21 Benefits Of Embracing Rejection (2024) & Strategies

Embracing rejection is a beautiful skill that will get you far in life.

Embracing Rejection
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In this guide, you’ll discover the benefits of embracing rejection and how to make this easier for yourself.  

I’m often talking about this topic in my job as a life coach – and that’s why I’m keen to share this article with you.

So, let’s dive in. 

What Does It Mean To Embrace Rejection?

Embracing rejection means to look on the bright side of being rejected, rather than focusing on the feeling of pain, embarrassment or ego damage it can cause.

Indeed, when we focus on these bright sides, we might choose to skip on feeling ashamed or embarrassed. It is our decision whether to feel these negative feelings or not, after all.

Why You Should Embrace Rejection

I’ve listed 21 benefits of embracing rejection below.

1. It Means You’re Making Positive Steps

The only way to never be rejected is to never go for what you want. If you’re getting rejected, it means you’re taking steps to go after what you want in life.

2. It Allows You To Learn From Your Mistakes

Rejection can be an amazing learning experience. If you analyse your rejections, you can learn from your mistakes and do better next time.

3. You Realize It’s Not As Bad As You Thought

The fear of rejection is far worse than the reality. When you get rejected, you’ll see that it doesn’t matter and you’ll have less fear next time.

The worst thing that will usually happen is that someone is slightly rude to you. It’s rare that someone is extremely rude when issuing a rejection, but even if this does happen, you’ll still survive it.

4. It Makes You Stronger 

The more rejection you face, the more immune to it you become. The fear evaporates and you’ll  learn there’s nothing to be afraid of. 

5. It Means You’re Out Of Your Comfort Zone

These are the moments where all the exciting things in life happen.

6. It Prepares You For Tougher Times

If you’ve never dared to risk rejection from a romantic interest, how are you supposed to deal with real setbacks in life? Rejection helps to make you battle-ready for the real challenges that are coming your way.

7. It Means You’re Polarizing 

A blunt romantic rejection means you’re polarizing. You’re making your intentions clear and that’s a good thing. Some people will hate it, but others will LOVE it. That’s better than being a vanilla people-pleaser who everyone ‘kinda likes’ but no-one is truly excited to date, hire or buy from. 

8. It Means You’re One Step Closer To What You Want

Sometimes, success is a numbers game. In many fields, you have to stack up the rejections until you get a yes. That’s exactly what you’re doing when you face constant rejection. Perhaps you’re pretty close already. 

9. You’ll Feel Like A Go-Getter

Even if you’re being rejected, it should still feel fulfilling to be on the path to completing your life’s mission. Everyone on that same path faced rejection at some point.

10. You Show Your Strength More When You Handle Rejection Well

When you take rejection with a smile and good spirits, this can leave a lasting impression. That babe in the cocktail dress might come back later on in the evening. That company might reach out to you when they have another job opening.

11. You Appreciate Success More!

Success will end up feeling so much sweeter when you finally reach it, after having battled through failure and rejections.

12. It’s Character-Building

Rejection helps you build a sense of humility. It makes you resilient and grounded. These are fantastic character traits to develop.

The ‘rich kids’ or ‘childhood celebrities’, who never had to overcome any challenge rarely develop these characteristics. 

It’s no coincidence that they struggle to appreciate the highs of their success – and tend to crumble whenever they face the smallest failure or hardship.

13. It Helps You Develop Irresistible Charisma 

When you have no fear of rejection, you’re free to unleash your charisma. You can speak without filters. You can embrace your true personality. At this point, you can develop irresistible charisma.

14. It Helps You Develop Compassion

When you’ve been rejected yourself, you’ll understand that rejection hurts and will begin to treat people with more compassion. Another desirable personality trait.

15. Rejection Feels Better Than Regret    

The sting of rejection is nowhere near as painful as the regret of not even attempting to get what you want. In fact, that sting is often replaced with pride for at least trying.

There’s nothing wrong with trying and failing. It’s when you’re not prepared to try that shame can really kick in. 

16. It Inspires You To Take Risks

Once you no longer fear rejection, you’ll feel emboldened to take risks. Perhaps you’ll apply for some huge opportunity, even though you expect a negative response. These are the moments when amazing things can happen in your life.

17. You Inspire Other People

When you’re brave enough not to flinch in the face of rejection, you can inspire other people to develop that same bravery. There’s a sense of fulfilment to be gained from being that inspiration.

18. You Get A Funny Story

You’ll be a hit at parties with these humorous self-deprecating tales of what happened when you made that bold move and landed on your face.  

19. It Means You Can Now Move On With Your Life 

You don’t have to waste time wondering what would have happened.

20. Rejection Means You’re ALIVE!

When you chase a rich and full life, you’ll experience ups and downs. It’s part of the journey. You can’t win all the time when you’re trying to live life to the fullest! So, take the pain of rejection as a sign you’re doing exactly that. You can avoid rejection every day once you’re dead. 

21. Rejection Demolishes The Competition

Be thankful that rejection hurts! Be grateful that it’s such a challenge to overcome the fear of being rejected. This means all the weak people will give in to fear before they reach success. That paves the way for a strong person like you to make it all the way to the top.

You’ll get a beautiful girlfriend because you had the courage to talk to her. You can make that powerful friend because you reached out despite the possibility of rejection.

You’ll be the employee that experiences greater career success because you dared to send your resume into every inbox that would accept it.  

You’ll be the writer who gets the book deal, because you were prepared to handle the promotion of your own work. You were ready to have your words rejected by endless publishers until one said yes. You were able to go through that pain when others weren’t.

If it was easy, everyone would do it. 

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Frequently Asked Questions

Let’s round off this guide with some frequently asked questions about embracing rejection.

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How To Get Used To Rejection

Face it and realize it isn’t the end of the world. If you were to get rejected on a daily basis, you’d quickly become numb to it.

How Do I Get Comfortable With Rejection?

It really helps being confident with who you are and what you have to offer the world. At this stage, you almost feel sorry for the person issuing the rejection. My list of self-love hacks will help you reach this level of confidence. 

How To Not Take Rejection Personally

Realize it’s almost never personal. If you’re rejected by a woman you approach, she’s not rejecting you. She doesn’t know you. She only knows the version that was presented in the minutes you were together. If you’re rejected professionally, it’s not you being rejected. It’s the project you created or the fact that someone else had better credentials.

How To Not Take Romantic Rejection Personally

Romantic rejection might feel personal, but it doesn’t mean you’re a bad or even an unttractive person. You’re just not a good fit for them. Often, you’ll have know idea what’s going on in their life for them to decide this. Sometimes ‘it’s not you, it’s them’. And, once again, remember that they don’t know you well enough to reject you as a person.

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What Does It Mean When Someone Rejects?

It could mean a million-and-one different things. Our minds default to thinking that this person must hate us, but they might have something going on in their lives that makes them not want to talk to us. It could be one thing about our personality or theirs. In most cases, we’ll never know the truth and it’s our job to be OK with that.

How To Handle When Someone Rejects You   

You might feel the urge to hurt their feelings because they hurt yours. Ignore this urge. It really is the worst thing you can do. By insulting someone or harming them physically, you’re sending toxic energy into the universe and there’s a strong possibility you’ll regret it. Plus, you’re creating a conflict. Who knows how they’ll retaliate?

The best thing you can do is accept the rejection with a smile and well wishes. This helps to keep you in a positive frame of mind. It leaves the door open for the person to change their mind or recommend you to someone else in future. You’re making the world a better place by reacting this way.

Let’s say you think this person wanted to hurt your feelings by rejecting you harshly. In this case, this scumbag wants you to react harshly and show your pain. As such, the best revenge is still to smile and take the rejection in your stride.

Why Do I Feel Rejected By Society?

If you’ve been facing constant rejection, it can tear down your self-esteem. Perhaps you’ll begin feeling like society-at-large doesn’t want you. But is that really true? It’s worth doing a quick estimate of how many people have rejected you – and how small that is compared to even your local city.

Also, remember it’s not you that is being rejected, it’s whatever you’re presenting. So, you may want to take this negative feedback on board and change your promotion style to make it more appealing.  

How To Reject Someone Without Rejecting Them

Want to know the most polite way to reject someone without causing them too much pain? A great start is to focus on yourself when delivering the feedback.

“You’re just not what we’re looking for in this role.”

I’m not ready to date you seriously.”

We could only choose four candidates. It was really difficult but you didn’t make the cut.”

It helps to throw in a few compliments to soften the blow – and to thank them for their interest.

I would NOT recommend that you lead someone on, when you know they’re not suitable for whatever you’re looking for.

You may think you’re sparing someone’s feelings by not giving them a clear answer. But you’re actually doing them a bigger favor by telling them the truth. This gives them the chance to move on and look for other opportunities. 

Any Questions?

Thanks for reading my article. It was a pleasure to write. I hope you got the message and it helps you to embrace rejection with more ease in the future.

Please do consider sharing it with a friend who needs to take more risks in their life. This is a crucial lesson for young people and old to learn. 

If you have a question on this topic, feel free to leave it in the comments section below. 

It would be great to hear from you – and I’ll do my best to respond to every comment.

About The Author

Bijan Kholghi is a certified life coach with the Milton Erickson Institute Heidelberg (Germany). He helps clients and couples reach breakthroughs in their lives by changing subconscious patterns. His solution-oriented approach is based on Systemic- and Hypnotherapy.