter is to build up a relationship. Texting should lead you to a date.

So don’t spend too much time texting that you forget to ask the other person to meet up.

Texting is how you get to know someone.

But, when it’s time for them to meet up in person and see what you’re really like, that can be a different story!

Don’t just keep texting without having any intention of meeting up. That’s how you end up in the dreaded friendzone.

#22. Invest your Time in the Conversations

Just like in any other relationship, the more time you invest in it, the better it’ll be.

Don’t just text someone and then disappear for a few days.

That’s how you lose their interest!

Be consistent with your texting and make sure that you’re responding to their messages.

You could set aside some time at the end of the day as your texting period. This way, you’re not distracted by work or other things.

It might seem like a lot of effort, but it’s worth it in the long run!

#23. Enjoy Yourself

The last tip on how to not be a dry texter is to ensure you enjoy yourself when texting. 

If you don’t enjoy texting, you’re more likely to send one-word texts and leave people waiting for your response for days.

However, when you enjoy texting, it stops feeling like a chore.

You’ll be more engaged in the conversation, and you’ll also be more interesting!

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It’s Time to Finally Stop Being a Dry Texter

There you go!

Twenty-three tips on how to not be a dry texter. Which of these tips will you use to up your texting game? Do you know any other tips on being a different and more interesting texter?

Please tell us in the comment section below.

And if you have any questions regarding the tips mentioned in this article, please ask them in the comment section.

I’ll be happy to answer any questions asked.

About The Author

Bijan Kholghi is a certified life coach with the Milton Erickson Institute Heidelberg (Germany). He helps clients and couples reach breakthroughs in their lives by changing subconscious patterns. His solution-oriented approach is based on Systemic- and Hypnotherapy.