Did He Unfollow Me For Attention? 21 Reasons & What To Do (2024)

When you’re unfollowed by a guy you like, it can lead to questions like: “Did he unfollow me for attention?”

Did He Unfollow Me For Attention
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It’s rarely pleasant to dwell on questions like this, wondering or trying to guess the answer. 

Still, I have compiled a list of the most common reasons for a guy to unfollow a woman on social media. Hopefully, this list provides more clarity to your situation.

In my role as a life coach, I am often helping clients better understand those closest to them. 

That’s why I’m keen to share this guide with you.

So, let’s dive in.  

What Does It Mean If A Guy Unfollows You?

Let’s explore some of the most common reasons why a guy would unfollow a woman. 

1. He Wants You To Chase Him

You’re asking: “did he unfollow me for attention?”. The truth is: it’s possible this could happen. 

It’s well-known that people value what’s difficult to obtain, so maybe he unfollowed you as a way of playing hard to get. 

There are many other explanations though, so let’s explore some of them now.  

2. You Hurt Him

Could you have done something to hurt his feelings? If so, he may have unfollowed as a response to this pain. Your posts might serve as a constant reminder of what you did – and have a huge impact on his well-being.

3. He Wants Revenge 

It’s possible you annoyed him and he unfollowed you as a small form of payback. Some women take their follower count very seriously, after all.

4. He Doesn’t Want To See You

Whether he’s upset or angry, it may be that seeing your face on his social media feed triggers these negative emotions. That could be reason enough for him to unfollow you.

5. He Doesn’t See You Being In His Life Anymore

Some guys choose to only follow people who are part of their real life. If he doesn’t see you being part of his life in the future, he may unfollow you for that reason.

6. He Hates What You Post

Perhaps you didn’t upset him in person, but your posts trigger negative emotions within him, so he unfollowed to ensure he didn’t see them anymore.

7. He Didn’t Feel Special

If you don’t follow him back, engage with his posts or respond to his comments, he may decide to unfollow because he feels unappreciated.

8. You’re Trying To Sell Too Much  

Some people use their social media accounts to sell products and services. There’s nothing inherently wrong with that, but it can rub people up the wrong way, especially if you do it too often or too aggressively.

9. He Disagrees With Your Opinions 

If you’re posting polarising opinions on social media, those who disagree may decide to unfollow you. If he doesn’t agree with the way you live your life, he may decide he doesn’t want to see it anymore. 

10. His Girlfriend Is Jealous

It’s possible his girlfriend spotted him following you and felt threatened. In such situations, a boyfriend might decide to unfollow you and other attractive women just to avoid conflict in his relationship.

11. He’s Back With His Ex-Girlfriend 

Maybe he followed you after he broke up with his ex. When someone makes up with their ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend, it’s common practice to cut all connections to other romantic interests.

12. He Discovered That You’re In A Relationship 

Women tend to lose a lot of male followers when they reveal their relationship status online. Maybe he unfollowed you because he came to realize he had no chance to date you.

13. He’s On A Dopamine Detox  

Social media can be a huge attention suck. If he decides to be more mindful over his smartphone usage, he might unfollow all the accounts he deems to be inessential.

14. He’s Trying To Stop Obsessing Over You 

Maybe he has such a crush on you that he unfollowed you so he doesn’t spend so much time staring at your posts. 

15. He Was Banned From The Platform 

If he broke the terms of the social media platform and had his account removed, he would no longer appear in your follower list.

16. He Changed His Profile 

Maybe he’s rebranding this social media account and unfollowed you as part of this new direction.

17. He Has Privacy Issues 

If he decided to make his affairs more private, he might unfollow and block a bunch of people to tighten up his privacy.

18. He Cares About His Follower/Followers Ratio 

Some people want to be seen as having way more Instagram followers than the number of people they’re following. Could it be that he removed you as part of a wider cull?

19. He Follows You With A Different Account

Maybe he unfollowed you on Instagram because he gets all the information he needs from your Facebook. Or perhaps he’s following you on his other Instagram account.

20. He Was Never Interested In The First Place 

Perhaps you asked him for a follow when you met in person, but he was never really interested in that. In such a situation, he may decide the polite thing to do is follow you in that moment and unfollow later. Alternatively, he may have lost interest in you over time, especially if he’s the type to date a new woman every week. 

21. It Could Be Unintentional

Unfollowing is so easy that he might have done it accidentally. It only takes the slip of a finger.  

Frequently Asked Questions

Let’s round off this guide with the answers to some frequently asked questions about what makes a guy unfollow a woman.     

Why Do Guys Follow And Then Unfollow?

There are so many reasons. It might be that they lose interest in you over time. It could be that they were never truly interested in you, but followed to be polite because you asked them.

Maybe they only followed so you’d follow them back. Perhaps they only followed because they wanted to date you, but have given up on that. Could it be that something you posted – or something you did in real life – annoyed them. 

These are just some explanations. There are other reasons in the guide above.  

Why Did He Unfollow Me But Not Block Me?

There are many reasons why he would not want to see your social media posts, but still be open to you messaging him. Perhaps he still wants to be your friend, or at least to remain on good terms. Most men will only block women if they’re receiving unpleasant text messages from them, or worried about receiving them in the future.  

He Likes Me But Unfollowed Me

It’s possible. As we explored in the guide above, maybe he unfollowed you as a way to play hard to get. Maybe he likes your posts so much that he had to take steps to stop consuming them so much.

It might be that he likes you, but he hates your content. Or could it be that he unfollowed you as part of his attempts to use his social media accounts less. 

My Crush Unfollowed Me On Instagram

This honestly might not matter. It’s not necessarily the end of your budding romance, so don’t worry! The most important thing is how you connect in real life. If he’s your crush, talk to him and arrange to meet in the real world. That’s the quickest and easiest way to gauge how keen he is about you. Don’t be shy!

If he doesn’t want that, you haven’t lost anything. In fact, you can now stop thinking about him and wondering whether he likes you. Instead, you can leave him in the past and focus on living your best life.

Why Did My Ex Unfollow Me? 

It’s common relationship advice to unfollow your ex on social media after a breakup. If you continue to see your ex on your social media feed after they break up with you, it can bring back too many memories of the relationship and slow your breakup healing process.

If your ex unfollowed you, it’s because they don’t want to be reminded of the relationship anymore. Most likely, he doesn’t want to see you with another person, nor does he want you to see him with some other girl.

Of course it hurts to be unfollowed by someone you loved, especially if you didn’t want to break up and still miss them. Please realize it’s for the best not to continue being exposed to each other’s personal lives after a breakup. Any relationship coach would tell you the same.

No matter how much it hurts, if your ex unfollows you on social media, you should take this as a sign to leave them in the past. Focus on healing, improving your own life and eventually finding another person to date.   

Should I Still Be Friends With Someone Who Unfollowed Me?

There are plenty of examples of real-life friends who don’t follow each other on Facebook or other social media websites. This person could still turn out to be your best friend or partner after unfollowing you.

Did He Notice I Unfollowed Him?

None of the major social media platforms notify people about unfollows. So, he’d probably only notice if he was actively checking his followers list to see if you were still on it. If he does notice you unfollowed him, that surely means you’re at least somewhat important or interesting to him.  

Did He Unfollow Me For Attention: Any More Questions?

Thanks for reading my guide on being unfollowed. I hope you have a better idea of why it happened now. 

If you have any more questions about being unfollowed on social media, please do take a moment to leave them in the comments below. 

It means the world to hear from readers of this site – and it would be great to continue talking about this topic.

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About The Author

Bijan Kholghi is a certified life coach with the Milton Erickson Institute Heidelberg (Germany). He helps clients and couples reach breakthroughs in their lives by changing subconscious patterns. His solution-oriented approach is based on Systemic- and Hypnotherapy.