How To Know If A Sagittarius Man Is Playing You: 21 Signs (2024)

Sagittarius men are truly one of a kind. They’re charming, irresistible, and bold. And if you’ve ever been in a relationship with a Sagittarius man, you know that they’re full of passion and romance.

But unfortunately, some Sagittarius men are players. So, if you have a Sagittarius guy in your life that’s making you feel like you’re not good enough, you’re going to want to read this article.

Let’s dive in.

Do Sagittarius Like to Play?

Sagittarius men are known for their adventure-loving and confident souls. But are they players? Yes, as a matter of fact, Sagittarius men can be players.

Being in a relationship with a Sagittarius guy is all fun and games until you’re no longer sure what their intention is with you.

Do they want to be in a serious relationship, or are they just playing around? If you’re in a similar situation right now, continue reading to see some obvious signs that a Sagittarius guy is playing you.

How to Know If A Sagittarius Man Is Playing You

Here are the 21 most obvious signs a Sagittarius man is playing you.

1. Your Sagittarius Man Doesn’t Want to Talk About Your Relationship

If he’s constantly avoiding talking about your relationship and seems like he’s not invested enough, it means he’s probably playing you. Don’t settle for anything less than you want and deserve. 

2. He Tells You He Doesn’t Want a Serious Relationship

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Some Sagittarius men will tell you loud and clear that they just want casual sex. That’s the most obvious sign you can get that your Sagittarius man is playing you, so don’t ignore it.

3. He Wants a Lot of Alone Time

Some people want to spend time alone, and that’s perfectly fine. But if you feel like he’s constantly asking for alone time, that’s a big red flag. He’s probably hiding something.

4. He Is Cold and Distant

While Sagittarius men are known for their distant attitude, they can easily open up when they’re in a romantic relationship with someone they love. But when that’s not the case, and they act all cold and distant, that’s a sign they’re not serious and are probably playing you.

5. He Tries to Convince You That He Loves You

Everyone wants to hear those three words, but nobody wants to be played with. If you feel it in your gut that your Sagittarius man is not sincere when he tells you he loves you, that’s probably because he doesn’t. He wants to get something from you, so he tries to convince you he loves you.

6. He Starts Acting Possessive and Controlling

Sagittarius men tend to be possessive and controlling, so when he starts acting that way, don’t ignore it. It’s not a sign he loves you; it’s a serious red flag.

7. Your Sagittarius Guy Ignores Your Feelings

There are two people in every relationship, and you shouldn’t let anyone make you think anything else. If your relationship starts feeling more one-sided and your Sagittarius man ignores your feelings, it’s probably because he’s a player.

8. Your Sagittarius Man Never Takes You Out on Dates

Do you ever go out on dates, or you’re just constantly spending time in the bedroom? It’s time to talk to him about that because he might be playing you.

9. Your Sagittarius Man Makes Important Decisions on His Own

Do you always feel left out in your relationship? If he’s constantly making big decisions without you, it means he’s not serious about it, and you deserve better than that.

10. He Seems Bored When He’s With You

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If he seems bored and is always trying to get away from hanging out with you, that’s a sign your Sagittarius man is playing you. Relationships should be fun and exciting, so find someone who will enjoy every second spent with you.

11. He Tells You He Loves You but Doesn’t Show It

Another obvious sign he’s playing you is when he tells you he loves you but never shows it. Actions always speak louder than words, so if he doesn’t show his love, he’s probably a player.

12. He Flirts With Other Women

Flirting with other women is a big no! That’s the most obvious sign your Sagittarius man is playing you and is not ready to settle down. 

13. He Never Posts You on Social Media

If he’s constantly posting other stuff and people on social media but never posts you, that’s a red flag. He’s either hiding you, has another relationship on the side or is not ready to be in a serious relationship. And you deserve so much better than that!

14. He Doesn’t Want to Meet Your Family or Friends

Meeting each other family and friends is a huge step in every relationship. So if he clearly doesn’t want to meet them and is always avoiding them, you should ask yourself if he’s really committed to you. He’s probably playing you and is not serious about your relationship.

15. He Doesn’t Want to Introduce You to His Family or Friends

Another huge red flag is when your Sagittarius man doesn’t want to introduce you to his family and friends. He’s obviously a player and is probably already planning his next relationship, so you should walk away as soon as possible. 

16. He Makes You Feel Like You’re Not Good Enough for Him

Whenever you feel like you’re not good enough in a relationship, that’s a clear sign something is off. If your man is making you feel bad about yourself, he’s probably a player, and he definitely doesn’t deserve you.

17. You See Each Other on His Own Terms

Does he ignore you when you want to see each other but then he gets mad when you do it to him? That’s a big no! If you always see each other on his terms, unfortunate, your Sagittarius man is playing you. 

18. He’s Constantly Negative

We all have bad days, but if he’s constantly negative about you and you start feeling like you’re to blame, it’s time to walk away. You should be with someone who’s genuinely happy to be with you and not miserable.

19. He’s Gaslighting You

Gaslighting is a manipulation method, and most players use it to get what they want. When you feel like he’s making you crazy, try to stay calm and keep your cool. Don’t give him what he wants. Instead, walk away and find someone who will treat you better.

20. He Always Makes Excuses

You want to introduce him to your best friend, but he’s too tired to go out. You want to go to the movies, but he already made other plans. Excuses, excuses! If he’s all about excuses, that’s a clear sign he’s a player who’s not ready to commit to anyone.

21. He Lies to You About Where He’s Been

Lying is unacceptable in a relationship, so if you catch him lying to you or trying to hide something, don’t ignore it. He’s probably a player and wants to get away with something. 

How Do You Know When a Sagittarius Man Is Lying?

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Sagittarius is a zodiac sign that’s known for its tendency to lie and manipulate. They are very good at lying, so it’s very hard to see through Sagittarius man’s secrets sometimes. 

He will go above and beyond to convince you he’s not lying and make you believe anything. And if you don’t, he will just shrug his shoulders and tell you that if you don’t believe him, that’s your problem.

When a Sagittarius lies, he is casual about it. If you start questioning his honesty, he’ll gaslight you and tell you that he doesn’t have time to deal with this.

He can lie without blinking an eye which is why it’s very hard to see through him. What’s even worse, he will make you feel guilty for ever doubting him. 

How Do You Know if a Sagittarius Man Is Obsessed With You?

Sagittarius is a passionate zodiac sign. When he’s in love, he will not be shy about it. He will want to tell the world about how he feels. That’s why it’s very easy to spot a Sagittarius in love. He will not shy away from PDA. He will want to kiss you in public, hold you hand, and be close to you whenever he wants.

Another way to tell if a Sagittarius man is obsessed with you is that he will want to know everything about you. From your childhood memories to your favorite TV shows, he will want to know every single detail about you.

Related: 6 Best Sagittarius Soulmates & Why

Do Sagittarius Guys Hide Their Feelings?

Sagittarius guys won’t share their feelings with just anyone, especially if they’re hurting or feel betrayed.

Quite the opposite, they will hide their feelings from the world and distance themselves from everyone. They usually need time to process what they’re feeling, and that’s why they need space. 

Sometimes they find it hard to express their feelings, so they prefer to express them with actions.

When they’re in love, they won’t hide it. The same goes for when they’re angry. They are not scared to confront you and tell you that they’re angry. 

How to Know if a Sagittarius Man Is Playing You Through Text

It’s not that easy to see through a Sagittarius man through text. That’s why they prefer this means of communication over anything else when they’re trying to play you. Here are some signs to watch out for:

  • He leaves you on ‘read’ for hours or even days;
  • He never texts first;
  • He never picks up the phone when you’re calling him;
  • He’s flirty over text but cold in person;
  • He seems like a different person through text;
  • He only texts you when he wants to have sex.

How to Play a Sagittarius Man at His Own Game

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So, you want to play mind games with a Sagittarius man and win? Well, good luck! It certainly won’t be easy. They’re masters at mind games, especially if they’ve had previous experience playing other girls. 

First of all, start playing hard to get. This will drive him crazy because he’s used to being the distant one. He wants to be the one that’s hard to get. So when you start acting like you don’t care, he may be intrigued by it. 

Also, whenever he tries to confront you about it, gaslight him. Give him the taste of his own medicine. He might realize what it feels like when he does it to you and regret his actions.

Another passive-aggressive game to play with a Sagittarius man is to challenge his facts. Since he’s big on debates, he will get caught in this game immediately. He might not even notice what you did to him.

If you constantly question the facts he shares with you, a Sagittarius guy will start to feel insecure, and that’s how you can play a Sagittarius man at his own game.

How to Know if a Sagittarius Man Loves You

A Sagittarius in love will go above and beyond to take care of you. He will always put you first and notice how you’re feeling. He will also tell you loud and clear that he loves you. 

He will also show it to you with small everyday things but also grand gestures. He will want to hold your hand and introduce you to his family.

He will want to spend time with you, whether that’s to watch TV or go out. It’s very easy to spot a Sagittarius in love because they’re very lovey-dovey.

How to Know if a Sagittarius Man Is Not Interested

On the other hand, when a Sagittarius man is not interested, he will seem cold and distant. He won’t even notice when you’re feeling bad because he doesn’t care. 

He will avoid you and gaslight you when you confront him about it. He won’t take you out to dates or text you first. If you feel like he’s not interested in you, it’s probably because he really isn’t. Don’t ignore your gut feeling and find someone who will love you for who you are.

When a Sagittarius Man Kisses You

When a Saggitarius man kisses you, it means he probably wants to be with you. If he kisses you in public and in front of others, that’s a clear sign he’s serious about you. He had a nice time on your date and can’t resist the urge to kiss you. 

He probably wants to see you again too. When a Sagittarius man kisses you, you will feel butterflies in the stomach and go weak at the knees because they’re one of the most passionate and loving zodiac signs.

Final Thoughts

Thanks for taking the time to read my article. I hope you found this article helpful and that it helped you realize whether your Sagittarius man is playing you.

If you have a gut feeling that he’s not serious about your relationship, you’re probably right. Those gut instincts are small signals that something is off. 

Maybe he makes you feel like you’re not good enough. Maybe he doesn’t want to have the “talk.” Whatever it is, you will easily know if a Sagittarius man is playing with you. The trick is to look for the signs and not ignore them. 

Remember that a romantic relationship should feel good. You shouldn’t chase your boyfriend all the time or, even worse, feel like you’re not good enough. 

It’s important to recognize when someone is not making you happy and then love yourself enough to walk away. You definitely deserve better than a player!

If you have any additional questions about this topic, I’m here to help! Don’t hesitate to reach out or leave a comment in the section below. Let me know your thoughts, and I hope I hear from you soon!

About The Author

Bijan Kholghi is a certified life coach with the Milton Erickson Institute Heidelberg (Germany). He helps clients and couples reach breakthroughs in their lives by changing subconscious patterns. His solution-oriented approach is based on Systemic- and Hypnotherapy.