You’re about to discover the 11 telltale traits of gamma male, and how it compares to the other male personality types.
This article will focus specifically on why the gamma male is especially unpopular with women and how a man with this personality type can go about changing into one of the more desirable personalities.
In my role as a life coach, I am often tasked with helping clients see their problems from a different perspective, so they can attack them from a new direction.
It can be particularly difficult for a gamma male to do this, because two of their defining personality traits are denying their faults and believing they’re always right.
So, if you’re a man who is unhappy with his dating life reading this article and it indicates that you may be a gamma male, you have two options.
- dismiss the advice and continue to tell yourself that you’re perfect just the way you are;
- accept the criticisms of a gamma male, and apply the advice on how to change to a more desirable personality.
The former option – where you make no changes to your personality – will result in you achieving no change in the amount of success you currently have with dating.
The latter option requires an open mind and an initial dose of hard work, because it’s not easy to make lasting changes to your personality. But, I promise it will help you be seen more favorably by the opposite sex.
With that said, let’s now explore the 11 defining qualities of a gamma male.
Let’s dive right into it.
11 Defining Traits Of A Gamma Male Personality
This list will help you understand if you have the typical traits of a gamma male. If you’re still not sure what personality type you fall under after reading this list, be sure to check out the summaries of the other five male personality types towards the bottom of this article.
A gamma male is often intelligent and may well be incredibly successful in their professional field.
The problem is: their social flaws often emerge as a result of being overly focused on professional success.
Perhaps they studied so hard in school that they missed out on parties or socialising with friends. This can lead to poor social awareness, shyness, loneliness and a general lack of self-confidence.
A gamma male is often very proud of their intelligence, but this can contribute to negative qualities such as believing they’re always right.
2. They’re Kind And Empathetic
On the surface, gamma males are extremely kind and respectful to those around them. However, this doesn’t always come from a healthy place.
It is common for a gamma to be overly selfless, because he fears conflict or feels unable to stand up for himself.
Gamma males are prone to becoming people-pleasers, because they are so keen for everyone to like them.
They often engage in extreme kindness towards women, because they believe this is the best way to attract them.
3. They Tend To Follow, Rather Than Lead
Whereas alpha and sigma males are characterised by leadership qualities, a gamma is often happy to follow orders.
This willingness to be led is rarely due to feeling uncapable of making decisions. More likely, he is too lazy to take a leadership role, or he wants to avoid conflict with stronger personalities in any given group.
4. They’re Prone To Obsessing Over The Opposite Sex
A gamma male is often a hopeless romantic. He’s prone to obsessing over women once he catches feelings.
This is often due to a scarcity of romantic options. After all, gammas don’t have a lot of the alpha traits that females find attractive, such as assertiveness, charisma, social savviness or leadership skills, so women tend to overlook them.
This scarcity often leads them to pedalistize women more than necessary. Any attention they get from attractive women makes them feel special, and they often feel compelled to return the favor.
This isn’t a trap that gammas exclusively fall into though.
Romantic movies, TV shows and books teach men across the world that the key to a woman’s heart is to treat her really nicely, and give more affection than any other man ever could.
The truth is a lot more complicated, but we’ll get into that later…
5. They Have High Opinion Of Themselves
Gamma males think a lot of themselves. They’re aware that other types of men are seen as superior to them, but they still see themselves as better.
You might not hear them shouting from the rooftops about how great they are. They might not even show self-confidence in their body language.
It’s more like a silent delusion of grandeur.
A key reason for this belief is that the gamma male archetype puts a lot of value on intelligence and wealth, perhaps because their parents did the same.
6. They Think They’re Always Right
The big ego of the gamma male mixed with their high intelligence often creates a guy who thinks he’s right about everything.
This delusional level of self-confidence can be attractive, even when it spills over into arrogance.
The problem is: a gamma often doesn’t have the assertiveness to actually go out into the world and actually show others what a great guy they are.
They often prefer to remain a hero in their own mind.
7. They Deny Their Faults
Gamma males have a very certain – if somewhat delusional – view of reality.
They’ll aggressively argue that gamma traits – such as being intelligent and kind – are far more attractive than alpha male or sigma male traits, even if all evidence around them suggests otherwise. It’s very rare that they’ll admit their weaknesses to others.
It’s often argued that the gamma male is aware of his lowly status in the social hierarchy, yet in denial of that.
8. They’re Often Resentful
Gamma males are strong believers in the idea of a social hierarchy – and tend to believe they should be right at the top of it.
This often leaves them confused about why women overlook them for a ‘bad boy’ alpha or sigma male.
This confusion – mixed with their big egos – can lead to resentment towards women and the men they choose.
You’ll might often hear a gamma male calling women ‘stupid’ for choosing bad guys and men ‘assholes’ for treating their girlfriends so badly.
The ‘incel’ community is mostly populated by men at the extreme end of the gamma male spectrum.
Note: Both beta males and gamma males tend to be kind-hearted and romantic, albeit without a backbone. But a key difference is: beta males usually look up to alpha males and idolise beautiful women, whereas gamma males resent them.
9. They Hate That Life Isn’t Fair
A gamma male has a solid view of how the world should be.
He thinks that nice guys should finish first, even if they are weak and spineless. He thinks that women should choose men based on who gives the most love and affection.
Crucially though, when he sees evidence that the world is not this way, his conclusion is that life is unfair and he is a victim. He’ll quickly blame others, before accepting responsiblity for his own failures.
10. They’re Highly Adventurous
A gamma male is often keen to make the most of his life. He wants to have a lot of fun, enjoy peak experiences and live wild adventures. A YOLO mindset is a common attribute of a gamma male’s character.
His adventurous nature is partly why he gets so frustrated at being unable to land dates or make men respect him, because this limits his ability to make the most of life.
11. They’re Unambitious
It might seem to make no sense for a gamma male to be adventurous and unambitious. But it’s often true.
Often, you’ll find a gamma male wants to live an amazing life, but doesn’t want to work for it.
It’s common for gamma males to avoid taking risks, and remember they avoid conflict at all costs too.
Instead of doing whatever it takes to get the life they think they deserve, they’ll often settle for a mediocre life if it means putting in less effort. It’s easier for them to make excuses and blame others if they don’t get everything they want.
That’s a shame, because ambition is one of the most attractive traits to women – one that alphas and sigmas have in abundance.
What Are The Six Male Personality Types – And Where Do Gamma Males Fit In?
According to the socio-sexual hierarchy created by Vox Day, a gamma male is one of the six male personality types. Below, we’ll summarise the others, with a brief explanation of how each personality compares to a gamma.
Who Is An Alpha Male?
An alpha male is mostly known for his leadership qualities. He tends to be very assertive, loud, dominant, fun and confident. Most of his interests surround group activities, because he enjoys leading others.
Women love alpha male qualities because they are very masculine. Historically, a woman needed a man like this to give themselves and their family the best chance to survive.
Even though women are more independent these days, their feminine nature still leads them towards alpha males.
Are You A Sigma Male?
A sigma male has alpha male qualities, and that’s why women are drawn to them as well.
The key difference is that the sigma male archetype has little interest in leading others. He prefers to be a lone wolf.
Whereas an alpha male is keen to attract followers, a sigma male doesn’t care about his status in the social hierarchy, nor what others think of him. He’s the most likely personality type to be an entrepreneur or engage in a controversial job.
A deluded gamma male will often try to convince himself that he’s a sigma male. In reality, gammas and sigmas share few qualities. A sigma can be a strong confident leader, while a gamma cannot. The only similarity is that neither personality type tends to have a lot of friends.
Who Is A Beta Male?
Beta males have little-to-no leadership qualities. Instead, they tend to follow others and do what they’re told. This often leads them to become great employees.
The agreeable nature of a beta male means they have a lower status than an alpha or a sigma. A beta male is a kind and compassionate guy, and tends to have lots of friends, although he can be more shy and therefore not always seem as fun.
They often develop strong feelings for their female friends, but these women aren’t usually attracted to them. Most women want to date a strong, dominant character like an alpha or a sigma instead.
With that said, a lot of women will eventually settle for serious relationships with beta males, as they make for good fathers and loyal husbands. A beta male has more admirable personal qualities than a delta or an omega. Plus, they don’t tend to be resentful of women or society in general, like gammas often do.
What Is A Delta Male?
Delta males really don’t bring much to the table at all.
They are characterised for having no interest in achievement or self-improvement. Often, they are mentally and physically sloppy.
They’re insecure around women, because they’ve spent most of their life being rejected by them. That’s assuming they ever had the courage to speak to them at all.
Sadly, it’s widely agreed that the majority of men are delta males.
Delta males can be resentful of others, seeing as they don’t get a lot out of life, although this isn’t a staple part of their character.
What Is The Omega Male?
An omega male is the social and sexual reject everyone tries to avoid. Often, they have some sort of mental illness or traumatic past that prevents them from making friends.
They typically have no sense of self-esteem or inter-personal skills, especially in the presence of a female.
They’re not always resentful at their lowly social status though.
Some omega males are somewhat accepting of their modest life, often enjoying their nerdy interests, perhaps in the presence of other geeky companions.
Gamma Personality: Where Does It Fit In?
Vox Day’s socio-sexual hierarchy places alphas and sigmas at the very top of the totem pole, followed by betas, deltas, gammas and omegas.
Yes, only the nerdy omega archetype is seen as a worse prospect for romantic relationships than a gamma male.
Vox Day’s Socio-Sexual Hierarchy
How Does A Gamma Male Change To A More Desirable Personality?
The first step is to realize you weren’t born as a gamma male. It’s possible to change. In fact, it’s possible for any man to change.
The second step is accepting that being a strong and confident leader is more desirable to a woman than being a romantic but spineless ‘nice guy’. The third step is to stop being angry at women for wanting that.
The final and most important step is to practice embodying the traits of an alpha or sigma male. They are all learnable. It just takes a bit of bravery.
Be assertive enough to approach a beautiful woman and flirt when you see one. Make an effort to organise the date, rather than taking a woman’s lead. Don’t be afraid to make jokes or tease them a little bit. Call them out for bratty behavior. Say ‘no’ if you don’t want to do something.
Speak up if you have something to say. Stand up for yourself if you feel wronged. Be your full unfiltered self. Realize it’s OK if not everyone likes you.
A lot of gamma males will be scared to take these actions. To overcome that, it really is as simple as feeling the fear and doing it anyway.
You’re not being a ‘bad boy’ or an ‘asshole’ for acting like an alpha male. An alpha still treats others with respect, albeit while also looking out for himself.
Once you build enough confidence to take these actions with authority, women and men will begin to follow you. Some women will be extremely attracted to you, and will be excited to accept your offer of a date.
Check out this YouTube video on ‘How To Be A Man’ for some deeper ideas of what it means to be attractive to a woman.
Any Questions About The Gamma Male Personality?
I hope you enjoyed this masterclass on the gamma male personality. Hopefully, you’re aware which of the male personality types you fit into now.
If you have a question about gamma vs alpha or beta, or something else along these lines, feel free to write it in the comments section below.
It would be great to talk further about this topic.