If you’re in a casual relationship with a man and are currently wondering how to make him commit without pressure, this is the guide for you.
In my role as a life coach, I am often helping men and women better understand their relationships and how to get what they want from them.
Indeed, it’s common for women to ponder on how to make a man commit to a monogamous relationship with them. Putting pressure on them is rarely a good idea.
That’s why I’ve created this relationship advice guide with a list of the best ways to make him commit without pressure.
How Do You Make Him Get Committed?
Take a look at this list of ideas below. These are some ways that you can show a man that you’re ‘girlfriend material’. Of course, every man is different. Some men might not care about a lot of the ideas listed below. Nevertheless, it’s a good list to help you appeal to most guys.
The more of these ideas you can implement, the more likely you’ll be to blow this man’s mind and make him fall in love with you.
The general idea is to be so awesome that he feels it would be crazy not to commit to you. You’re aiming to give him an experience better than his life as a single guy trying to chase new partners all the time.
That’s a far more effective strategy than being a mediocre girl constantly pressuring her man to commit to her.
So, let’s dive in.
1. How Long Does It Take For A Man To Commit?
A lot of guys get nervous about commitment. It typically takes them longer than most women expect. However, a lot of them will eventually come around if you’re a good woman who he perceives as a suitable partner.
If you’re being good to him, it may just be a case of being patient. Most of the tips below will explore what it means to be ‘good’ to a man.
2. Enjoy Your Time Together
It’s surely one of the most important hallmarks of a healthy relationship for you to have fun whenever you’re together. In the initial stages, this is all you should focus on. If you skip the fun stage and jump straight into serious talks about a committed relationship, you’re just going to scare him off.
It may sound simple, but if he’s having fun when you spend time together, he’ll want to see you more.
3. Screen That He’s The Right For Man For You
A lot of the tips below focus on you being great ‘girlfriend material’ for your man. But, before you go ahead and give him the world, it’s important to screen for whether he’s worth it.
It’s a great idea to have a list of qualities that your ideal boyfriend would need to make you happy. Then, go ahead and screen to see if he meets these standards.
If he passes the test, it’s now your job to show him how great you are.
4. Make Him Feel Like A King
Once you’ve deemed him worthy of your love, it’s time to treat this man like your king.
There’s a lot of noise being made in the media that men and women should be equals in every aspect of a relationship.
That’s fantastic, but if you want a great man to commit to you, it’s better to treat him as your leader.
Masculine men like to lead. Feminine women like to be led. And there’s nothing wrong with that.
5. Ask Him What He Wants In The Future
If you want a guy to commit to you, it’s important to let him know. That’s not to say you should make an ultimatum or pressure him in any way.
The best way to go about it is to ask where he sees himself in a few years, then go on to mention your goals for the future.
6. Casually Mention Your Future Goals
If your long-term goals aren’t aligned to his, don’t panic. Just mention that you seem to want different things, and see how he responds. Hopefully, he’ll be the one trying to initiate a compromise because he’s scared to lose you.
Most likely, this’ll only happen later in the relationship, after he’s seen your true value. The rest of this guide focuses on how to show this to him effectively.
7. Praise His Masculinity
If he’s a masculine guy who is able to take charge and get things done, don’t be afraid to praise him for this. He’ll love it.
A lot of guys with commitment issues are worried that their girlfriend or wife will try to take charge, esmasculate them and steal their freedom.
It’s in your best interests to show him you won’t do that in a serious relationship.
8. Don’t Let Him Do Too Much For You
If you can be the woman who lets him take charge, but also pitches in with a few thoughtful favors now and again, he’ll really appreciate it. That’s next level awesomeness. It’ll do a lot to show you as worthy of a serious committed relationship.
9. Be His Cheerleader
A lot of men are looking for support from their girlfriend or wife in whatever they are pursuing. If you are taking an interest in the parts of his life that he’s passionate about, that’ll earn you a lot of brownie points.
10. Avoid The Mind Games
If there’s one thing men hate about the early stages of dating, it’s the silly mind games.
If you’re ignoring his texts to seem more busy, deliberately trying to make him jealous or posting cryptic messages on social media, it’s only going to frustrate him.
Refrain from these silly behaviors to earn his trust and inspire him to want to spend more time with you.
11. Try And Help Him To Win
If you have the same passions and interests as him, that can go a long way to making him want to commit.
If he’s able to discuss other areas of his life with you – and you’re able to provide intelligent ideas for him to improve – that’s something he’ll often appreciate.
He might not really want unsolicited advice or for you to boss him around, but if he asks for feedback and you’re able to provide it, that’s a huge bonus for him.
12. Be Drama-Free
A lot of men with commitment issues are worried to deal with the drama and arguments that often pop up in committed relationships.
If you can be relaxed about the inevitable differences in opinions that’ll occur, you can erase this fear for your man and make him more open to considering a serious relationship.
13. Be Independent
A man tends to feel smothered if his woman doesn’t have their own life outside of the relationship. Sometimes, he’ll want space, so he’ll appreciate if you have things you like to do without him.
14. Have A Great Life That Adds To His
If you can bring cool friends, items or opportunities that make his life more enjoyable, that’s great leverage to get him to commit.
When both partners have a fun life outside of the relationship, this tends to make the relationship itself healthier, because neither person is overly dependent on it.
15. Look Your Best
Men are very visual when it comes to attraction. The problem is: some women stop making an effort on their appearance once they’re in serious relationships. Yes, your man may still appreciate you anyway, but most guys really love when their woman makes the effort to look amazing all the time.
16. Be A Demon In The Sack
Guys are heavily motivated by physcial intimacy. Many fear it will dry up or become too boring if they get into a monogamous relationship.
If you can demonstrate a sex drive that’s equal to his and a prowess between the sheets, that’ll blow his mind and dispel the fear.
Sex is important for bonding and will do a lot to bring him closer to you.
17. Be A Social Butterfly
I’m not saying it’s a good idea to actively try and make anyone jealous, but if you’re regularly out having fun with lots of other people, a man will often feel the need to seek commitment from you.
This is because he knows you’re likely to be meeting plenty of other guys who would commit to you, given half the opportunity.
If you’re only socialising with him, he won’t feel a need to put a label on your relationship, because you’re already committing most of your time to him.
It’s hard to make a man commit without there being a solid benefit to his life for doing so.
18. Be Vulnerable And Encourage Him To Do The Same
Most men appreciate the emotional support that comes with a relationship. If a man can be vulnerable around you and talk about his true feelings, that’ll do a lot to make your relationship more special to him.
Often, the best way to encourage him to open up is to take the lead and do it first.
19. Don’t Be Too Emotional
While it’s good to be vulnerable, it’s also helpful to keep your emotions in check. If you’re crying about your unresolved traumas every day, that could be overwhelming for any man.
While it’s fine to seek his emotional support and to offer yours, neither of you should be emotionally dependent on each other.
20. Don’t Be Too Predictable
Men who fear commitment often suggest that a relationship will make their life more boring and predictable. If you’re always bringing something a bit different to the table, this will show him that’s not true. Often, he’ll want to commit to you just to learn what really makes you tick.
21. Bring Out His Adventurous Side
If you’re the type of person who encourages him to broaden his horizons and expand his comfort zone, that’s likely to be a huge plus point for him. Guys like the idea of committing to a woman who is going to make him better. A great relationship is one where you both grow together. So, it’s a great idea to talk about how you can each do that.
22. Let Him Chase You
Yes, you should be your best self whenever he’s around, but don’t make it too easy for him to win you over.
A lot of men like the thrill of the chase. They’re more likely to commit to a woman if it feels like a huge win for them, rather than an easy pursuit that any other guy could have achieved.
I’m not saying you should be playing toxic mind games or pushing him away when he asks you out. At the same time, you shouldn’t be pressuring him to commit to you.
23. Reverse Psychology To Get Him To Commit
It’s not the most honest or ethical strategy to make a man want you, but that’s not to say reverse psychology isn’t effective.
When you’ve been dating a while and it’s going a while, but he’s not sure if you want to commit, he may begin to chase commitment more.
Again, this is because getting commitment from you is going to feel like more of a win when he gets it.
24. Get Along With His Friends
If you can talk and get along with his friends, he’s going to feel like you’re a perfect complement to his life.
What’s more, you can bet they’ll be asking him if he’s going to bring you to the next get-together and if he’s going to commit to you.
If his friends don’t like you, they’ll be talking about that to him for sure. It’s going to create conflict and make it harder for him to commit to you.
25. Pay For Dates
It’s 2023 – and we’re still debating whether men should fund all dating. It’s crazy.
All guys hate that some women expect them to pay for everything.
Poor men hate it because it puts a huge financial strain on them. Rich men hate it because they’re afraid of attracting women who just want them for their money.
You can help both categories of man like you far more by offering to pay your half.
Fail to do this, and they’ll assume they’ll have to pay double for everything forever if they commit to you.
26. Dress To Impress
Make an effort with your outfit every time you see him. It communicates that you respect yourself and that you want to impress him.
A lot of guys fear the idea of a relationship that goes stale, where both parties stop trying to impress each other.
27. Don’t Let Him Mistreat You
While men do appreciate women who let them take the lead, they don’t want to commit to a doormat. They wouldn’t feel the need to, because they’ll assume you’ll let them get away with anything.
So, if this guy does cross your personal boundaries, make sure to let him know. He’ll respect you for it.
28. Be Yourself
It’s crazy that so many women and men hide the quirkiest parts of their personalities during the early stages of dating. In doing so, they’re essentially watering themselves down.
Your best shot at securing commitment from a great guy is to be fully yourself. Yes, he’s more likely to hate you – but he’s also more likely to fall in love. Play to win, not to not lose.
29. Don’t Try To Change Him
If there are certain parts of his personality or things that he does that you disagree with, don’t try and change him.
That’s a great way to make him not want to commit to you. Guys hate when women try to change them. If it’s a deal-breaker, there’s nothing wrong with talking about it, but be prepared to lose him if he won’t change.
30. Meet His Family
The ultimate reason for him to commit to you is because he wants to start a family with you. If you can get along with his family, that’s a clear sign you could be a good candidate for long-term commitment.
31. Let Him Keep His Freedom
If a man wants to spend Friday nights with his friends or business colleagues, he also wants a woman that’s OK with that.
Yes, you deserve a guy who makes time for you, not one who makes lame excuses to avoid you. But, at the same time, he will not want to commit to anyone who limits his freedom.
32. Be A Woman With Substance
If he’s discovering new layers to your personality all the time, that’s going to peak his interest and make him excited to spend more time with you.
33. Don’t Be Desperate For Love
It’s a well-known aspect of psychology that we feel nervous to give someone something if they need it too much.
It’s a fine balance. You need to make your intentions clear, without appearing too desperate for it.
Here’s how I suggest going about it. When you fall in love, give him everything you have emotionally, but be prepared to walk away if he doesn’t reciprocate.
34. Respect Him
Respect should be at the foundation of any successful relationship.
Yes, he has to earn his respect. But, once he has it, don’t be afraid to verbalise this to him.
And try your best to behave in a respectful manner at all times. Treat him how you expect to be treated.
35. Be Confident In Yourself
Self-confidence is one of the sexiest traits a man or woman could have.
While it’s OK to expect the occasional confidence boost from your man, your self-esteem shouldn’t rely on how he treats you.
That’s a lot of pressure to put on any guy, and it’s not what a man wants from a relationship.
If you’re a naturally self-confident person, he’s less likely to think he can continue stringing you along in a casual relationship.
36. Let Him Feel Your Absence
They say absence makes the heart grow stronger. In my experience, that’s solid relationship advice. Giving him space can be pretty powerful.
If you’re around all the time, he could take you for granted or even feel smothered.
If you’re off doing your own thing, this gives him time to appreciate what you bring to his world when you’re around.
Now he has motivation to commit to you, as a strategy for him to make you want to be around him more.
Why would he seek commitment if you’re always around him anyway?
36. Make Him Realize He Needs You
If it feels like he doesn’t appreciate what you do for him, take it away just long enough for him to notice.
This should wake him up to all the great things you bring to his life – and will hopefully allow him to see your worth.
37. Don’t Wait Forever
If he feels like you’ll wait forever for commitment, there’s every chance he could make you wait that long.
The truth is: you need to be willing to walk away from a man who won’t commit.
You need the self-confidence to know that you’ll find someone else in this big wide world.
There’s no need to pressure him to commit to you. Just break it off if he won’t do it.
Often, a man will sense when you’re not going to put up with casual dating for much longer. If you’re a great catch, he’ll make the move to transition your relationship to the next level at this point. If he doesn’t, he was the wrong guy for you anyway.
At least, by walking away early, you give yourself more time to find a better option.
How Do You Get A Guy To Commit That Doesn’t Want A Relationship?
You may have noticed that this list was packed with ideas to make him want to commit to a relationship.
There’s no other way to get him to commit.
It’s common for a man to constantly think and say that he doesn’t want a committed relationship – until he meets that girl who blows him away and changes his mind.
Your goal is to be that amazing woman.
If you feel like you’ve done all you can to prove yourself to this man and he still doesn’t want a committed relationship, you need to walk away.
Find someone else who appreciates your awesomeness.
Ironically, this can often be the ultimate power move that makes men want to give you the world.
Of course, you might decide it’s too late for him by then.
Any More Questions On How To Make Him Commit Without Pressure?
I hope you enjoyed my guide on how to make a man commit without having to put pressure on him.
Dating is tough, but hopefully the tips in this guide will help the right guy to fall for you
If you feel like leaving some thoughts, questions or advice on this topic, you can do so in the comments below.
It would be great to hear from you.