21 Best Ways How To Make A Man Want You Bad (2024)

In this guide, you’ll discover how to make a man want you bad. It features 21 powerful tips to drive men wild with desire.

My role as a life coach involves helping clients understand themselves and those around them better – and that’s why I’m excited to share this guide with you. 

So, let’s dive in.

DISCLAIMER: You Don’t Have To Do Any Of These Things

This isn’t a guide saying what women should be like. This isn’t a guide criticizing women in any way. 

You don’t have to do anything to make a man want you bad. Maybe you could ignore this entire list and still inspire a man to fall in love with you. Perhaps you already have!

This is just a list of what most men appreciate in a romantic partner.

Do with it what you will.   

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With that disclaimer out the way, here are 21 of the best ways to drive a man crazy with desire.   

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1. Look The Part

It’s no secret that your physical appearance is important to attract men. If you have a fit and healthy body, that can do so much to drive a man wild with lust.  

If you have a good fashion sense and your make-up is on point, that’ll help too. Men tend to appreciate when women make the effort to look nice for them. 

2. The Way You Carry Yourself 

Do you have that confident Beyonce main character energy? Are you the life of the party? Do you walk into a room like you own it? Do you shake your booty on the dancefloor like a true diva? These are all qualities that can drive men crazy with desire. 

3.  Do You Have A Great Social Media Profile?

Nowadays, a woman doesn’t even have to leave the house to attract male attention. If you’re posting provocative photos on Instagram or silly videos on TikTok, that can be enough to make an army of men fall in love with you.    

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4. Flirting

Flirting is an art form. It’s about showing a guy you’re interested, while leaving some doubt in his mind. It’s about offering him a glimpse of your attractive qualities and encouraging him to chase.

So, are you a good flirt or an awkward one? How is your body language around men you’re attracted to? Do you have the confidence to maintain eye contact in a moment of sexual tension? These are the tiny things that can really make a man want you bad. 

5. Femininity

Femininity is about embracing your emotions and enjoying the moment. If he’s a man who works hard, he wants a woman who helps him let his hair down and play hard. Femininity is also about caring, loving and nurturing. So, don’t be afraid to show your affection once you feel it. 

6. Low Maintenance

I’ve seen plenty of articles and videos where a female relationship coach tells women to make men work for their affection. This content tends to teach women they should always be wined, dined and spoiled because they’re ‘queens’.

That’s great! A woman should always be inspired to have self-love and be more confident! 

But the truth is: if you don’t constantly expect the red carpet treatment from your man, it’ll do a lot to make him want to spend more time with you.   

Are you the type of woman who tries to have fun on any type of date? Or the woman who sits in the expensive restaurant with a pout and body language that says “impress me”?

Men love the first category way more. I promise you!

7. Gratitude

This ‘queen’ attitude can lead a lot of women to be ungrateful for the effort that men put into organising a date. There are some women who can only focus on everything their man does wrong. 

It might sound obvious, but this isn’t the way to make him want you bad. 

A positive attitude of gratitude can do a lot to make you stand out among other women. It can also inspire men to put even more effort into impressing you.

8. Compliments

It’s rare for men to receive compliments, in comparison to women anyway. If you can boost a man’s self-confidence and make him feel good with unique compliments, this can often leave a real impact and make him want to see you again. 

9. A Good Sense Of Humor

You don’t need to be cracking jokes like a stand-up comedian, but if you have some witty banter about you, that’s going to be attractive to a lot of men.

10. Don’t Take Yourself Too Seriously 

Most men want to feel comfortable teasing and making jokes with you, without fearing that you’re going to take it the wrong way. It should be easy to hang out and have fun with you. No man wants to feel like he’s treading on eggshells around his woman.  

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11. Leave Him Wanting More

That doesn’t mean you refrain from all physical activity on your first date. If you really want to get a man obsessed, give him enough of a taste to get him hooked. Then, stop and leave him wanting more.  

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12. Activate His Hero Instinct

The Hero Instinct is a concept created by James Bauer and his highly-trained relationship coaches. The idea is that you can make a man want you bad by triggering certain parts of his brain that make him feel like a ‘real man’. I’ve written a full guide on the Hero Instinct if you want to learn more. 

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13. Social Media

With social media, you can passively show him all the cool stuff you’re getting up to in your life. Couple this with the occasional conversation in the DMs or a comment on his pictures to keep him interested and make him excited to see you again.

14. Send Seductive Pictures

They say a picture is worth a thousand words, and that’s definitely true when you’re messaging a man to make him want to see you. 

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15. Create Space For Him To Chase

It’s an accepted fact of human psychology that we value what’s difficult to obtain, and that’s why giving a man space will often make him want you bad. 

The thing is: most men and women hate having to give mixed signals or play hard to get. 

It’s a part of dating we all wish we could skip. Yet, if we throw outselves at someone, we’re in danger of being taken for granted. It’s common that a man would quickly lose interest if you come across as desperate or needy. 

A nice solution is to put the same effort into them as they put into you. That way, your relationship can grow at a pace you’re both comfortable with – and you can avoid the mind games that create these difficult love situations.

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16. Growth Mindset

If a man is able to date many women, you’ll need to stand out as being better than most women!

A great way to do this is to demonstrate your commitment to self-improvement. If he’s an ambitious guy, he’s going to be passionate about becoming the best version of himself and would probably love to find a woman with the same mindset. 

So, are you aiming to become more intelligent? Are you working to become more confident or a nicer person? Are you trying to fix your unattractive qualities? It’s not easy for a man to find a woman like this, but he’ll appreciate it when he does. It’ll catch his interest, for sure.

A relationship where both halves of the couple grow together is a wonderful thing. For most ambitious guys, that’s worth giving up the single life for.   

17. You Can Look After Yourself

Men like to be the knight in shining armour to a certain point, but they don’t want a relationship where their woman is completely dependent on them. Ideally, you can look after yourself and have good things going on in your own life to share with him.

18. You Make An Effort With His Friends And Family 

When you do this, you show a man you really care about him. This can really touch a man’s heart and do a lot to make him want to be your boyfriend.

19. Amazing Sex

If you’re trying to make a man commit to only sleeping with you, you better know how to blow his mind in the bedroom. If a man is good at playing the field, he’s not going to sacrifice that for a boring relationship with boring sex.

20. No Drama

Yes, it’s pretty obvious that sometimes a man and a woman will disagree in a relationship. But how do you resolve that conflict? Do you have a calm and authentic conversation, or are you constantly screaming and shouting?

A relationship should make a man’s life easier, not harder. It should be fun, not stressful. The less drama that surrounds you and your man, the more interested he’ll be in a relationship with you. 

21. You’d Make A Great Mother

When consdering whether to get into a relationship, a lot of guys will ask themselves: “Will she make a good mother of my kids?”

He might not want children right now. Perhaps he’s trying to focus on other things, but this is still a question he’ll hear in the back of his mind.

It’s evolutionary. That’s the biological reason why men are typically attracted to young women with big boobs, wide hips and a small waist. It’s why some men appreciate a woman who can cook and clean. 

It all boils down to the same question: “Will she make a good mother?”

If the answer is NO, it doesn’t matter if you’re an attractive person. This guy will probably not commit to you.   

However, if you are showing most of the qualities in the final section of this list, the answer will probably be YES.

Of course, it’s also important that you fit into each other’s daily routine and have similar life goals. This is something you’ll need to talk about early in your relationship. 

If you have all that, plus the outer and inner beauty, you’re going to drive this man crazy with desire and make him want to give you the world. 

Any Questions? 

Thanks for reading my guide on how to make a man want you bad. I hope it makes you feel more confident in your pursuit of a dream relationship.

If you have a question on the topic, feel free to leave it in the comments below. 

I want to keep talking about this subject, so it would mean the world to hear from you. I’ll do my best to reply as quickly as possible.

About The Author

Bijan Kholghi is a certified life coach with the Milton Erickson Institute Heidelberg (Germany). He helps clients and couples reach breakthroughs in their lives by changing subconscious patterns. His solution-oriented approach is based on Systemic- and Hypnotherapy.