11 Reasons Why Guys Fall In Love When They Miss You (2024)

In this guide, you’ll discover 11 reasons why guys fall in love when they miss you.

I’m often helping clients better understand themselves and those closest to them in my role as a life coach.

That’s why I’m keen to share this guide with you. 

So, let’s dive in. 

11 Reasons Why Guys Fall In Love When They Miss You

While every man is different, these are the most widely-accepted reasons why guys fall in love when they miss you, based on the fundamentals of male psychology.

Of course, he’ll need to have liked you at least a little bit in the first place. 

So, perhaps you’ll want to check out my guide on how to be a high-value women in 2024 as well.

1. Humans Value What Is Hard To Obtain

This is a basic rule of human psychology.

If something is difficult to obtain, we assume it must be valuable. If it’s easy to get, we assume there must be something wrong with it.  

This is why when you’re always available to hang out with a man, he’ll usually start to wonder why you’re so desperate and clingy. 

But if you’re always busy doing other cool things with your own life, he’ll start to see you as a high-value woman and will want to see you more. 

2. You Don’t Suffocate Them

Men value freedom more than most things in life.

If you’re always in his presence making demands of him, it’ll only be a matter of time until he begins to resent you. 

But if you’re not always around, that gives them the space to miss you instead. 

That’s a big part of why absence makes the heart grow fonder. 

3. Men Want To Tell You About Their Day

It’s often said that happiness is only real when it’s shared.

Regardless of how you feel about this statement, most men like to have their own person to share their ups and downs with.

A man might continue to live a great life when you’re not around. But when you’re not there to hear about it, that’ll pull at his heartstrings. 

It’s often at this moment that a man realizes how much he misses a woman. This is what we mean when we say guys fall in love when they miss you.

4. They Realize Nobody Compares To You

Sure, there is an abundance of beautiful women in this world. Perhaps a guy will remind himself of this when you’re around him all the time.

However, when you give him the space to miss you, he’ll quickly realize that it’s difficult to replace the emotional connection you two had. 

This connection is far more valuable than beauty to most men (see point 1).

5. They Realize No-One Else Wants Them

This is a harsh truth for single guys; most would struggle to find another person willing to date or sleep with them.

If you’re always there fulfilling his every desire, he might be able to kid himself about this. Perhaps he’ll tell himself that he could easily find a relationship with someone else.

However, when you give him space and force him to look elsewhere for companionship, he’ll usually see how difficult it is for most men.

It’s not too romantic; but this is a big reason why men fall in love when they miss you. They realize how difficult you are to replace!

Guys Fall In Love When They Miss You
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6. No Sex

Men are incredibly driven by sex. This is no secret.

When you disappear for a while and he can’t find sex from elsewhere, his emotions will often begin to short-circuit. 

His cravings for sex will change his thoughts and his behavior.  

He’ll begin to rationalize any conclusions that lead him to getting sex again – including that he must have really loved you and that he should do anything to get you back.

Again, this isn’t the most romantic reason why guys fall in love when they miss you, but it’s common.  

7. Jealousy

Jealousy is a powerful emotion.

If you go quiet on a guy for a while, he’ll inevitably begin to wonder if you’re out dating other men.

The painful emotions that stem from these thoughts can be enough to heighten his feelings towards you. 

8. Nostalgia Lies

When we’re feeling sad about our presence, it’s common to look back in the past with rose-tinted glasses.

Nostalgic memories are often inaccurate. For whatever reason, we tend to remember the good and forget the bad. Or, maybe we just finally begin to cherish what we took for granted at the time. 

Either way, this can also heighten our feelings for someone we miss.    

9. Guys Are Programmed To Chase

Some men love the thrill of the chase.

It brings a sense of excitement to their lives that they crave, perhaps more than the actual catch. 

Anyway, when you disappear from these types of guys, you give them the opportunity to pursue and fall in love with you all over again.   

10. The Fear Of Uncertainty

This is the polar opposite to reason 9.

But, while some men love the thrill of the chase, many more fear the uncertainty that comes with singledom. 

Often though, they’ll only realize this after you disappear for a while. 

11. Fear Drives Action

A lot of people struggle to take decisive action in their lives. If given the opportunity, most people would prefer to take more time to weigh up the pros and cons before making a decision on anything. 

This is especially true of men with their romantic lives. A lot of guys would delay committing to a monogamous relationship with their lover, if they felt they could get away with it.

But if you suddenly disappear, it creates a powerful emotion inside him. Fear of loss.

Fear is the strongest emotion when it comes to making a person act immediately.

When you create that fear inside him, you’ll usually watch him put in the effort to fight for your love shortly afterwards. 

When You Give Them Space, Men Fall In Love

When women fall in love, it’s common that they want to spend a lot of time with this guy. 

However, men can feel overwhelmed with all this attention from the very beginning of a relationship.

Guys fall in love when they miss you. Absence makes the heart grow fonder.

This isn’t about playing mind games and hurting his feelings, although it might feel that way now you know what your absence can do to a man.  

It’s more about showing that you’re an independent woman who has her own set of friends, hobbies and interests. In a guy’s mind, this makes you a better candidate for a relationship, because you’re not going to be dependent on him to feel good.

When a man sees that you can be happy without him, he might be feeling lonely and insecure in the short term. But in the long run, he’ll crave your presence in his life far more. 

So, don’t be afraid to create the space that makes a man miss you

There might be a bit more of a wait, but this is the most consistent way to make him eventually fall in love. 

Why Guys Fall In Love When They Miss You: Frequently Asked Questions

Let’s round off this list of reasons why guys fall in love when they miss you with the answers to some frequently asked questions on this topic. 

When Does A Man Start To Miss You?

This depends on how much he liked you in the first place, what else he has going on in his life, and whether he thinks you’ll ever come back.

If you were his true love and he has little else going on, he could start to miss you within a day or two.

If you were a casual acquaintance and he’s living a baller life, he might not even notice your absence.  

How Can I Make A Man Miss Me?

A crucial first step is to do the things that make men fall in love in the first place. Then, you need to disappear for a while. Hang out with your friends. Enjoy a bit of me-time.

If you want to add some extra fuel to this fire, this would be a good time to post on social media about all the fun you’re having in your life without him. 

On top of that, a devious trick can be to leave some little things in his house that will remind him of you. Some good personal items for this are: a hair tie, a pair of panties or some other new clothes with your signature scent. 

When A Guy Notices Your Absence

When a guy notices your absence, he’ll feel a desire to reach out and talk to you. He might not do it straight away, if he believes in the mind games of playing hard to get. But you can expect to hear from him eventually if he really likes you.   

When Is The Right Moment To Reappear After The No Contact Rule?

No-one is a big fan of playing mind games in relationships. It’s manipulative to disappear from his life and ignore his text messages for a pre-determined amount of days. I don’t want to recommend you do that.

I’m recommending you actually have things going on in your life outside of your relationship.

That way, you’ll naturally be giving your man space from time-to-time. Perhaps that has him feeling sad and lonely while you’re gone, but it’ll heighten his feelings and inspire him to put more effort into your relationship when you return. 

How Men Feel When They Miss You?

When a guy misses you, he could be enjoying the most fun activities, but still feel that it would be better if you were around. At the very least, he’ll feel a desire to tell you about his awesome day after the fun has stopped.

If a guy doesn’t have a lot of cool stuff going on in his life, that can make a guy miss you even more. At this point, he could sink into real depths of despair and victimhood, especially if he felt you were the only good thing happening in his life.

In extreme cases, men can feel like a piece of them is missing. Sometimes, men don’t feel whole when their romantic love isn’t around. This is why it’s popular to call them “your other half”.

What Makes A Man Fall Deeply In Love With A Woman?

If you want a detailed answer to this question, I recommend you check out my guide on how to make a man want you bad.

What Are The Signs That A Man Is Falling In Love With You?

When guys fall in love, they show a lot of telltale signs. I have created a huge list of these signs, so read that if you want to know for sure when a guy falls in love with you. 

Why Do Guys Leave When They Fall In Love?

It makes no sense for a man to run away when they’re experiencing such strong feelings for someone, so why does it seem to happen so often?

The answer lies within the three attachment styles: healthy, anxious and avoidant. 

The avoidant attachment style is the archetype who runs away from their feelings. You can learn more about how to deal with this situation in my guide on How To Make An Avoidant Miss You.

Do Guys Only Fall In Love Once?

This idea is popular because it’s somewhat romantic. It might feel like you’ll never fall in love again when it has only happened to you once.

However, the logical truth is: men and women can (and probably will) fall in love many times throughout their life. 

When Does A Man Realize He’s In Love?

That’s a tough question. Some men (usually avoidants) will deny their feelings for as long as possible.

However, most men will come to terms with their loving feelings when they notice they’re beginning to think about a specific girl all the time.  

On top of that, they’ll notice they don’t want to date other girls. In fact, they’ll often not want to do anything except spend time with this girl and do whatever it takes to make her happy. 

As we’ve explored, it’s pretty common that guys fall in love when they miss you. 

Any More Questions About Why Guys Fall In Love When They Miss You?

Thanks for reading my guide on why guys fall in love when they miss you.

If you have a question on this matter, you can write it in the comments section below. 

Feel free to include stories from your real life if you’re comfortable doing that. 

I would mean the world to hear from you; men and women!

About The Author

Bijan Kholghi is a certified life coach with the Milton Erickson Institute Heidelberg (Germany). He helps clients and couples reach breakthroughs in their lives by changing subconscious patterns. His solution-oriented approach is based on Systemic- and Hypnotherapy.