So, you think you’ve met your twin flame. You share a deep spiritual and emotional connection, and the passion is unlike anything you’ve experienced before.
But there’s a nagging doubt in the back of your mind. Is this person your true twin? Or are they your false twin flame?
You have to know once and for all. A false twin flame will be similar to your true twin, but a few telltale signs differentiate one from the other.
Let’s take a look at 21 signs you’ve met your false twin flame so you can put your mind at ease once and for all.
What Are the Signs of a False Twin Flame?
Before we dive into the signs you’ve met your false twin flame, let’s quickly recap on what a twin flame is.
Your true twin flame is a vibrational match for your soul’s essence — some people call this your soulmate, although others believe that twin flames and soulmates are different.
You’ll know if someone is really your twin. The connection will be instant and will set you on a lifelong path of spiritual growth together.
Many true twin flames end up in romantic relationships together, but that’s not always the case.
False twin flames may look, act, and feel energetically similar to a true twin flame. But in a relationship with your false flame, something will always feel off.
So here are the 21 signs you’ve met your false flame and how your true twin flame will be different.
1. They Struggle to Commit to You
A relationship with a false twin flame will always lack commitment on some level.
A false twin will often use excuses such as timing or a need to be free and unattached as an excuse to avoid committing to you.
The false twin flame relationship may have many of the characteristics of a true twin flame, such as passion, intensity, and a deep emotional bond.
False twin flames can teach you what it feels like to be with your twin flame — but they won’t commit because they’re not your true twin.
When they leave, they open up space in your life for your true twin flame to enter. And when they do, the timing will be just right, and they’ll be ready for you.
2. They Leave You Feeling Anxious
False twin flames exist to show us what not to look for in a relationship. Being with your false twin can make you feel anxious and insecure.
You may not even be able to put your finger on exactly what it is. You adore them on many levels. But there’s something about them that makes you feel uneasy.
Perhaps they blow hot and cold, or maybe there’s just something about them that makes you uncomfortable.
Whatever it is, know that your true twin flame will make you feel comfortable and at home — like putting on your favorite pair of slippers after a long day at work.
It will feel like you’ve been best friends your entire life, even when you’ve only known each other for five minutes.
Do you and your partner have dreams that are incompatible? If so, it’s a sign you’re in a false twin flame relationship.
If he dreams of living in a cabin in Alaska, while you want to work in the Paris fashion industry, one of you will have to give up your dreams for the relationship to survive.
Twin flames share a vision of their future that’s so similar it’s eerie. When you meet your twin flame, it’s like the pieces of the puzzle just fall into place.
You’ve finally found your partner in crime, the one who shares all your “crazy” dreams and wants to make them a reality with you.
4. You Find Yourself Doubting Them
If you’re reading this article, it’s probably because you have doubts about whether your partner is really your twin flame.
And if so, I have bad news for you — that probably means they’re not.
When you meet your twin flame, you’ll recognize them immediately, and you’ll just know. It’s almost like your soul recognizes their soul.
The unconditional love between true twins is so pure and strong it’s impossible to doubt it.
5. They Teach You How to Help Yourself
You might change your diet, start exercising, and/or develop a spiritual practice as a result of being with your false twin flame.
And these are certainly positive things. In fact, developing these habits is often one of the most important lessons a false twin flame will teach you.
But you will probably develop these new habits out of necessity. False twins tend to bring our deepest shadows, fears, and pain to the surface, and it often requires a lifestyle overhaul to overcome them.
And when you finally meet your true twin, you will notice the difference. That’s when, instead of helping yourself, you’ll start helping others — together.
6. You’re Awakening…But They Aren’t
Your false twin flame will often show up around the time in your life when your spiritual awakening begins (this is different for everyone, but when it happens, you’ll know).
The reason this usually happens is to accelerate your awakening process. But the thing is, the false flame doesn’t awaken.
It may feel like you gradually grow apart as you move into new levels of consciousness, leaving your partner where they were when you met them.
When you meet your true flame, you will move from awakening (awareness of your spiritual nature) to ascension (embodiment of your spiritual nature).
The difference is you will go on this spiritual growth journey together as part of a conscious relationship.
7. They Bring Up Past Issues
With your false twin, you’ll probably spend a lot of time working on triggers they bring up from your past — especially your childhood.
You might even find yourself dealing with issues that you thought you had already resolved. Your false twin flame will help you purge any remaining negativity that holds you back from being with your true twin.
When you find your real twin flame, the focus of the true twin flame relationship will be on the future and what you can create — both individually and together.
8. They Feel Threatened by Your Success
Your false twin flame will compete with you and be jealous of your success. They will act supportive and happy for you, but you will feel an undercurrent of resentment in their energy.
It’s not that they don’t want you to succeed. It’s just that they find your success threatening.
Because your false twin flame hasn’t gone through their awakening yet, they don’t realize we live in an abundant universe, and there’s enough to go around.
But your true twin flame will support, celebrate, and admire your success. Plus, you’ll probably share it, as many twin flames are not only in a relationship but also work together.
9. They Run at the First Sign of a Challenge
Your false twin flame will not stick around when the going gets rough. Instead, they’ll run screaming in the opposite direction as soon as problems arise.
Whether it’s money problems, a family crisis, or dealing with a crazy ex — a false twin flame will not stick around for it.
By contrast, your true twin flame will be a ride-or-die relationship. They will be by your side no matter what life throws at you — and you’ll do the same for them.
10. You Can’t Be Yourself Around Them
If you’re in a relationship with your false twin flame, you may feel like you can never be fully yourself around them.
Maybe you have beliefs that your partner disagrees with. Or perhaps there are parts of yourself you hide from them because you’re afraid they might judge or mock you.
By contrast, you’ll feel so secure with your real twin flame that you’ll be able to reveal your true self to them, knowing it won’t affect their unconditional love for you.
11. They Keep You Guessing
False twin flames overpromise and underdeliver. They know how to say all the things you want to hear.
They promise you the world — but never seem to follow through or deliver on those promises. This leaves you in a sort of limbo and keeps you guessing about your future together.
They give you just enough to keep you hooked but never enough to feel satisfied.
A true twin will never play games with you. Things will feel smooth and easy (albeit with the odd challenge or bump in the road), and you will always know exactly where you stand with them.
Being upfront and honest comes naturally between true twin flames.
12. You’re Not Sure Why You’re With Them
In false twin flame relationships, the purpose of the connection is usually unclear.
In time, you will understand why you had to meet your false twin. You’ll be able to see the valuable lessons they taught you that made you who you are today and prepared you for your true twin relationship.
But, while you’re still in the thick of it, you can’t see the wood for the trees. You can’t figure out the purpose of your relationship.
13. They Keep You at Arm’s Length
In a relationship with a false twin flame, you will struggle to get close to them, and they will do everything they can to keep you at a distance.
They might not be there for you when you really need them. Perhaps they give you the silent treatment. They may come up with excuses to avoid doing things for you.
Your real twin flame will never abandon you when you need them or be emotionally unavailable. With them, you will experience a connection closer than you ever thought possible.
14. They Put You Down
Whether they make snide comments to your face or put you down in front of friends or coworkers, this is a sure sign you’re with your false twin flame.
It’s okay to give each other constructive criticism, but when it starts to become hurtful, it’s no longer constructive.
Your true twin flame would never put you down in this way. Even when they don’t agree with you, they will find a way to say it that is as gentle and loving as possible.
15. Their Love Is Conditional
If the amount or quality of love you receive from your partner depends on your actions, behavior, or mood, it’s conditional.
And only a false twin flame would love you conditionally — your true twin would never do that to you.
A twin flame relationship is based on mutual unconditional love. That doesn’t mean you’ll never disagree or even argue. You will — it’s part of being in a relationship.
But even in the midst of a fight, your true twin will always maintain their respect for you and will never withdraw their love from you.
16. You Self-Destruct
If you start falling into bad habits as a way to cope, it’s a sign you might be in a false twin flame relationship.
Bad habits such as drinking, smoking, drugs, and a lack of exercise take their toll on your physical and mental health.
Your real twin flame won’t have you reaching for the booze. Instead, you will naturally find your self-care improves when you find your true twin flame connection.
17. They Let You Down Regularly
As feminist writer bell hooks wrote in her book “Love Song to the Nation,” love is a verb. It doesn’t matter how often you say, “I love you.” What really matters is how often you show it.
A real twin flame will never cancel their plans with you at the last minute or run a mile from your problems.
If your partner professes their love for you but fails to be there for you when it really matters, it’s a sign you’re probably in a relationship with a false twin flame.
18. It Doesn’t Feel Like a Partnership
When you think or talk about your life or the future, you use “I” statements and aren’t sure how your partner fits into the picture.
It doesn’t really feel like you’re in it together — more like you’re each walking in your own direction.
If you want different things in life and seem to be drifting apart, you’re probably with your false twin flame.
With your true twin, you will naturally grow in the same direction, and their plans will fit perfectly into your life — and vice versa.
19. You’re Not Growing
A true twin flame will challenge you and make you grow. They will make you question your beliefs and opinions and (gently) push you out of your comfort zone.
We need to feel challenged to grow. So if your partner is not challenging you and you feel stuck in a rut, you can be pretty sure they’re your false twin flame.
20. You Feel Like You Don’t Really Know Them
You might know a lot of facts about a person on a superficial level — like where they went to school or what their favorite color is.
But you might feel like, deep down, there’s something missing — some kind of disconnect between you and your partner.
You might feel like, no matter how much you learn about them, it’s never really enough. This is a sign they’re your false twin flame.
21. Your False Twin Flame Will Resemble Your Real Twin Flame
Okay, so you won’t be able to spot this sign until later when you’re in your true twin flame relationship.
But one of the things that makes false flames so tricky is that they look and seem eerily similar to your true twin flame.
Think of this as a kind of heads-up from the universe. It’s a nudge, a clue as to what to look for when you meet your true twin flame.
It’s also a test so you can learn the lessons you need to learn to prepare you to be with your true twin.
Moving on from the False Twin Flame
So now you’ve discovered you’re in a relationship with your false twin flame, what should you do?
You can stay and try to make it work with them. There’s no rule that says you can’t enjoy a healthy and passionate relationship with your false twin flame. They just won’t satisfy you as deeply as your true twin.
The other alternative is to break up with your false twin flame. Make sure you do this as kindly and respectfully as possible to avoid causing unnecessary pain.
Some things to consider before breaking up with your false twin include:
- Where to have the conversation. Would it be better in private, or would you feel safer in public?
- Logistics: if one of you has to move out, think about who it should be and where you or your partner can go.
- Let friends or loved ones know what is happening so they can support you.
- Get ready to feel all the feelings. You may be breaking up with them, but it’s still normal to feel sad.
What Happens to the False Twin Flame?
Your false twin flame will also grapple with a range of emotions as they deal with the breakup. They will go through all the stages of grief to get over the relationship and prepare themselves for meeting their true twin.
They might be angry or sad. They may try and convince you to change your mind. But if you stand firm and hold your ground, they will accept it.
Eventually, they will get over you, move on, and find their own true twin flame.
Why Do We Meet Our False Twin Flame?
No one knows for sure why we meet our false twin flame. Some believe they come to teach us the spiritual lessons we need to learn to prepare us for meeting our true twin.
Can A False Twin Flame Awaken You?
False twin flames are often sent to awaken us. In fact, if your spiritual awakening is only just beginning, it’s an almost sure sign that you’re with your false twin.
Do False Twin Flames Look Alike?
False twin flames can resemble true flames in many ways — and that includes their physical appearance.
In fact, people are often surprised when they meet their true twin because they look so much like the false twin they broke up with.
I hope after reading this article, you know if you’re in a relationship with your false twin flame or not.
If you are, don’t despair — trust that what is meant to be will be, and the lessons you’re learning now are preparing you for the most transformative relationship of your life when you finally meet your true twin flame.